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I will post screenshots of a comment I read that encapsulates what I did to help rebuild my marriage with my life. Because I romance her, and we have sex 5/6 times a week our relationship is better than ever. Our communication improved.
No there's nothing wrong with her she's fine, I just didn't realize how much "purpose" I got out of pursuing relationships, meeting new girls, new families, new friend groups etc. And idk the whole sharing my life and "having to compromise" on everything and feel responsible for them and their wellbeing is really annoying, id rather not be so involved in all the details
Being with the same person all the time is just boring, we do different stuff together but it doesn't help much.
Yes yes have kids I know but that's a bit off cuz we're both young (early 20s)
Anyone else find settling down to be like the worst thing ever? Why did no one tell me this?
Is this a good way to make bank?
Basically I'm planning a trip with my gf in the summer and we're gonna go to a private beach somewhere in the pacific. Both of our bodies are at their absolute peaks, I'm like 190lbs lean at 6'2" with visible abs/pecs, and she's 100lbs at 5'3" and looks fantastic. Youth is fleeting and I know our looks will decline as we age, so I want to enjoy it now. Therefore we're most likely going to be nude the majority of the trip and having sex frequently.
I can shave my body hair but my skin is sensitive and gets razor bumps, on top of that the hair grows back quickly and gets uncomfortable to shave. My asshole area is also a little discolored which I hate aesthetically. My plan is to just get waxed and bleached before the trip so I don't have to worry about shaving as much.
Does this make me gay? Is this a bad plan?
I'm part of a cycling group, there's a big cyclist culture in my city with tons of tracks and cafès and such.
ZERO women, it's all dudes in tights.
I take evening art classes at two different schools a few times a week... Sometimes the only woman in the room is the model.
Where da women at??
I get out now, I'm fit and I have hobbies I enjoy, I'd still do them regardless of chicks being there but the fuck?
Been NEETing for 5 months now, savings aren't looking good so I applied to some job's. I'm 19, I've been this way for maybe 7-ish years.
Therapy is not an option. I've so far tried ; Working out, Drinking more water, Taking D, C, Iron, supplements, Lost 30kg, quitting masturbation, running
Nothing just seems to work, everything feels like a momentous task. I'm exhausted, life is not enjoyable, I'm not sad either, just permanently exhausted & bored. Thought about killing myself for years, decided to go 25 & then decide.
My son I would say is a pretty good baby and relatively easy going for a newborn but still I find myself frustrated with him when he won't sleep, and in the darkest hours when I just cannot seem to get it right, I find fleeting thoughts popping into my head; wishing we'd never had a kid, or that it was a huge mistake. I try to snap myself out of thinking like that because it makes me feel incredibly guilty.
I know the information and stuff, and I have the know-how to tinker around until I learn something. I got PowerPoint and started creating slides (check pic rel).
I don't want to spend too much time creating fancy slides, they don't have to be perfect, but I don't want the cheapest looking slides either.
I want to be as efficient as I can (i.e., create the fanciest looking slides with the least effort just so it doesn't look horrendous).
My custom made slides won't be printed, the students will just use the video to understand, and then they'll study from their actual course instructor's handouts. My slides just elaborate and as a "teleprompt" that I can use to instruct.
What can I do to make this work?
>suggest we do a daytime date, a walk through some Chinese gardens
>girl says she’s at work late and can’t
I go do my evening routine, go to gym, cook food, shower, get into bed
>girl messages me
>says she wants to meet up in the city for drinks at this bar
>agree
I don’t really want to because I hate loud bars but have work tomorrow so it’s my only chance to see her
>get into respectable clothes
>get Uber into city
>have to pay entry to get into the bar
>find the girl, she’s sitting at a table with 2 of her other female friends
>they’ve all just come from a concert and are talking about it with each other and I’m 4th wheeling straight off the bat
>girl says she wants to get drinks
>everyone goes up to the bar
>I hang back a step as she orders these dumb cocktail things for her friends, thinking I’ll get something for myself after they’ve ordered
>girl and friends step away and usher me forward, bartender has the card reader out with a $86 outstanding payment looking at me like I’m going to tap my card
>girl looks at me and mouths “is that okay?”
>tell her “I’m not paying for your fucking drinks” and walk out
Was I being an incel for rage quitting the date?
is there a way to fix this?
i grew up with internet since the early 2000s, there was no talk of how damaging it is
ive quit porn for months at a time but nothing changes
i dont get aroused by naked women anymore, my brain doesnt register the difference betwwen a human being murdered or a chicken being killed by a butcher (im not vegan)
i dont see women as anything more than cum dumps for men no matter how smart or talented they are
i completely understand im a loser pervert incel whatever
can it be fixed or im completely fucked?
I always thought I was doing the right thing by taking the high road but now Im realizing that perhaps I should be cold back?
The future looks dark for me, I wish i did many thing differently when i was 21
My soul has been burdened more than i can handle
Problems after problems, health, finance, unpaid bills, appliances breaking, no plans for the future
I have also been bombing interviews after interviews
But even after all of that, I do not feel anything. I do not feel sad, tired or depressed. l also do not feel motivation or being inspired to do anything. Nothing. I am just unbothered by everything. Is this a bad thing? Is there something wrong with me?
Like a small oven, shower, bathroom, fridge, etc with solar?
So far, my university experience hasn't been great. My GPA is satisfactory at best and I'm really struggling to involve myself in extracurriculars.
My parents are paying for my education and plan to give me a very large sum of money to help me establish myself after I graduate. I should be repaying them by excelling academically.
I think most of my problems are due to anxiety. I have crippling anxiety.
I skip most of my lectures and always end up with a few zeroes before catching up on my own and doing well on finals. This tanks my GPA. I end up with Bs, Cs, and the occasional D despite getting As on my finals.
As of right now, I'm a few weeks behind in all my classes.
I try to participate in extracurriculars but my anxiety often gets the better of me and I stop showing up. I really want to change this. So far, I only have my personal projects to put on my resume.
I'm diagnosed with adhd, an anxiety disorder, autism, persistent depressive disorder. I also frequently experience delusions, usually delusions of grandeur with strong religious undertones. When I experience delusions I often feel intense hatred towards my professors and, to a lesser degree, classmates.
Despite my poor mental health, I also have an iq of 135 (measured using wais-IV). That probably counts for something.
I see a psychiatrist but he doesn't listen to me and keeps prescribing me the same shit that doesn't work.
I am very lucky to have a close friend who's exceptionally social and has a very strong professional network. I have many opportunities to make more friends and network through him but I never make use of these opportunities. In fact, I purposefully isolate myself because of my anxiety.
This isn't as important, but I live pretty unhealthily and don't really know how to take care of myself. I'm told that I'm pretty decent looking but I'm destroying my body.
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.
>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard these days, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)
REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.
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Feel free to post your job-related questions ITT.
i have nothing to talk about to people
all i do is shit like watch youtube nontent
am i a retard? is there any hope? im so bored...
Being resistant to societal rules and norms has brought me nothing but pain.
Would be just so much easier to be a normie.
Why do I still resit?
pic unrelated.
But what am I not supposed to find annoying about people?
>self improve tremendously, get fit and start taking really good care of myself
>break up
>I want to fuck women 24/7
How do I get hookup sex. Im in college. The women I work with seem to enjoy taking to me. I admit im not the best looking but Im tan, fit, and have long hair I take good care of. My sex drive is going insane and I dont want the responsibility that comes with a serious relationship.
>he's nice and handsome but has mental issues he confides in me
>say "I can fix him"
>go through years of therapy and supporting him when he's jobless, he stays at my apt rent-free
>withstand a period of heavy verbal abuse and emotional disregulation
>eventually I do "fix him" and he's consistently normal
>get engaged, looking toward a future together, feeling happy
>he suddenly leaves me for someone else and goes no-contact when I try to talk to him
I haven't been able to sleep for the past week. My mind is searing 24/7, I can't see and have tunnel vision. When I try to sleep, my brain wakes me up after 30 min. I can't remember things and can't listen when people are talking to me. I am constantly flipping between hating him and desperately wanting him to call me and take me back.
Any faster way to recover from this? I know it will end eventually but right now I'm not even a sentient person. I have no friends or family to talk to, because I chose him over keeping up those relationships. I just go to work and go home to my empty apartment and seethe and want him to call me.
I HATE THE WAY THAT WHEN I TAKE THEM OFF I GET COMPLIMENTED ON HOW I LOOK.
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DOES ANY OF YOU KNOW ANYWAY OF IMPROVING EYE SIGHT.
I CAN SEE CLOSE BY BUT FAR AWAY I AM BLIND.
AND NO LASIK AS THAT IS JUST A WAY OF GETTING PERMANENT EYE DROUGHT AND ITCHING AND BURNING FOREVER.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NTV2S2OtrfM
There is nothing more that jews and their wagie cattle fear than you anon getting ahead in life, never forget that
> wife is 44, earns well (has a job in an international company)
> shared mortgage on a house
> three children below the age of 10
> married for 17 years, together for 20. Dead marriage. We don't even wear our rings.
> wife confesses to me before Valentine's day that she cheated on me twice last year. One guy (who knew she was married with children) "stole a kiss from her" during an encounter at a coffee shop, but she turned him down, blocking him everywhere after ending the contact, but with the second guy she met months after she ended up having an affair, sex included. The second guy was the one to end things, because he found out too late that she was still married and felt guilty about it. The affair lasted 2 months (I have proof hereof).
I am torn as to what the right choice in my case would be. Has any of you ever been in a similar situation or been witness to a similar case?
>Talking to a girl long distance for about 3 months
>Constant communication with her reaching out to me
>We both have off times coming up. She wants to see south east asia
>I want to get my open water dive certification so I offer to meet up with her
>She doesn’t say no, but says she doesn’t know where she will be on the exact dates
>Tell her “Cool, I am here from X day to Y day. Lmk if you want to meet.”
>Don’t reach out to her anymore after that
I get the impression she just wants attention or something of the sort now. I am focusing on this dive trip and ended up booking it somewhere she isn’t going to be, and instead found somewhere I think is going to be nice. What I don’t get though is the psychology behind this behavior.
It’s not the first time I have cut a woman off for this, however this time it was with the type of woman I did not think was going to do it. Trying to get the boys to come with for this trip which will be fun if it works out, but there is still that small question in the back of my head: Why are they like this?
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But I ended up in a relationship with a good girl who is not a hoe and wants to get married and start a family, I know I want those things too and we were good the first year of our relationship, but on this second year the boredom is setting in and despite my gf being very good to me sexually, its no match for my thoughts that I could, on any given weekend, hook up with as many novel faces as I wanted and basically indulge hard. I believe monogamy is right but it's very, very hard for me
No I haven't cheated or even looked at tinder and my gf has full access to my phone, yes I've told her I struggle with this but it's not like she's gonna give me a pass to fuck around (that also kills marriages btw) but im trying to find a way to lose this dumb sex obsessed mindset I have and actually desire monogamy the way I should
Im sure the incels will bark at me but surely there must be some other guys here who have gone through something similar. Can I repair my pair bonding ability?
You might ask why I'm a virgin in my 30s well Its mostly due to any time I'm around women I just get extremely anxious and freeze up uncontrollably. So how do I meet a woman before it's too late? Walking up to random people I think is 100% impossible for me.
Theres got to be someway right? I'll be optimistic instead of doomer. I think the only thing I want in life is a motherly loving girlfriend.
I'm starting to hate women but I want to think there are good women of there, I THINK SO.
How can I stop myself from hating them?
EGO and not get attached, if that's the only way, then it's disgusting
I came into this game with dreams of Lambos, moonshots, and generational wealth. The memes told me to HODL, the influencers and presidents swore we were early ESPECIALLY $LIBRA, and the Telegram chats convinced me that this time was different. I should’ve known better when my financial advice came these people.
It started with fwog. Then came mira. Then some coin called greed that promised "the dev wont sell" but rugged before I could even screenshot my portfolio. Every time I thought I hit the bottom, the floor got lower. Every dip wasn’t a dip—it was a free fall. "Buy the dip," they said. Well, I did. Then I bought the dip of the dip. And now, I am the dip.
memescope was my undoing. 50x, 100x—I was chasing green candles like they were salvation, but they turned out to be exit liquidity. The final liquidation notice wasn’t from pumpfun or phantom; it was from reality itself.
I sold my car. Then my furniture. Then, in a last act of desperation, my PlayStation. All for the dream of one day being called an "exit liq" in a Discord chat full of teenagers who are probably hedge fund interns. But the only role I’ve earned is retard.
So this is it. I leave my last few solana to the blockchain, my last unopened ledger to my ex who left when I turned our rent money into 0 because of $Libra, and my last words to whoever finds this:
Don’t trade memecoins. go get a normal job. I set up my rope I am ready.
Signed
james t
The fuck am I supposed to do about this? Like I said we still have a sex life but it SUCKS because it's hard for me to be emotionally invested in it when she's clearly checked out. Is it possible to course correct this or are we doomed to become two very different people?
>new discipline, new teacher
>absolute MILF with radiant smile
>fell under her spell
>dying to flirt with her but she has a giant engagement ring on her hand
What should I do? I don't really care that she is married but I don't want to create an unconfortable situation for her.
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>works at job for almost 2 years
>slowly becomes friends with girl
>qt red head, classic "I can fix her" type
>develops crush
>starts walking her out to her car every night to make sure she was alright and safe
>started wondering if this was creepy
>considers stoping
>asks her out
>gets rejected
>girl grows more and more cold towards me but we stay friends because we see each other everyday
>realizes after a bit of self reflection that this girl would have ruined me
>she starts warming up to me again
>fast forward a few months and male coworker says he started dating a new girl but won't give any details because "you'll judge me"
>alright.jpg
>find out after some prying that dudes girlfriend has same name as girl that rejected me
>bring this up to girl because in the past she found him disgusting for being on a hoe arc and treating women like trash
>she doesn't react the way she had in the past, now being very mellow instead of acting disgusted
>interesting.png
different co worker says that girl was in the other day and spent 3+ hours talking to him and hoe arc until building closed. co worker mentions how long she had been there and she said she was "waiting for [b]someone[/b] to watch her walk to her car to make sure she got there safe." He says it was very obvious she was talking about hoe arc and not him. He was trying to make me feel better about walking her to her car but basically just confirmed that this girl is dating a guy that's quit gross and that she said she couldn't understand how someone would fall for him.
I'm frustrated that I'm so devistated about this. We aren't dating. We never dated. And being real we probably won't ever date in the future. She's an adult and can do whatever and whoever she wants. So why am I so hung up about this? I haven't had any actual confirmation that they're dating but it seems like the logical conclusions.
Any advise for getting past this? I already work out and don't want to "just go fuck someone else"
>work 40 hours a week (really more like 50 because 1 hour commutes)
>can't cover rent and utilities on my own
>live with scizophrenic grandmother
>stupid mother who keeps giving horrible advice and has horrible ideas (who the fuck is going to hire an uber driver whose mother does the driving for him? what the fuck? fucking retard)
>dog is pissing blood and can't walk anymore
>family are a bunch of idiots who have no idea how they got their jobs
what do?
The thing is, though, I'm not a family member of the officer. I just want to embody her ideals and spread her message of truth and love.
I'm worried people will find it offensive. I have been considering the use of AI to help create supplemental material for the cause, and I wanted to maybe put miku onto the t-shirt with the officer. Is that okay? Should I contact the family first?
But anyway, about my mom, it goes all the way back to when I was a baby. My mom has always had huge breasts and a huge butt (like in that pic). And she had me when she was 16, so she was always (and still is) a really young mom. So she's extremely hot. They say you can't remember stuff grom when you were a baby but I vividly remember her breastfeeding me and enjoying it a lot. At that age I'm not quite sure if it was sexual attraction but I definitely enjoyed her curves. Her boobs were soft and her butt was soft.
For a very long time I thought these feelings were normal. It was not till I entered middle school till I realized I was insane when I hit puberty and started telling all the other kids about it. They were like "Jesus fucking Christ that's your mom man!"
When I realized these feelings were wrong though, I began to avoid my mom as much as I could. I did the same to my dad to not make it look like I was singling out just my mom. When she talked to me I would always avoid eye contact. And at this point I haven't seen my parents in person many, many years. I have only done voice calls.
For now all of this has been going well, but realistically I can't just avoid my mom forever. I feel bad about avoiding her, yet I think I'd feel even worst not being able to hid my sexual attraction to her. Even just looking at current day pictures of her I begin to blush really hard.
TELL ME HOW TO GET A GF RIGHT NOW
RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!
No one exploits my time and energy, that is solely reserved for shitposting and substance abuse.
If you haven't taken the neetpill, you don't understand game theory.
This is going to be autistic, but bear with me:
1. I befriended a person with an infamous history of online activity, everyone warned me about it, but I didn't listen. Everything was well, then a poor comment I made towards him caused issues between us; I tried to apologize immediately and, after being dragged through the dirt for 1.5 hours of humiliating myself, nothing was resolved. After realizing my mistake, I started hating this person.
2. Envy kind of fueled my hatred, as we are both of similar interests and communities. At one point I vented my frustration in one of those communities in hope someone could help me move on, thinking it wouldn't hurt to be open about it. But then people mistook my intentions into wanting to start drama and I got attacked a few times (by this one person as well). Every time I try to reach out for help on this, people attack me instead.
3. Every time I ask my friends, their solutions go along the lines of "just don't care". The problem is dumb and I'm aware, but I can't simply brush it off. It means something to me even thought I'd like it if that wasn't the case.
I think I made every mistake I could have possibly made in this situation and I don't know how I can get a resolve. I'm going to keep bumping into this person and I'm going to be reminded of my hatred and the mistakes I made, I want it to stop. I'm scared of talking about it because people are just going to keep attacking me, but I can't do this alone anymore, I don't know how to proceed, I don't know if I'm actually mistaking a hatred towards the guy as hatred towards myself for all the mistakes I made. Should I apologize to the guy even though he will keep attacking me regardless? Should I just accept that mistake were made and try to forgive myself? What should I do?
>incel
>last semester of college, but I effectively dropped out in second year since i'm putting 0 effort into it
>just rot on forums and goon all day
>plan on getting some shelf-stacker job after college and live with parents indefinitely, playing vidya in my free time
Is there anything actually wrong with my lifestyle?
>be me, 21, male
>high functioning autism and ADHD according to my doc's guesses, but OCD-esque symptoms
>Can not imagine dating anyone that doesn't 100% fit my requirements
>literally rationalize why these traits make them perfect to the extent of winning debates on it with a 140 IQ friend
>Hitting most of these requirements is easy, but the core issue is that the age range requirement is 16-17 (legal here)
I'll be 22 in 9 months, and with each year added, it's gonna get harder to find someone of that age range. I technically have a younger brother in that age range, but using him as leverage into finding someone seems hard considering he's not too social. Any advice on how to proceed?
i am a 23 yo female from socal and i have been like. heavily abused most my life. i was physically abused and molested by my dad from like birth to age 5, and i was abused online from 9 - 19 .. yes yes i know, logout, but i was young and this person genuinely had me in a cult situation . ive started recovering from it but holy fuck man it fucked me over so bad. i cant go outside without my mom, i cant talk to people , i panic constantly all of the time. im on antidepressants and they seem to be working well enough? but nothing i seem to do helps me. im so constantly afraid of being found by my abuser again. i was forced to stay home while being abused, i wasnt allowed to talk to anyone but my mom (sparingly ) and never really developed social skills. i never graduated highschool because i would freak out so badly being outside . therapy has not helped, i just talk about it and do not feel better, coping mechanisms do not work for me, the only thing that helps is my partner being there and calming me down but even then i cant do anything on my own. im also physically disabled, i have rheumatoid arthritis and unknown issues with my back that im working on figuring out but i cant do most work becsuse of how bad the pain id and being unable to do a lot. im also autistic idk where to mention that so its going here fr but. im trying to get ssi and its brrn such a long process , i have to rely on my mom for phone calls and appointments becaus ei just. cannot make call peopel or drive . i hate being like this and i just want to do better but nothing seems to work or help and i just ! dont know what.to do . sorry for sny spelling midtskes and such, my hands hehe, arent working well . idk man advice wouod be appreciated
I spend the whole secks time getting girls off through oral.
I feel like I am having sex like a lesbian.
This is really fucking with my head. I'm already insecure about losing my gf a couple years ago and I can't seem to find it in me to put effort into replacing her. I feel like I should have punched him in the face, but it's entirely possible that my other brother is gay so I feel bad for getting angry. He sent the group chat some meme being supportive of gay sons and I asked what his problem was. Then out of the blue my gay uncle starts following my instagram where I post random pictures and drawings, he's interacted on my instagram before so it seemed pretty repetitive and conspicuous.
I don't want to let it get to me but I feel really disrespected. I suspect that he, along with the other men in my family, feel insecure about my accomplishments and want to degrade me to feel better about themselves. It's hard to keep going without having the full esteem of my family but they are mostly marriage types so I guess they hold my bachelor status against me. How do I feel better about this?
My boyfriend is wasian, he’s chinese and white
I find asian men, especially chinese guys, really really attractive. I’m not entirely sure why, though I have a guess. This chinese guy had a crush on me in middle school, and he was such an amazing person, I honestly still kind of like him. Haven’t talked to him in years though, and he has a (chinese) girlfriend now.
I have so much fucking jealousy towards asian women holy shit haha. They just seem so effortlessly cute and I feel grossed out by my slavic nose and kinda deep set eyes. Seeing wmaf couples also makes me feel so inferior. How do I get over this? I can’t shake the feeling that my bf would rather have an asian gf. Currently the only way I cope is trying to be as cute and feminine as I can be but maybe I should try to lean into what makes me different from asian girls? Fuck idk. I wish I was asian but I know that’s racist! What do I do?
i'm copypastaing what i wrote in the other thread, so tell me where else i can go for a decent rate to know where i stand
>Husband has anger outbursts every now and again; manifests as broken stuff around the house and antagonizing me when I haven't done anything to him
>I've accepted these are a part of him and want to be supportive of him
>Me: Instinctively shuts down and becomes cold and distant even though he's told me time and time again that the outbursts are a cry for comfort
>Husband feels isolated and is convinced I don't care about him
How much longer do I have until my husband gets tired of me and either leaves me or kills himself
OR
>Go for history degree I like and learn coding myself to become codemonkey
I don't have any passions aside from sitting in front of a computer all day, all I have is a passing interest in history from reading. I know History has no jobs cause it doesn't teach you an employable skill but it would be fun to study and I could basically be NEET.
What I'm asking is: Should I suck it up and focus on something that makes money or focus on something I like doing? and if it would be possible to cheat the system and make big bucks selr studying coding anyway. I know CS is the easiest of STEM but still, it will be suffering, and I fear 4 years of studying something I don't particularly care for but can tolerate will mindbreak me.
Should i even try and improve my life and chase my dreams? or am i fucked in life?
I want to study law but got my IQ results and am depressed about it, I was always behind everyone else in school.
Is this good advice? Thinking of going for biology
>dumped her. took job (even tho i knew i would be miserable af)
>bitched to current boss over nothing during hypomanic nervous breakdown. basically got into arguments with everyone over anything
>complained about favoritism towards BHM over other history months even tho I didn't care and was just hypomanic bullshit
>started feeling better after smoking weed and running
>got basically confirmed for BD and awaiting to see doc to get meds, but see therapist daily.
>got back together with wife. i love her and she has been suportive
>havent been to work in 2 weeks
>I'm a first year teacher. been a fuck up since day 1
>i feel like a giant miserable faggot
>quit current job or are can i somehow returning without looking like a faggot?
I hit the gym 3 times a week, so i clearly take care of myself, i just need some advice.
I don't know if I will ever find someone who likes me, I'm shy, weak, small and boring.
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She moved back to her parent's house. The main thing was weed addiction. I broke the ultimatum she gave me, I smoked. But now I am ready to be sober all of my life, for myself and for her. She was unhappy through the whole relationship, but I do know she is a great woman and I only knew what I had when I lost. I have slight autism and I was emotionally neglected. I want to have a family with her. I also want her to be my first and last relationship, so if this does not work out I am living a life of asceticism.
The thing is, she started chatting with this 34 year old guy. (She's 18, I'm 24) They met for 3 days straight, it was around 2 weeks after our official breakup. This was all very recently.
During the 2nd date she stayed at his place, but for the night came home. During the 3rd she stayed for the night, and he gave her oral sex. She felt very bad afterwards, we met, did the usual, etc etc. The dude let her choose between two of us, and she chose me. But they still chat. Persistent fucker.
She is the kind of person to never lie, she tells me everything. She even lets me see her messages with him. He seems to always know what to say to make her feel good, and during these days she felt really good. He has the same "worldview" as her, shit like that. And he has a lot of experience with women. On the other hand she is literally my first relationship. Before her I lost my virginity to a Dutch hooker.
What do I do in this situation? I just have intuition this dude is just a rizzler, not someone that fits her. Moreover the dude is almost as old as her father. I feel like if she does lose feelings for me, she will hook up w/ him.
I am 99% sure the manager intentionally did not remind me because she doesn't like me. I'm also pretty sure the deadline has been the end of February for the past few years, but this year it was the 1st for some reason. I think she intentionally did not notify me of the new date so I can't renew.
Do I have any options here? I'm going to talk to the office tomorrow but I want to know if I have any recourse if they say I can't renew again. I really don't want to go apartment hunting right now.
I live in Nevada btw.
I also don't think I will live til retirement age. Should I just take my money out?
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I believe I want to move into the "acceptance" stage of my life but getting there is difficult for me. I can't seem to let go of my attitude of bitterness towards the world and obviously that isn't good for me or for anyone.
How exactly do you stop trying to improve and accept/be grateful for what you already have? How do you grow past bitterness, especially bitterness that results from social rehection/failure? How do you gain an attitude of gratitude and maintain it?
It turns out that Euthyphro is much more difficult, which left me feeling frustrated and anxious—especially about the rest of my course. The text introduces me to new concepts (such as eidos) through the translator's notes, and its paragraphs are dense, particularly in how they develop and explore the ideas presented. If I'm already struggling with an entry-level text, how will I possibly manage the rest of the course?
we both had a great time and were very communicative about how we felt the whole time but when i ended up in the bathroom by myself i noticed that my hands were covered in blood and my bedsheets have a few bloodstains here and there
i tried talking with her about it and she denied being on her period because she had them recently and found it strange
is it normal or should i be concerned for her?
also i didn’t want to have actual sex with her but at the start of it she put it inside and i did a few thrusts for 20seconds more or less
is there any risk of her getting pregnant
I'm 29, girls I usually pull are ~20-22.
The only feedback I've ever gotten was from a friend who said I have "Dad" energy. Like a father-figure of sorts.
I've always looked way older than my age (bears, white/grey hairs, my face in general) but that's not something I can help...
I want friendships but all I do is talk to anons
Do you just cut this shit out entirely or is it possible to watch YouTube like a normal person without getting attracted to the hot ones?
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>hotel reception
>gym reception
>mall security
>office worker
>warehouse worker
>cashier(supermarket)
>cashier(clothes shop)
>manual factory worker(for small local factory)
I had geniuine experience in
>manual factory work 1 year with one employer and 1.5 with another one
>office job(archivization) 6 months
>sales 6 months(my last job, got fired for not making enough sales, I stretched it to 1.5 years on my Cv to hide my NEET year)
My education:
>Vocational High School Diploma Chemical Technician(I tried to find job as chemical technician buy never worked in this profession)
Not a single employer even responded... Is my only option fucking Uber Eats?
What do I do going forward now that I’m a registered freak
I'm really fucking bored, though. In the sense that an edgy teenager would be: with everything.
Job is alright. It's boring, though. I feel like I'm faking a smile all the time.
Social life is alright. It's boring, though. I feel like I'm faking a smile all the time.
Games are alright. They're boring, though. At least I don't have to fake a smile all the time.
Any advice about what to do in...well...life? What I should do about the general boredom, plodding, "buttoning and unbuttoning" of it all? I'm not interested in relationships or sex. Never really "understood it" and just consider myself different from the vast majority of the population in that sense. So, something other than that.
Any advice about anything I should do before 40?
i've been seeing a woman whos 32 (im 34) and often times the topic comes up if her or i could still have kids at our age. she gets very sensitive about it because she thinks I'll break up with her if shes infertile.
>Engineering is 4760 hours compared to an average state university in the US' 1900 hours
>median time for finishing your degree in engineering is 8 years cause most have to slave away while studying
>All this to end up with a measly 400 usd salary a month (And that's supposedly good)
What's the fucking point of bothering with university in the turd world
I'm just gonna enroll in philosophy so I can NEET for 5 years
I'm also feeling more shy because the last time I thought a girl was into me at the gym and I asked if she was single she laughed and said no.
Also, thinking back to the first girl, I remember now I saw her leave a stationary bike to use the treadmill then when I moved onto the stationary bike after the treadmill she moved back onto a stationary bike near me. That's gotta mean something... I never really return to a piece of equipment twice in one workout.
I've only had 1 gf and that lasted 3 years and we broke up 1 year ago.
I had a woman friend a while ago that I liked so much I got jealous, mad and sad one day and decided I didn't want to see her anymore because she told me she didn't want a relationship with me and felt "uncomfotable" with me. After that I ended up fighting with a childhood friend, my mom and a whatsapp group full of boomers.
What the fuck is a man supposed to do at my age? I'm so lonely I feel like I'm going crazy...
But I'm not just angry, but also very frustrated, I have no friends IRL, I have no one to hang out with.
Even if I manage to go out somewhere, I always see people with someone and laughing.
I feel jealous and sad for not being able to at least talk without seeming weird.
My mother lies to me, saying that I'm pretty and cool, I didn't want it to be like that.
Her child is a failure, ugly, weird, autistic, unhappy...
I really wanted to be normal and I wanted to make my mother proud, not just her, but I wanted to make my family more comfortable, to give everyone a good life, but I'm not what they expected... and now I'm here on 4chan venting.
How do I change? I've always tried to change but it never works. I just want to be normal
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I have been miserable since day one. I mean utterly, totally miserable. No sleep, no energy, no free time at all whatsoever, always something needs doing, a meal needs cooking, a chore around the house, something to clean, something to buy from the shops etc. etc. The screaming, the crying for NO REASON at 3am, the messy shits, the pissing pants, the bumps and trips, the "NO!"s, the "daddy, daddy, daddy, daddy, daddy...", the refusing to eat, the endless coughs and sniffles. My wife and I can't even hold each other to sleep because our daughter insists that she lies between us. Won't even think about sleeping in her own bed. Haven't had a full night's sleep in 27 months. Everything is ultra-expensive, we both work full time and barely make ends meet. We get no time to be intimate, sex averages about once a month and that's on top of us being utterly shattered if we manage to find an occasion to be alone.
I love my daughter, I cherish her, I would give my life to protect her and I want what's best for her in all things, but my life is miserable. My wife is miserable too. We're miserable. I regret having a child.
Please, PLEASE, tell me when the fuck it becomes bearable.
>Wanna party
>Bad taste in men
>Like bad behavior
>Indecisive
>Insult you for not being man enough
Milfs:
>Love sex without strings attached
>Great at sex
>Bigger knockers
>Love to please
>Give you good life advice
>Appreciate you for being a good man
>Have money of their own
Older women are fuckin based, it's the young women that suck. A women in her 40s can look fucking amazing if she took care of herself
With me, especially the less fortunate people on incel.is which I’ve been banned from for posting about my neurotic and unstable ideas and posting too much. I want to kill myself because I’m horrible. Use a car and gas myself? Think of all the less fortunate people than myself, and I’m a first world failure with so many opportunities I didn’t deserve but got them because I’m evil and manipulative, I’m a spit in the face all the people less fortunate and should be burned at the stake
Yet, there’s this persistent thought in the back of my mind—what if I gave game development a real shot? Just one year to create something meaningful, something that others might enjoy. My parents don’t mind me staying since the house is big enough. In truth, the only reasons I have to keep going are my newfound faith and the simple fact that I’m a healthy man. If I hadn’t had this realization about Christianity, I would’ve gone through with it without hesitation.
Not going through with it 5 years ago didn't make my life better, except I'm just now finding god. Should I take a year to make games and see or end my suffering here and now?
What are some good ground rules to follow when trying to learn about something? The scientific method for sniffing out bullshit you might say.
Only catch?
Pay is pretty meh ($75k a year) and top end payout for a senior manager is also pretty meh (~$100k after 6-7 years).
Should I take it and travel the world?
Basically being a digital nomad.
I feel like I just can't take it anymore. I can't wake up and go to work anymore. I can't use 50%+ of my check every 2 weeks lost to bills. I can't work a job that causes me rage to just walk into the door to. I can't and don't care about people around me, or the country, or politics or anything of the sort. I don't care about becoming "successful" or a millionaire or anything like that. Things I used to enjoy I don't anymore, the illusion is gone. I could play a game, go hiking, ride my bike, but what's the point? It just tires me out and wastes my energy that I have to use to work. It feels like my time is always being wasted no matter what I'm doing, but when I have free time, I'm just bored, tired and don't enjoy much if I even do anything at all.
Things are only getting worse, prices always increase, the 'little guy' is always stomped on but never helped up. Scumbags in office every where you look, everything is a scam or a sham. People in general are disgusting and vile; my best of friends and gf are the only people I even want to talk to in life. Nothing ever gets better, just stays the same or gets worse.
I mean I just truly do not see the point of being alive? What is there to look forward to day by day? Year by year? You might argue if I have this outlook I should feel better about life because "nothing matters" and I can not worry about things and just enjoy it. But I don't because there is no goal, there's no purpose. I feel utterly static in life and I hate that I can't just willingly die on the spot because I'm just so tired of living. I have no will to fight and no care to do so even if I did. I'm just so tired.
My boyfriend has had some physical issues for years now; I’d hoped they would show improvement but they seem to be going the other way, and I’m tired of watching him suffer and being powerless to help. The worst is his skin- he’s got at least two long-term afflictions, namely psoriasis and eczema, and despite seeing numerous doctors and applying all sorts of salves these ailments linger and spread. He’s pretty self-conscious about it (his face is unaffected at least) and it’s expensive and frustrating. He seems to be always uncomfortable due to one skin problem or another. Is there anything I can convince him to do, a supplement or dietary change, that might help? He’s stubborn and generally averse to changes in his routine, including new pills and such, but I did recently get him taking Nigella sativa (“black seed oil”), which shows some evidence of helping with this stuff; in a case like his it would be a miracle if it cured him, but any improvement is worth it.
The skin issues have been rough on our lovemaking and pretty much forced me to take on new roles and seek new ways to please him (and myself); there has been some fun in the novelty but it’s not an ideal situation…
When I'm sober, I do not
Why is that?
>Also, how bring back picrel
Can anyone share the experience? Did he fuck you in the ass, how many times a week and did you get used to it
>My parents once told me that after a young woman had played with me for a while, I jumped out of my stroller and checked her ass, which they found hilarious.
>I would also masturbate in public and be preoccupied with relatives' breasts and feet.
>I also remember frequently telling some retarded kid who was always saying "mom" that his mom died. He would always cry after that and I found it absolutely hilarious.
>Apparently I would also involve other kids in twisted domination games. Provoking them and making them punish me, intimate wrestling, stepping on them and getting stepped on.
>Had werid fantasies about women, men, feet, armpits, incest, physical domination and imaginary siblings.
>Got a gf in preschool, though I didn't do any perverted shit to her. Had significant troubles with girls after elementary school.
>Never had a lot of friends. Mostly interacted with kids through play fighting. I would challenge everyone and enjoy hitting other. I would ususally win too. Still don't really have social skills, however I have some degree of social awareness. I can read social cues and usually act in a civilised manner.
>Most of my weird fantasies have stopped, but I still am drawn to submissiveness, feet and femdom. Thankfully, I am not gay.
I come from a loving family, even though my parents were kind of absent through my childhood. My mother was and is overprotective and my father is weak-willed, passive, dull and lazy, but both of them are doctors. I am also extremely academically gifted and did well in school with no serious effort. How did I get so fucked up? How do i fix it? How do I saly the beast?
>can't fall back asleep no matter what
>get up, go for a jog, eat something
>eyes have been bloodshot for ~5 hours now
I have places to be later in the day, how do I fix my eyes? Do I just take a nap or apply some sort of eye solution?
Has anyone else been to an escort and had a similar experience? Or is it just me?
We have the same goals, but she is argumentative and entitled on the way to get there. She was also the only girl who showed genuine interest in me first.
I figure I will die alone if I divorce because I am only getting older and uglier.
I hear so many horror stories like “my girlfriend has more experience than me and I’m mortified” and “my gf started cheating on me with another man” or “my boyfriend won’t talk to me because I won’t give him head”
I’ve been waiting for the right person to have sex with for the first time. It’s been a good 2 years since I’ve been in a relationship and I’ve had the privilege of having gfs without the intention of fucking them until A. Marriage or B. Engagement even if I think things like sexting is ok. People act like it’s the end of the world when they don’t get sex but the reality is a lot of what we’re into are really depraved and fetishistic, and I work around it by just jerking off. For the people that have sex there seems to be a lot of people that regret it, so does that make waiting for the right person really worth it? Any positive stories?
i learned to mask very well by the time i hit my 20s though thankfully Nowadays i have a lot more confidence and social adeptness so people like me and accept me. And i like that, my life is better than it ever was
But to this day I can't forgive how i was treated back then. I remember how cruel the kids were to me for being different. Il never forget my family thinking i was retarded and beyond help when i got diagnosed. Never forget my supposed friends finding out i was diagnosed and giving me shit. Or the adults who hated me when I was not socially astute as my peers.
Just this past week i had some girls who knew me since i was little and saw me at my cringiest moments give me a hug. When back then i remember her brother shoving me against a wall and her treating me like a leper. Just as an example. I know i was strange boy but sometimes I remember the sad little boy I was who cried because he used to not have any friends. And I get so fucking pissed at everyone around me, they never helped me when I was down just because i liked super mario a little too much and was shy of people.
it's influenced how i treat people. And whenever i start to trust people I remember how they treated me just because they could. Many times often the same people that inflicted the pain to me are still in my life and call themselves my friends and family. And it makes me sick and wanting to isolate from everybody.
Any advice...
Networking so far has been a bunch of asinine memorization about IP addresses and port numbers, with a fuckload of clunky virtual labs.
I actually prefer math and physics at least those empower creativity and problem solving, not just cramming my head with stuff that I could look up later.
I already paid for it but I'm full time at school and nearly full time at work
>21m
>sperg
>shut-in
>only 1 real friend that I only see a few times a year
>not a ton of interesting hobbies
>no life outside of waging and vidya
>not interesting
>rather bland, though not especially egregious
>attractive but no social skills are innate dominance to back it up
This is what I'm working with here. It's quite grim in comparison to what I see when I browse the social media accounts of people I went to highschool with and they're out living their lives, doing exciting ass shit and making unfrogetable memories.
>DDDUUUR social media is fake and nobody is actuawwy happy irl!!
I don't really give a shit whether it's genuine or not, point is people have much more dynamic and fun lives than I do and I want to be someone who others enjoy being around and want to invite me out to places. I'd rather not waste what little of my youth I have left shitposting to internet racists online and jacking my dick in my dimly lit bedroom
>it's february now, one whole month of being 20
>bored with life, excessively bored with life
>sex is boring, masturbation is boring, porn is boring.
>drugs are boring. nicotine is so boring i quit it back in october after five years of addiction. weed is boring, i want some right now because i don't have any but its boring even when i'm high.
>food is boring. it just hurts my stomach and doesn't taste that good.
>life in general is boring, no job, nearly no job opportunistic. I got an interview offer, the first since May 2024, for a warehouse position at large_international_corporation... on the other side of the city. Is it really worth spending $7 a day to take the bus to get to the other side of the city to work a difficult and otherwise unrewarding job?
>People will say "yeah it pays the bills" but honestly I think I'd rather slowly choke to death in a noose in a dingy stinky basement than anything near that ever again.
>I have tried to go temping before. I sat in their office for an hour at 5 in the morning and they still didn't have work for me, at that point I decided to just not.
>Why the hell do I, a native citizen of a first world nation whose never committed a crime, have to live like a third world citizen whose raped and killed a million people? No idea, but people will say it's fair so let's just let it slide and pray that it doesn't end up happening to (You) and your beloved.
>I hate her/get turned off when she likes me back
>yet I'm always crying 'no gf'
Can I break this cycle and just accept love?
Why tf do I act like this?