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Should I call the police on my "family member" for smoking weed? I'm in Texas. We live in the same house. I fucking hate them and would gladly get rid of them
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Books on overcoming femdom/cuck fetishes
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I saw someone recommend a book on this before but I lost the name. Any good books on the subject that you are aware of?

Not interested in "just accept yourself." I really think a lot of this stems from childhood issues that affect you. I can speak to this because my interest in fetishes is a lot lower now after having done a fair bit of inner work over the last little while. I personally am only into femdom - no cuck stuff - but ik they come from a similar set of problems so good books on either could probably be beneficial.
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/atoga/ - Ask The Opposite Gender Anything
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ITT We ask the opposite gender (almost!) anything.

This a thread for questions and answers. If what you're posting is not a reply to another anon, it *MUST* be in the form of a question. This is NOT the place for blog posts! (Seriously, take that shit to Plebbit where it belongs!)

The following are also not allowed, because they are against /adv/ rules:
- NSFW images.
- Posting personal details, or pictures of yourself.
- Racism (only allowed on /b/).
- Trolling, ragebaiting, pretending to be retarded, etc. (again, only allowed on /b/).

Note, however, that there is also an ATOGA thread on /soc/ - if you feel the need to post toonme images or contact details then try there.

The following are technically allowed, but there are better places to post them, and they're considered off-topic here:
- Politics (take it to /pol/).
- Gender wars or incel rants (take them to /r9k/).
- Discussion of LGBT issues (try /lgbt/!).
- Miscellaneous ranting and venting. (Elsewhere on /adv/ there is a thread called GIOYC - Get It Off Your Chest - which is the place for that).

If you have a technical, scientific, medical, or legal question, then you certainly *can* post it here, but you're more likely to get a useful response if you start your own separate thread.

Please help to make this thread better by REPORTING all off-topic, low quality, or rule-breaking posts that you see!

And please don't start new threads until the old one either hits its image limit or is on page 7.

Previously on ATOGA: >>32914050
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How do I get over the fact that I'll never be able to make a living off my creative endeavors and that I'll need to work a "real job" to survive?
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Erectile Dysfunction
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I cannot get hard and I'm not sure if it's due to all the depraved porn that I've watched or if I damaged my dick by masturbating too much and I caused myself a venous leak

I quit porn and I'm doing Nofap. Also I am doing kegels too. But I won't lie anons I'm a bit scared. I've never been able to have proper sex because I couldn't get hard. I went soft in seconds
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People think I'm a girl because of how I look and how my voice sounds, but I'm not. I can't do much for my voice afaik, but I was wondering if there were some tips to look more masculine you guys could give me? I've got short hair and I'm pretty fit because I run a lot.
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Why should I involve women in my life?
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Without women my life is very simple and straightforward. I have a good group of friends, I have plenty of time for work, and I have plenty of time for hobbies. I save a great deal of money and make a lot of progress in various goals I want to achieve. I am very happy and fulfilled living like this.

Adding women into this makes my life infinitely more complex, not complex in a way that is satisfying, but in a way that is frustrating. They are obnoxious, childish, nagging, cause all sorts of headaches and annoyances, and all for what, sex? I mean it's good but it's not worth what you lose.

All of my previous relationships have ended up like this. Women just take up way too much time and energy, they take away your free time and they take away your freedom. Am I autistic or something?
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Is the (US) Army as bad as people say it is? I can't find a job even with experience and a degree, so I figured I'd try my luck in the military and see how it does. I looked into it myself and found non-combat jobs, so I figured I'd do that. Would anyone recommend it or give any general advice?
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Am I doing something wrong
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>List restaurants I want to go to
>He'll think about it
>Friend mentions that restaurant once
>He wants to go
>Talks about concert
>He says maybe
>Friend brings up same concert
>We go, even without friend
>Say I want to go to Japan
>He sits on it for 2 years
>Friends say they're going now he wants to go
>I say I'm not interested
>His friends will probably go to karaoke bars and drink all day
>We eat dinner silently

Anons, am I doing something wrong? I've asked about this pattern repeatedly and he just laughs about it. Dating for 5 years and I still don't understand this man. His friends are also gay and have TDS so a trip with them would be tolerable at best and at the worse I lose my shit at them.
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Asked on fit but ofc fit fag mods delete my post for no reason so i gotta ask here
Hurt my back almost 10 years ago when i was a teenager, almost mid 20s now and just had an unrelated surgery. Right before surgery my back actually fixed itself. A month has passed since my surgery and i can now finally workout. I have broad shoulders and a very broad chest, what excercises do i do to get rid of this girly hourglass shape?
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Talking In Groups of 3 or More
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When chatting with more than one other person, the other two tend to talk to each other for about 90% of the time.

This is because the other two know each other better and can form a natural conversation. I only interject when there's a pause of more than a couple of seconds, because otherwise I end up speaking at the same time as someone else and I think it's rude to talk over someone.

This leads to people describing me as "autistically quiet" or "a ghost of a human being," which makes me feel bad and start saying things that are embarrassingly uninsightul or unfunny just to avoid those labels.
But it's also true that I am more reserved than the average person.

I'm looking to improve my presence in these situations, and I see the following as tools to use:

1. Talk for as long as possible when I get the chance

2. Interrupt when I have something I'd really like to say

3. Talk in a loud and confident manner

4. Use more tonal range, facial expressions, gestures, laughter, emotion

5. Take better mental notes to build a better understanding of these people and connect details from earlier to the current topic to show I'm interested in learning about them

6. If someone calls me quiet, casually accept it and explain that I'm still learning about what they like to talk about

7. Garner a reputation for things I do so that people feel familiar with me before talking to me

8. If I don't know what to say at an interjection point, always fill the silence with a clarifying question and before they can answer it talk at length about why I'm interested to know, restate my understanding up to the point of the question, and talk about the consequences of what possible answers would be

9. Build a deep understanding of a few different interesting topics and direct the conversation towards that


Do these look good? I have trouble doing each of these for various reasons, but I'm trying.
Anything you would change or add?
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>NEET for basically entire life
>no high school or college education
>dropped out of school in 9th grade
>never worked
>have left house maybe 6 times in past 15 years
>0 social skills
>never had a face to face interaction with someone my own age throughout my teens and 20s
>5'7”
>never had a job
>can't drive
>never had friends
>parents are broke so I won't inherit anything
>no skills
>never exercised in my entire life
>Epilepsy
>intense fear of owls. Went to therapy for it (not cured)
>have had probably fewer than 10 irl interactions within the past 20 years
How do I get out of this? I've literally just played video games since dropping out of high school when I was 15. It was pretty fun but my parents' money is running out. How hard are 6 figure jobs to get?
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Is it too late to start a family at 60? Im 58 now and I want kids before i die
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How to lose weight as a fat faggot with a desk job? Gained like 80 lbs and bf is into fat fags but i want to kms. Starved myself before but I need to work so can't do that. Job is too demanding I never manage to properly keep up with gym and diet isn't doing much... Is it over for me?
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I don't know what to make of this woman behavior
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So I've been looksmaxxing a lot, I am short (5 7) so a lot of this effort is likely fruitless but I still have to try and generally when I interact with women directly they are very smiley and polite and engaging but I do this thing where I don't look at any of them if I'm in a public setting like a starbucks/the gym/etc etc and just mind my own business hardcore blinders on basically. I'm not a teenager anymore , I'm in my mid twenties and I know wasted effort when I see it, when I observe the young guys , you can tell when they're interested pretty easily , they quite often make regular glances thinking they are being sly but its so obvious lol. They are young so its all good.

But I don't believe in giving women a lick of stray attention cause frankly they don't need it from me. But I do find when its a girl and her girlfriends they tend to gravitate their "tables"/groups around me , I can overhear their conversations (I can't see them) and they tend to do this weird "IDK..hahaha...something something about the topic...other weird noises/loud laughing" as if trying to get attention and the weirdest part and this is what trips me / makes me write this...the conversation more than a few times has devolved into "ewww" and unless ewww is super common phrase for the latest zoomer crop of girls , I can't help but feel like I'm the only common denominator and they are mocking me.

But are they fucking testing me or trying to get my attention? To see if I'll budge or break?

I'm trying to see if I should take this behavior as a win (even if it ends in a loss because it ends in them mocking me cause they don't get what they want) that I'm on the radar for even a little bit now

Or is this a catastrophic loss that I will never be seen as a viable match because groupthink prevails...
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Where do young females typically congregate? I’m 19 so trying to find a 17 year old girlfriend so I can experience teen love before I turn 20 and it becomes weird. I’m an incel due to severe autism but I’ve been told I’m a 7/10 by Discord friends so my plot is to walk around these places for hours everyday, I am bound to get asked out without having to pursue a female myself. I’ve checked local malls and Targets but it’s all just fucking soccer moms shopping with their 10 year olds even on the weekends.
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I woke up very horny about Asian women today. Where can I meet mature real Asian women, I am not looking for western born ones, I crave the real deal not phonies. I live in northern California one hour away from Sacramento. Tell me any useful data and tips about them. I love how most of them look facially so don't worry about me reccomending me any place, I find most of them hot. I am also taller than pretty much all so I guess this might help if they care about that. I am not arab, asia, black, or white so what are my chances with getting with them, I must admit I look a bit Asiatic so would that help.
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At a crossroads in life
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28 years old, wagefagged at a grocery store for the last 11 years in a small town. The pays really good for what it is, I made 50k cad last year, with benefits and a pension, but the job is getting harder and harder and I've been trying to move on, especially the last year. Despite expanding my search to the nearest big city I've only gotten one interview in the past six months. I have a meme degree (sociology) but no debt or anything. I have 120k saved, should I just give up and buy a condo or something? Housing is cheap out here, or is there some job that I could get into easily that I'm just not seeing, not sure what to do.
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how do i get submissives as a financial dominatrix?
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what the fuck happened
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>be me
>hanging out with lesbian friend who is going through a "what am i" phase because she broke up with her she/they ass girlfriend
>she's on my couch, i'm like "hey, come a bit closer"
>she's cute but is extremely liberal and we've argued over politics before, probably wouldn't make a good couple because of it. she's also extremely social justice minded but is extremely patient and open minded with me even when we've had disagreements
>she sits behind me and begins playing with my hair, i touch her feet, her legs, lean back against her
>i decide to be spontaneous and kiss the back of her hand
>she doesn't mind it, i play it off as a joke
>she continues playing with my hair
>"you know, i really only see you as a friend right?"
>"h-haha yeah of course"
>she kisses the top of my head
>wtf.jpeg
I don't really know what happened. Should I try to do something again? I think it was just a completely spontaneous thing and I don't really know if we'd make a good couple. I just think she's kinda hot and she's also very patient/affectionate with me. It was also surreal because I haven't been held like that in 7 years.
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my father is threatening to evict me if I get a gun
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There's a rough area close to my apartment complex and there are constant excursions of drunk Mexicans into the surrounding areas.

I can't count on my neighbors, since it's mostly Indians who will not call 911 because they fear charges.

I live in an apartment complex and my parents pay the rent. I am 19, clean record and not on any psycho-active medications.

Can they legally evict me on basis of me owing a gun?

Silicon valley territorially.
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How long can I survive with no water? I've had 1 bottle yesterday and 1 bottle today. I feel weak and tired. Sitting up is a drag now. How painful is this death?
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I reached out to my Ex
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You know I reached out to her out of the blue kinda, it has been nearly 8 months since we broke up and I started no contact with her. I was trying to move on from her over that time and did a lot of inner and external work to get over her. Then someone close to me died out of the blue and it made me spiral in my head like what if it happened to her? So I reached out. At first she sounded excited to meet up then was like "not sure it's the right time..." which yeah I understand because I did it out the blue and its been so long.

In hindsight I definitely should've reached out WAY WAY sooner. Like at most 1-3 months. The funny thing is over the course of this week I was trying to suppress the feeling of excitement I had of meeting her again. Told myself it was just going to be a cool meetup and that I wouldn't care too much or be phased, but after receiving that text I'm just feeling it all well up again. Not nearly as strongly as the initial heartbreak, but my chest feels hot pressure. When we broke up she asked me to stay in her life because she was going through some stuff. I wish I had back then.
Anyways this is a good learning experience for me I think, in the future reach out a week or two after the breakup instead of going cold for 8 months. Or alternatively maybe I don't reach out to my ex.

But man moving on is hard, I did so much over the last few months and I feel like over the course of 2 weeks I set myself back significantly. How did you guys move on from your exes? Can you ever truly forget? Or at least find happiness again?
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get out of birthday invitation
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someone in my shared house (im at college)has invited me to his birthday party in his friend from homes house and theres going to be drinking, partying, etc.
the problem is i reaaaallly dont want to go.
anybody have any good things to say to get out of it without seeming like a dick?
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How do I learn to play the piano?
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I want to learn how to play the piano. I just bought one, and I'm currently figuring out where to start. I don't want a teacher, and I would love to learn classical music from the beginning rather than starting with popular songs, as I find them annoying. I don’t know how to read sheet music or anything related to music.

So, if you were learning the piano from scratch without any prior experience, how would you go about it?
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Why is it so hard for me to connect to people? No matter how hard I try, I just can’t seem to find somewhere I belong. Am I just mentally broken? I always get a faint feeling that other people don’t want me to be near them. Why is my life just a constant stream of rejection and disappointment? What should I do?
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the treacherous triple text
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i was friends with a girl a couple of years ago during my freshman year, but we haven't really talked much lately due to busyness so i was wanting to reconnect. i shot her a text asking if she wanted to meet up and have coffee: no response. i tried texting her again a few weeks later, same thing happened. should i try again bros? i see her playing games on steam all the time so i know she gotta be seeing that shit. i didn't even do anything to warrant her ghosting.
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How to leave and get a life
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I'm a newfag myself and I don't know if the site was always this bad, but the majority of the boards (if not the site as a whole) are basically just demoralization/doomerism, spam, ragebait, mockery/cynicism and porn all day. I'm at a low point in life, I don't have any friends, I've always been a bit alienated from my family and never strived for some sort of greater goal. I guess I'm yearning for some sense of fulfillment and community but I don't know how to do so, and this way I already spent 6 years here. What do you advice for me to do besides killing myself?
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debating getting back into escorts
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Hello, its been about a year almost to the date since ive had sex. In fact its been about that long since ive had any real physical contact either. Like most people, especially those that have felt another person, i crave it. A lot. I feel much better when i am with someone physically to the point where it almost feels like a transcending experience. Where i turn from subhuman to human. This is the longest ive gone without sex since i started seeing them, six years ago. I realized over time i have slowly turned more and more into the person i was when i was a virgin and never saw an escort. Im pissed off and awkward around women unless its in a professional setting, i am anxious as hell about anything physical. Like even the idea of a hug gets my heart racing fast. It really feels like my virginity reset itself.I also feel disgusted at the idea of ever doing it with someone and actually feel both disgust and embarrassment at the idea of hitting on a woman. Like the idea of me having those wants is actually embarrassing.

I dont see myself being able to get a girlfriend. Like not only because of how shit the dating market is now, but also how shit i am before things got messed up. Theres a ton of very uncomfortable feelings associated with all of this and i just dont see myself, at nearly 30, fixing it all and it mattering. I should have fixed it ten years ago. When it mattered.

I look at the prices and sometimes wonder if i should use that money, which is between $400-$800, and go on vacation. I mean is an hour long experience that makes me feel good for a month worth that?
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my girlfriend and i have zero intimacy
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i don't really have anyone irl to talk to this about, so bear with me. i'll try to lay out the situation and my feelings as best i can. advice on how to move forward would be appreciated.

i have been with my girlfriend since november 2022. we are both in college and about the same amount of busy (which isn't much to begin with). things started out great -- we made out a lot, had a lot of sexytalk, and had non-penetrative sex. she was always showing me new lingerie she bought or talking about things she wanted to do with me during sex, all that kind of stuff. life was good.

and then a few months after we started dating, she just... slowly phased all of that out. she stopped wanting to make out with me, she stopped doing any sort of intimate thing with me nearly full stop after like 5 months in. at this point, it's been around 2 years since we did anything even remotely spicy. for a long time, i had copium about it because i didn't realize that this was about to be a long term thing, and i kept telling myself that certainly, my girlfriend will want to do SOMETHING with me any day now. i have pretty much long since given up on that.
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Is it possible to get a gf through dating apps?
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Is it worthwhile to date if I essentially have no life outside of work?
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Bible Study Thread
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interpretations, questions, and the pieces of advice that helped you and why

Ill start

was the Ethiopian eunuch a sigma male?
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Living aroun blacks ruining my day
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How do I stop this really? I immediately just feel utter annoyance and contempt for when I see a trio of young nigs at malls, being loud and obnoxious, wearing disgusting nigger clothing. I have nothing but contempt for them. My university is full to the brim with them so it's very annoying. I don't like crowds in general, but I feel way better when it's a crowd of whites instead.
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/htgwg/ - How to Get Women General #294
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>What is /htgwg/?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.

>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard these days, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!

>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.

>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)

REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.

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chad
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how do i become chad?
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im 33 years old and started playing with AI last night, it eventually lead me to generate a story about being in high school and getting a girlfriend and hanging out with friends as a teenager with no responsibilities. then i went to sleep that night and had a dream about being a teenager again and woke up realizing I’m 33 years old and NEET now and never experienced any of that even as a teenager because i dropped out? how do i cope with missing out on such an iconic and fundamental period of life?
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what are my chances of getting a girlfriend if I’m a 27 year old NEET, virgin, no friends, Norwood 3, 5’6, but I’m essentially rich? i make six figures yearly basically from passive income, in 2024 i made a lot more than simply six figures. all my expenses are covered so all this money goes directly to me. can i attract gold-diggers?
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I'm a 24yo virgin in just over a month
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Where the fuck do I even go from here?

How am I supposed to live knowing that i'm almost a quarter of a century old and not a single woman has ever liked me enough to be my gf or even just sleep with me?

Am I just meant to continue accepting this? Because to me this is almost a declaration of war by women.

The anger, desperation and agony are growing increasingly by the day. I'm in my final year of university but I gave up on it completely, gave up on submitting assignments, haven't touched my final year project since last year and i'm ignoring my supervisor's emails.
I just can't sit there looking at fucking code knowing that i'm about to be a 24yo virgin.
Holy shit holy is this even possible
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What to do when you have no passion for anything in your life?
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I feel like I really don't care about doing anything in my life. Like, the only things that I do now are working, helping my parents, watching Youtube, revising the same media that I have consumed before and satisfying my basic biological needs like eating or jerking off. I could be satisfied by all that, yet I can't help but feel empty, lost and sometimes frustrated a little bit.

It's just that it's 27th year of my life and I haven't done shit. I don't care about the usual stuff like money, GFs, sex, creating a family, pursuing a career, getting some material shit like a house or a car, but there's nothing else that would ring a bell in me. Hell, I can't even boast about the amount of movies, series, cartoons, anime, vidiya or any other media that I've consumed because my list of these is pretty thin.

In terms of arts, crafts and any other skills and abilities, I have none beside reading things quickly and writing long texts like this OP-post. There were some attempts at drawing and programming but they haven't last very long because my general interest in these things was low. I've read a load about many things that I could do at my home with a computer as well as about many other things, but nothing really made me just go and do this or that. Even as a kid I haven't done anything in particular beside playing with my toys, watching TV, reading books and doodling stuff, so I have no points of reference in my past that I could use now nor do I have any right now.

So what can I even do about? I was supposed to sort this shit in my school years or even earlier, but not now being a grown-ass adult.
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Dark Alpha
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In this thread we'll discuss how to not only dominate women, but to control them properly.

First rule: Never let women choose, make choices for them so that they follow you with less hesitation.
Second rule: Power perceived is power achieved. You're never weak and everything you achieve is done behind the closed doors. Never let them enter your real world.

Let's talk about these.

This thread is not for weak men who think being kind and funny is a positive trait for sexual attraction. Goes without saying this thread is also not for actual women, fuck off.
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Should I fail 12th grade to make friends?
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We have 13 grades here. Hs is grade 10-13. I changed schools at the end of 11th yearand had to repeat it. I spent a whole year not speaking at all and just rushed home to play vidya and smoke weed. I regret it A LOT now so I've been trying to talk with my classmates to catch up on hs life but it's clearly futile cuz I already established myself a weirdo. My plan is to fail this grade so I can meet new people and try to make friends. I dread the adult life and work anyway and this is my only hope. I will be 21 by the time I graduate but thats not so unusual because there are high schools with 5 grades where you graduate as a 20yo.
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I'm 5'2 but I'm still 18, is there anything I can do to clutch up?
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How do I stop fetishisising japanese girls? It's to the point I would only want a Japanese gf
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Gift for parents
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I've been an ungrateful piece of shit for the majority of my life, and despite health issues being the major cause of it, I have overcome said issues and am beyond remorseful for my actions regardless of my ignorance and lack of conscientiousness. I love them deeply and have been an embarrassing and pathetic son despite doing my best to fix the issues. I've never been happier in life nor more driven, and want to make it up to them. Material goods don't seem suitable, or almost too easy of an approach.
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/g/ will not answer my question so I am asking here
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Is there any way to see a previous iteration of a webpage? Youtube for instance. Sometimes I will wake my computer up, go to the youtube tab and hit refresh. After I hit refresh I see a video that looks interesting, but once it refreshes it is gone and I can't recall enough info to find it again. Is there a way to go back to the previous instance?
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I hate people. Should I becone a hermit?
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I think everyone is fucking stupid and a lot of things I have done in the past (binge drinking, making bad health decisions, etc...) has been the result of me being stupid as fuck, and also being influenced by stupid fucks. I'm TIRED OF MAKING STUPID FUCKING DECISIONS. I regret binge drinking, partying a lot, and destroying my body.

I'm honestly thinking of cutting ties with all my friends and family, and getting a dog. Is this a good idea?
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Gaining confidence as a man?
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As a man, I feel very lacking in confidence. I don't really understand what me as a man can even do about it. Like where does every other man gain confidence from? This especially makes it hard for me to date. To me, women have all the power in dating and I have to sort of bend to whatever the woman wants if I wanted to date. As a man, I don't understand what advantage(if any) that I have when it comes to dating for the advantages don't feel like advantages. I have no desire to plan the date but would probably plan it because the woman basically demands it. So all the things I have to do are basically just because the woman demands it. Like what am I missing in regards to confidence and dating and whatever the man is supposed to be doing in regards to that? Any advice would help but it honestly just feels like its hard to address personally.
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how can i get this girl out of my mind?
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it's been years since i fallen in love with my friend and i don't even know why, she is a 4/10, we are close but we don't talk or spend time together that much.
And yet every time i know she will be in ours hangouts it instantly enlightens my day and makes me eager to be there. Am i stupid?
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Gf hurts during sex
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Trying to play it cool, but my girlfriend told me today that she's been feeling really sore in the cootch after sex, and all the next day. We have a great and satisfying relationship, like honestly it's been wonderful. She's taking pains to not make it seem like I did anything wrong or am inadequate or something - she just said for a while she wasn't certain if it was my size being too much, not using enough lube or what - but when we've been together longer she's isolated that it is in fact the roughness/intensity/friction of the sex that is doing it.

I don't really know how to respond. I have often had trouble cumming if I am not going fast, but to be honest I had never considered my average pace of sex "rough". To be fair, I had only really had experience with hook-ups, casual situations, and then not very long relationships. Me and my girl have been together a long while now, but I guess I'll have to relearn sex. I barely ever masturbate anymore, maybe 1-2 times a month - sometimes more sometimes a bit less. She had suggested maybe I had the "death grip" problem, which I may have in the past but I'm not sure that's it when I barely ever jerk off anymore.

I trust her and don't want to hurt her at all, so this has kinda blindsided me a bit. She's being very careful and considerate in how she's put it to me, tells me she still wants to have sex but that the constant soreness/pain had been making her avoidant of intimacy lately and she was nervous to bring it up. I'm going to be understanding about it - but it is pretty big change. I don't really know what to do to help, I guess I have to embrace some awkwardness and discomfort going forward and try to work on being able to cum with "gentler" or slower sex.
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how to fuck RMT
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>be me
>tallfag
>have bad back
>used to be okay looking before I got chubby
>go to see RMT regularly to fix my fucked back
>she's hot redhead, big tits, like picrel
>first appointment
>flip over to finish
>open my eyes to try to get a look at her tits as she's standing right over me
>I think she noticed, seemed to be mad, appointment is over
>I start losing weight
>at the end of next appointment she gives me a slight jaw/scalp massage unprompted, has never happened before
>tell her it feels good because I always have a slight headache from laying face down on the massage chair (which is true)
>she says she'll make a note of it
>next appointment
>it's been a little while, I am probably in the best shape of my life now
>she is complimenting me on my progress
>her normal massage room is in use
>the other massage table is smaller
>flip over to finish
>have to lay with my knees bent because tallfag and small table
>my cock is pressing against the sheet but I'm not hard
>she does a scalp/jaw massage again
>it is different this time
>she is running her fingers through my hair, playing with it, tapping with her fingers softly on my face, touching my ears
>boner.jpg
>my cock is twitching every time she does anything, I'm trying to think about baseball
>she just keeps going
>we go overtime
>she is definitely sitting at an angle where she can see everything
>at the end she did the move from our first appointment where her tits are right over my face
>it seems like she is leaning especially far forward and holding it for a long time
>almost like giving me a chance to look
>her face is definitely close to my hard cock
>she does it twice
>I don't want to open my eyes in case I'm wrong
>she tells me in the softest, sexiest voice I've ever heard from her that the appointment is over and smiles at me
Am I just imagining things? I know RMTs are used to this shit and there is an innocent explanation but it felt so intentional. Can I potentially take things to the next level?
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What are some ways to make sure my bf stays with me forever that don't involve pregnancy? I'm willing to do anything,
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How do I get over my guilt?
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I made some stupid mistakes in my past. I said things that I cant take back and I hate that I said them. They cost me recently and I just want to move on with my life without dwelling on it.
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Is it cope that people look uglier in pictures than in the mirror?
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What do you do when you really like a girl who's sweet to you but she has weird, small tits and no ass? How do I degoon my brain and appreciate what I have?
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Is there a cure for social anxiety?
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It’s sabotaged everything for me. Every crush, every woman I’ve wanted to flirt with, the social tension just chokes me and I tense up and stutter and can only say boring things.

Not only that but being in social situations makes me feel like I have a very limited amount of energy and need to get out of there. I get tired so quickly. When I’m relaxed I can be so quick witted and funny.

I’m good looking but my lack of social skills ruins everything for me. I expose myself to people everyday, work, uni and friend arrangements but no matter how much i expose myself to them I always dread them and I always find myself feeling genuine fear, and become a nervous stuttery boring mess. I constantly feel guilty for some reason after every human interaction. I could have so much fun and build such meaningful relationships if I could just let go of this because it’s stopped me from becoming intimate with anyone.

Is there a way to fix this? What’s wrong with me? What caused this?
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No motivation for college and life
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I’m on a full-ride scholarship to a 60-80k a year university. You think that would be enough, yet I haven’t shown up to any lectures in over a month.

What do I need to find motivation and purpose? CS major, second year. All I do is goon and vidya all day. My roommate thinks I’m a ghost, and my family knows I’m a loser.

The answer is right in front of me, just fucking push through. Yet I’m not even halfway, and I already collapsed. I tried the whole “high-quality fat and protein”, “touching grass/going outside”, “no fap/stop vidya”, etc.. It doesn’t matter. I relapse within a month or two.

I need some serious truthpill about my situation. Do I switch majors? (obviously, I’m not interested in this shit).
How tf do I find purpose in life? Something to motivate me. I’m tired all the time. I honestly don’t see myself being alive in 5 years. I hate that I was coddled and spoiled my whole life. I’m just tired of everything.
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Whining about life Part 3
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Back with part 3 and just finished up with my 5th interview for this company. Now I'm waiting for the final decision. I feel sick about this, like it could make or break my whole life. If I get this then I'm gold and I can just use it as my career but if I don't I think this might be my last chance to make something of myself. It's not worth it to live as a bottom tier cuck, not a life I want to have ever. My anxiety is through the roof with this.
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Regretting decisions
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How many of you guys made decisions you thought was right to just end up regretting it later. Recently left gf
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How to hang on through Lent
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Hey /adv/, I made a promise to God that if He helped a close family member who was dealing with a serious medical emergency, I would give up porn for lent. Since I have a porn addiction I have been unable to break, this was a significant promise.

Well, it's less than three full weeks into Lent, and I am struggling hard. I am irritable, depressed, and constantly feel like I'm on the verge of breaking.

Does anybody have any tips on how to push through this? I know this probably sounds quite pathetic, however I really am having a hard time.
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Will I get a woman who will love me if I get the body on the right?
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what am i SUPPOSED to do with mental problems?
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like, simple question, but i never really thought about it. say you have brain issues. say you want to... break glass dishes. obviously, this isn't helpful, so we don't break those dishes. what do we do now? it's not polite to express loudly i want to break dishes, so we don't do that either. should i mention to people politely? we could say "hey, i'm really itching to smash a plate right now, haha. i won't though." that would bother people too. is the best thing to pretend we are as normal as possible? isn't that a bit like lying? they'll smell something off, anyway, so isn't it probably best to explain the reason and be calm and polite from there?
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Escorts
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I need to lose virginity, are escorts good enough or will they try to make me cum in a minute and tell me to fuck off, so that I learn nothing while paying a lot?
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telegram registration
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I tried to register on telegram with my phone, it says the code was sent to the telegram app on my other device, but I don't have one. When I tap on "Didn't receive a verification code?" and "Help" in the app, it say the action cannot be performed by any app. I've sent 2 e-mails in my native language and 1 in english to them about this and also pasted it into some form on their website but i haven't gotten a single reply. What do?
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How to get gf?
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How do I do nofap and stick with it?
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I'll never have a girlfriend.
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Why do I have more fun alone? Is it sustainable to just be alone for the rest of my life besides obviously using 4chan for my social needs?
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How do I become more articulate?
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More funny, wittt, charming. To come up with jokes on the spot. Between close friends I can do it great but with others i tense up and I struggle to get sentences out, to the point where they have to finish my sentences.

I recognise this as a big part of getting women. Being looser, more casual and naturally witty. Whenever I’m talking to a woman i find halfway attractive it’s like I just lock up.

Is there a fix for this?
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i don't really want to go to my aunts marriage party, i just wanna stay home and watch some movie or whatever, how do i stop feeling guilty about people maybe assuming wrong things about me not attending?
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The police keep communicating with me on here.
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Like they will post things from my life that have happened recently or tell me in the hospital to tweet at kash patel.
I don’t know what to do. I feel that all my actions are rightfully and righteously executed.
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I have no clue in what i should do ??
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>Do make a career change or continue on forward??.
Im a marine technician im 24 years old , but i had to move to another town , im struggling to find a good job with benefits and healthcare.
The employers here are also starting me at $15 an hour since they are much stricter and require more experience.

Should i just find another career or start all over again with an entry level wage.
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How to be attractive
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22 good with makeup 5’4 223 pounds actively going to the gym and making progress, big boobs, big butt slim waist. Not the best dressed,can’t style hair will also take attitude tips. I want men to look at me and find me attractive. How can i get a bf
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Chud to chad
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How do I do it? 25
I’m 5’8 about 270 pounds
What can I do, to appeal to women more.
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>Be my ex.
>Calls me late at night, claims she forgot her wallet, can't afford a ride home after work. Asks if I can pick her up.
>I reluctantly drive to pick her up. We're still "friends," in some vague, unresolved way. I don’t love her anymore, but I still care about her.
>Awkward silence fills most of the ride.
>She breaks it "Are you seeing someone?"
>No.
>I ask if she is.
>"No, but I’ve fucked 2 few guys on the side." Nothing important or serious, they are not important for me.
>Say nothing, grip the wheel. She's not mine anymore and ive no right to express my hurt
>She shifts, moves closer. Hand on my hair.
>"Stop." I say
>She insists. I pull over. "Stop."
>Suddenly, a meltdown, tears, accusations. "Why don’t you want me mo more? Am I ugly? Am I fat?"
>then the emotional blackmail, "i didn’t need a ride. I just wanted to see you, to “fix” things."

And yet, she's oblivious to the words she just said. Oblivious to how she admitted letting other men use her holes and cum into her, then expected me to take her back, like none of it mattered?

I mean how am I supposed to want her after that? It's disgusting. And ironic, she left because I was "boring," because she wanted something different. Now, suddenly, I’m the one she wants back? I dropped her outside her apartment and blocked her number.
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Finding a job
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If I ghosted my previous two workplaces is it even worth putting them on my application? The three year time gap just makes it look worse.
If I have put in my application multiple times, will they notice if they change my strat?
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I'm thinking of racemixing with a brown girl because we've been together for 2 years now, talk some sense into me so that I don't actually follow through this stupid shit
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i want to be able to cry again. I want to feel tears How do I achieve this?
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How do I attract alt girls? I'm talking highlighter around the eyes, long eyelashes, wears baggy pants and shirts, basically something like pic related.
I'm 22 myself, but I can't relate to my own generation. I listen to 70s/80s metal, so should I dress like Lemmy and go to alt clubs?
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Woman of adv post qualities that a man should have.
Examples: Money
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The moment I realized women don't give a fuck about 99.99% of men is when I knew it was over. Is hedonism the only cope out there? Absolutely evil and ugly world we live in.
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Help
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I was given three phones yesterday which I was going to sell, but today I turned the phone on the left on (Samsung Galaxy A55) and I heard multiple distorted laughs coming from the phone for a few seconds before stopping. No apps were open on the phone, it has no sim card and it wasn't connected to the internet. I picked up the nokia phone on the right and I heard the distorted laughter coming from that as well. There is nothing else in my house making noise. I need advice on what to do.
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steam ban
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Last 3 years I've focused on nothing but steam. 4 days ago I had the memory of 8 years ago where my friend and I scammed counter strike skins for a week. I only remember us succeeding a few times, for a total of maybe $20. I happened to remember this all last week, and ever since i've been very very anxious about getting a trade ban. It's so extreme that I feel really blindsighted about my life. It was good a month ago, all my compulsions would go on in the back of my mind, and there wasn't much anxiety involved. Focusing on steam has been good for me overall, since in the past it was with my stomach, -and I would focus on the physical symptoms of it. It was a health anxiety scare, where I would focus on a dull pain in my stomach, excrutiating because of the dull pain along with the anxiety of a medical emergency. At least with steam I'm not going to countless doctors, but the trade ban scare brings the same anxiety i had with my stomach. I know this is just an outlet for things going on in my life, but checking to see if I got a trade ban is wrecking me. In a month I know it'll be good again, though just in the midst of it right now. Will I get trade banned?
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Give me ideas to feel a little better.
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My GF broke up with me and I got blindsided by it...
I want advice on how to deal with this grueling pain I'm feeling right now, fuck...
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girl problems
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there is this girl ive been friends with since late 2022, early 2023 or so. pretty smart girl but has chronic depression and can be very hard to read at times. around a year ago in summer I got very drunk and confessed to her over text. she said she has felt the same way since we started talking. only issue is that I had a girlfriend at the time (we were on a break), she found out, and we broke up a few months later. i cut her off because of that.

one of her friends was trying to ragebait me after me cutting her off because she felt like she was "fucked over". i said some not so nice things and she was pretty mad. even talked to my friend about what happened.

flash forward to now, i was thinking about her a lot and decided to friend her again on disc. she said she was shocked that i even added her back. turns out she got crossfaded every night to cope and i said all my apologies to her. she definitely wants to be friends again (we were super close, borderline boyfriend and girlfriend, but we were not flirtatious or sexual, just super close). she said she eventually stopped liking me after she did it enough times.

this will probably be horrible of me to ask, but do you think there is a chance she might like me again? should i even be friends with her? i've got an anxiety disorder and what i said was not what i believe. she said she can see her building all her trust back as well. she's not the type to have crushes at all (she's only had a crush on maybe 3 people in her 19 years of life), and she's said "idk" to the question, so i was curious what /adv/ thinks, lol.
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I didn't know chocolate had a shit ton of fiber in it.

I've been eating a ton of chocolate over the past week and my turds have been huge and hard to pass.

Like so hard to pass that they rip my anus and cause me to bleed and then clog the toilet.

Huge bricks of turds.

How do I fix this? How do I get nice soft small stools again?
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Girlfriend lied about her past
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I had zero sexual experiences before her, which is why it was important for me to know her past. She had one boyfriend, with whom she initially told me she had only had oral sex three times in total. Due to coincidence and suspicions she wasn't telling me everything, she admitted after months that she had actually swallowed his sperm multiple times.
Sexually, this is the worst possible thing they could have done. Morally, I value honesty above almost everything else.
I am on the verge of breaking up, but I hesitate. Please advise.
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I'm a fucking annoying loser. I invited someone to a concert and she is "still thinking about it" meaning that she won't come. This is the smaller thing, but my friend was invited to her birthday party that's today and I wasn't. And I noticed that every single one of my classmates hates me. And I'm also the weirdo of my family. How do I stop this? My disgusting appearance plays a large part in it also, but I just radiate loser energy. How the fuck can I not be a loser in university after I leave this shit place. (I'm older than 18 pls don't take this down)
I hate going to school because of this.
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This is the golden age that you are living through right now anons
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Humanity has never had it better. Haven't you guys heard? Jews are losing bigly and we are winning, in fact we have already won and everything is great now. Patriots are in control.

If you aren't living a joyous, prosperous and fulfilling life it's a YOU problem.
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Is discovering your own sexuality way too early a red flag for anything in particular? Thr first time I remember being molested was years later. Was my abuse actually worse than I remember?
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What are the best ways to handle fear?
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I'm not gay. I just don't care about sex and I never really bothered trying to get a gf. I just focus on my hobbies and stuff.

Everyone in my family has assumed it to be truth that I'm gay. We're Christian, so they've been treating me like shit and trying to get me to pray the (nonexistant) gay away.

I've stopped talking to my folks and moved out. They still contact me every few weeks to remind me the gay lifestyle is a sin (and ignore anything I say about not being gay).

Asixe from having to deal with a woman, because I do not have the patience for that shit, how can I get them off my back about this? I'd rather not completely cut ties with my family but that's my next step.
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My 2+ year break up has left me essentially crippled
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My memories worse. I randomly burst into tears. I have no motivation for anything. There's other things, but I can't remember (heh)

What I'm getting at, is that there's so many shitty guides on how to get over an ex, but why aren't people more honest about the reality that there are people like who slip through the cracks and never recover? I wish I was told this earlier instead of trying to cope with therapy improving myself at the gym etc
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Where to find masculine men?
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None of the guys at my college give off the masculine vibe if you know what I mean. Most of them are skinny timid skellys afraid to even approach a girl. When I even tried talking to some of them they started blushing and stuttering. They're basically women.
Where do I find real masculine men?
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Art school mightve been a mistake
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Let me start by saying I am a second year art student studying printmaking to become a comic artist, Ive made a couple of friends there and so far im enjoying my studies. Then there's a colleague in my printmaking class that likes to verbally bully me/insult me and treat me like shit, and I try to ignore her and be civil so i dont cause drama but like a typical bully I always overhear her talking shit behind peoples back and I am 100% sure she has talked behind my back about me and my friends. She also makes me paranoid because she has been snooping through my stuff and as well as stealing materials. Ironically, Tim Burton is her favorite artist who is known for making movies that teaches us not to bully weirdos (like me).
How would you deal with this type of colleague at college?
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Self-improvement and change
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>Be me
>Shy and introverted
>Avoidant attachment
>Social skills not very good
>Bitter with "pessimistic" (realistic) thoughts
>Few friends
>Loneliness problems
>Excluded from groups of friends from childhood
>Bullied
>Nerd
>First boyfriend at 17 who was a jealous jerk (only boyfriend you've ever had, now you have minor traumas, at least you got over the relationship)
>Your jealous ex-boyfriend excluded you from your high school Friends group and he stay in it.
>Your friends said you have no character.

I'm 18 years old. How do I overcome that and help me feel a little more fulfilled?
I want to improve my character, to be better. Also if you could give me tips for flirting I would really appreciate it! I have a crush and I would like to get close to him.
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"Fuck Timmy gon do" situation and I'm Timmy =[
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So here’s the situation. I’ve been playing the long game with this girl in my class. She’s got that quiet, celestial energy. We’ve been building a really solid rapport all semester talking after lectures, trading notes, laughing at obscure references. I didn’t want to rush anything. I’ve been doing it right. Being respectful. Listening. Actually giving a damn about her opinions. I genuinely vibe with her.

Enter the problem: a new challenger has appeared. Dude started up just after spring break and is going full speedrun Any% Romance category. Loud, always making unfunny jokes that she has to force laughs for. I didn't know he had already gotten her number until she kept zoning out to reply to him when we were chatting.

So, /adv/ fellow scholars of the game and humble knights of unspoken feels: how do I course-correct here? Is there a way to remind her of the genuine connection we’ve been building without coming off jealous or petty? How do I win, I don't want to be the Timmy who just lets whatever happen, the line must be drawn here
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I haven't lied to my bf, but I haven't been fully up front about stuff either.

I'm bisexual, and my ex is a lesbian who still bothers me a lot to try to get back together. She hates men, and the fact I'm with a guy right now is driving her insane.

My bf knows I have an ex but he assumed it was a guy and I didn't want to have the bisexual talk since a lot of people take it the wrong way when I tell them I'm bi and think I'm like a nympho or something.

My ex introduced herself as my "friend" and my bf let her into our place. I got home from work and the talk when I saw her there was a little tense but I didn't call her out directly in front of my bf, and I think my bf caught on something was up since he went pretty quiet where he's normally chatty.

Should I tell him everything or would it be better to just try to bury the history and keep my involvement with this woman vague?
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Guys im being bullied... I dont know what to do. He is always picking on me and insulting me, even going as far as pushing me and insulting my cat who died of cancer. ive asked all of my teachers but they wont do anything. what do i do?
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hello, my son expressed interest in drinking, hes 15. can anyone recommend me a good starting beer for him?
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>Be me
>Work at hotel
>See all the cute couples checking in for the night
>Know they will all fuck
>Imagine every single one of them, as I'm alone at the reception forced to be overly friendly with all of them
Everyone gets laid and has sex except for me and I'm not even ugly, just psychologically abused

I hate it so much. How do I get out of this hole?
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do women think that irl far right activism is hot
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How can I convince my co-workers to form a union?

>Working 6 1/2 days a week
>12+ hours a day
>company keeps saying they are going to hire
>never do
>basically lying to us
>everyone is burned out
>get yelled at by clients daily due to 2+ hold times
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how to stop being emotionally independent?
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i've been with this girl a few months now and shes expressed to her concerns with feeling "useless" because I dont get needy with her or show my emotional side

she laid out some very clear expectations
>she wants man who will text her when hes having a bad day or sad/angry/upset about something
>she wants a man who will depend on her to have his emotional needs met
>she wants a man to tell her things he could never tell anyone else (family, friends etc)
>she belives its her job to do things for the man because its what he wants her to do regardless of how she feels

She admitted to me that she often talks about a guy friend i know just to see if it will make me angry, because she feels its the only time that I show that I "care" about her is when I tell her not to talk to other men or when I force her to go places with me.

How can I learn to be more dependent and vunerable with this girl? i like her otherwise and we have been getting along and both want to have a family someday, and I really want this to work out
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Is it better to work for a temp agency or be fully employed at a single company?

Why or why not?
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How do I accept that I'm never going to be famous? It's not a social media thing so don't tell me to get off TikTok, I don't even have TikTok. I have an obsession with creating something successful and popular. Tell me how to move on
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>unsatisfying dead-end spreadsheet job i'm probably getting laid off from soon
>no friends
>have never really had them
>can't connect with people, just scare people/make them uncomfortable
>boring. life is full of either being bullied or being alone
>not particularly attached to anything after parent's death
do i just blow my last 12k and have a fun month then hop in a suicide pod or something? i'm so tired. what are the ethics behind not suiciding if i'm miserable and nobody will miss me, literally?
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/atoga/ - Ask The Opposite Gender Anything
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ITT We ask the opposite gender (almost!) anything.

This a thread for questions and answers. If what you're posting is not a reply to another anon, it *MUST* be in the form of a question. This is NOT the place for blog posts! (Seriously, take that shit to Plebbit where it belongs!)

The following are also not allowed, because they are against /adv/ rules:
- NSFW images.
- Posting personal details, or pictures of yourself.
- Racism (only allowed on /b/).
- Trolling, ragebaiting, pretending to be retarded, etc. (again, only allowed on /b/).

Note, however, that there is also an ATOGA thread on /soc/ - if you feel the need to post toonme images or contact details then try there.

The following are technically allowed, but there are better places to post them, and they're considered off-topic here:
- Politics (take it to /pol/).
- Gender wars or incel rants (take them to /r9k/).
- Discussion of LGBT issues (try /lgbt/!).
- Miscellaneous ranting and venting. (Elsewhere on /adv/ there is a thread called GIOYC - Get It Off Your Chest - which is the place for that).

If you have a technical, scientific, medical, or legal question, then you certainly *can* post it here, but you're more likely to get a useful response if you start your own separate thread.

Please help to make this thread better by REPORTING all off-topic, low quality, or rule-breaking posts that you see!

And please don't start new threads until the old one either hits its image limit or is on page 7.

Previously on ATOGA: >>32911539
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How much prozac and alcohol do I need to take to kill myself? I worry I may not have enough left over to do it.
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I can´t feel empathy, and I´m afraid of it
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I don't feel empathy through feelings, but for reasoning. I've been refining my pattern analysis, and from there, I've learned to some extent how to please. I think I can't establish deeper relationships beyond those of childhood precisely because of this: without others realizing it, it's as if they don't feel my emotional availability. There's sympathy, but it's hollow and calculated. I, on the other hand, feel the need to have people close to me, but not to fight or worry about them. Deep down, it terrifies me that I don't really have a compass to interact with others. I've been creating mental schemes based on patterns, but whenever a behavior or situation changes, I feel helpless because I can't complement it with that empathetic side, like others do. I can lose shyness, but empathy isn't something you can obtain without being born with the capacity for it. I've also realized over time how important it is for the values and rules of a society to be complemented precisely by feelings and their reflection in others, otherwise they'll be disrespected and we'll simply be unable to live with each other. When ideas clash and debate doesn't reach satisfactory conclusions, all that's left is to combine respect with empathy and not wish ill on others or silence/exclude them for not fitting our vision or the majority's. In my case, I know I can feel any emotion inside me, but if I can't feel spontaneous and genuine happiness for others, then all that's left is what I feel in response to their reactions to what I say or do. If I feel good about it, great, but if it's negative, there's no balance coming from an empathetic perspective: the management of anger or sadness has to be controlled in the worst moments by external forces: music, movies, books, walks, inspiring phrases, etc. My fear is wheter or not there comes a day when all that won´t be enough for me to keep finding enjoyment in living or don´t do some horrible mistake agaisnt someone else and pay for it »»»
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How do get out of a stress death spiral?
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I bailed on my old job as I needed more money to get out of a stressful situation, the problem is I never had enough time between job to go back to being baseline okay and haven't been at the new job long enough to fix my situation.

Because of the stress I'm making weird mistake at the new job that are things someone of my experience should absolutely not be doing (and never have up until now) and don't even realise I've done it until it gets pointed out to me later. After the first minor error my new boss has been on my case about every single little thing now (most of which is just shit she seems to be making up on the spot), this is constantly increasing my stress and anxiety levels to the point I'm squirming in my bed every night thinking about it all. I honestly don't know what to do, I've never been someone that got stressed about anything until the last year and now its just so out of control I feel like I'm headed for a breakdown.
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>100 applications
>0 interviews
>200 applications
>0 interviews
>500 applications
>0 interviews
we have a situation here guys. What's the next move?
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How to advertise guitar lessons
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Hello,

Im a guitar teacher. I’m moving to the Bay Area soon and I’m hoping to make a living there by teaching guitar and playing wedding gigs and stuff. How do I best advertise my services? It’s important that I start working as soon as possible once I move there because I’m poor as shit. Anyone know a good place to hang up flyers, or a good online community to shill myself in?
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How do I stop viewing women as sex objects? It doesn't matter if she is a slut or well accomplished. She could discover a cure for cancer and I would still view her a sex object. A very smart sex object, but a sex object all the same.
How do I stop this mindset?
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>meet new girls
>they never show interest in me, always chose my friends
>doesn't matter how I act
>"Hey maybe the right one is just around the corner!"
>She never is
>Fail at job interviews and internships
>Only success is in uni, but no one cares about that lets be honest
>"It will get better!"
>Instead start bleeding out my ass
>Thought about going to the doctor
>"Eh why bother"
>just wondering if its a haemorrhoid or asscancer
>This was an year ago
What is some advice?
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Are condoms + the pill enough to prevent unwanted pregnancy?
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No libido
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Im a healthy 25 year old man with 0 libido. I have abstained from porn and masturbation, exercise regularly, eat healthy, and talked to a doctor, who says its likely mental, as i had dealt with a relationship that gave me a negative feeling towards sex but that relationship ended months ago. What can i do to fix this? Ive tried maca, meditation, better sleep, nothing seems to work.
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What are you meant to do if you're a shy man, nervous around women and don't really have the social skills to talk to people
I don't think I'm ugly but people seem to think I'm weird and I avoid others for that reason
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You know how some job applications have that "voluntary information" section?

That section where they ask what race you are, your ethnicity, what gender you are, and whether or not you're a veteran?

Does that have any impact on whether a hiring manager is going to consider my application?

ANY impact at all?
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Public speaking anxiety
Rod-Serling
Title says it all. Public speaking gives me more anxiety than anything else in the world; its my greatest fear. I thought about joining my local toastmasters club but I have a scheduling conflict with their weekly meeting. Apart from just practising, does anyone have public speaking tips? Is the cure really just propanolol? Does anyone have experience taking it? My nerves get so bad I stutter and shake, I feel pathetic.
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I was at work the other day, and one of my co-workers told me she had hired a young lady who claimed to be related to me. Noted me by name and that she knew I worked there. This was very odd, because I have no relatives in my state of residence. I asked her name and I was unfamiliar with it. Apparently she commented on my working there and about what a "hard worker" I am. The thing is, I have a pretty uncommon name, so the chances it's mistaken are low. I caught a glimpse of her in training and have no idea who that person is.

What could be going on? I'm kind of scared to meet this lady.
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Deal breakers in dating
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If your date or online match asks you "What are your top deal breaker questions?", what would your responses be?

A big one for me is trying to maintain cooperative attitudes towards arguments, so I'd ask if the other person is onboard with making this a value in our relationship.

I feel "willing to be vulnerable" is theoretically a deal breaker of mine, but it seems like such a stupid question because only 1 girl out of maybe 50 I've dated has told me that she would never want to be vulnerable with her partner.

I've got more, but discuss.
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The male mind
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Is there a way to subtlety break a man’s ego? To completely get control of him? Make him solely rely on you? Fuck up his decision making? Anything to manipulate a man so very subtlety specifically a very emotional one. How can I ruin his life. (Not in a romantic relationship) I want him broken to the point he can’t function without me
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Are there any places I can just endlessly complain online? R9k used to be good for that but it's pretty much porn now.

I have the worst life in the world there's no fixing it and I don't care. I just want to scream in a void until I do the thing.
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Second Job
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I'm a wage slave earning £21000 per year and it's just not enough to get me going in life after taxes, rent, and other deductions.

What is a good second job in the UK? I don't mind being a 24/7 slave at this point. I just need more money.
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drillz
Sometimes, not all the time, but at times, I feel unlovable and inadequate due to my psoriasis and vitiligo, also, others just never seem to have faith in me and always right me off, always getting stared at and looked at weird my entire life. How do I stop feeling like that? It pops up at seemingly the worst possible times, and now I just have to deal with feeling like that. I have hobbies, I work out, I try to do my best, and I'm normally very confident in myself and my abilities, but sometimes, especially since no one other than me has faith in me, and I constantly get other'd, it just becomes too much and I start second guessing myself. How do I get a fucking grip?
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Will dressing like these guys help me land a gf? Half the women i find attractive end up around one of these men anyway
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I genuinely don't know if I love my wife anymore.
helly and mark run
My mother was apparently told by her grandmother to "not marry who you love, marry who loves you". After years of dating bitchy women who didn't respect me, I settled down with my wife who is madly, completely and unreasonably in love with me. And I gotta be honest: I don't really get her. And I'm not really sure that I'm happy like this.

I feel like throughout my life the women I'm actually attracted to have never been interested in me. Like, at all. Basically I am an actual autistic nerd who looks like some guy who's been to jail. I've been told I'm rather gruff and scary looking, muscular, bald, tons of scars all over from working hard jobs my whole life. My hobbies are all autistic shit: video games, anime, tv and movies, spending hours on X and YouTube, making YouTube videos, fixing/building things etc. But I also enjoy a lot of fitness things too. For whatever reason, I just look like my wife's dream husband.

I genuinely don't understand what she sees in me. Why she is so convinced we are meant to be together. Why she wants to have my kids and raise them. She has all the ideal traits one should want from a wife: fiercely loyal, extremely loving, caring, has sex almost whenever I initiate. The sex is good, probably the best thing about our relationship. I just don't really, "like" her. We have basically no shared interests at all. She can't even figure out how to play a video game. Anything animated at all she immediately doesn't understand and assumes is for kids, I have cried watching animated films several times. As a grown ass man. And again, I'm the type of guy other guys are scared of.
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Im in an age gap relationship with a 35 year old woman, im 27 years old. Can any anons give me some advice regarding this? Is this okay? She defenitley wants kids and she comes from a good upperclass backround compared to me. The thing is i feel like in at least 2 years shez gonna want me to move out of my place with her and start a family... there no way ill be able to support her as im a literal manchild with 0 life savings. What do i do? Break up with her now or wait till shes nagging ar me to move out with her and become a dad.
Also for refrence my last gf i dated for 5 years and we had a kid anx after 2 years of raising August (i named him) we took a pat test and it turns out he wasnt my kid and then she left me and never let me see him again. I read that as a sign from ol g-d to keep playing rock and roll forever but now a new challenger woman appears... im worried if i dont listen to god ill be punished and ill regret bei g a family man instead of trying as hard as i can to become a semi successful musician.
Pic rel is the lady in question
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Dysfunctional Family
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How do you cope with this? I look at other families who share love between eachother and go out and do stuff together like going on holidays and I just get upset that I never had a good upbringing. I'm unskilled and have no preparedness for the world, and I am emotionally unhealthy and I blame that on my parents. Like, what do I even do? I can't get a girlfriend because I don't have any skills and couldn't love her. I can't buy a house because of that. What the fuck should I do?
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is it even possible to be normal if you are a dicklet?
lifes hell
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Unfair Professor
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I’m struggling with an unfair grading situation in my architecture course, and I could really use some advice.

My professor hasn’t been helpful throughout the project. For example, I was supposed to draw a sectional system and followed a template he provided. Later, he told me it wasn’t enough, but when I asked what was missing, he said he didn’t know.

He also seems to favor certain students. One student who was sick over the holidays was allowed an extended deadline, while I was told extensions were only given in “exceptional cases” based on his judgment.

On top of that, he scheduled a meeting with me to review my project and grade, but it turned out he had an exam to supervise at the same time. I waited in the room, checking in occasionally, but after the exam, he just left without speaking to me. He also ignored my follow-up email.

Now, he has given me an unfairly low grade, and I don’t know what to do. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? What are my options?
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Antipsychotics
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I recently started taking antipsychotic (Risperidone) and i went from never sleeping to hardly waking up and doing simple chores. I searched about "risperidone and sleeping" and I didn't find anything about sleeping in it. Everytime i fall asleep so fast and never wanna wake up. And it started being so hard. I also used to go jogging everyday but since depression started i stopped. The last time i went jogging it was the only time i went jogging while taking antipsychotics and because it make the heart rate faster I almost fainted at the market. Is sleeping a lot a side effect in risperidone? What should i do?
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is having a gf a symbol of status?
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>two new girls at work
>one super fat and masculine
>one cute
>fat one expresses interest in me
>I flat out shoot her down
>kinda like the other one and I see her looking at me everytime I'm around
>just got rejected two times recently so I still feel a bit raw
>afraid I'll look like an asshole for rejecting fat girl and going for other one
>still want to
>barely have even talked to other girl so far
>probably doesn't even like me and it's just my imagination
>start to feel like I'm like the fat girl from most girl's perspective
>super demoralized
I don't know what to do. I feel like time is running out and I already am making a bad impression on the new girl that I like. I want her and I don't want to fuck it up. What should I do?
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Glenn Beck This Morning:
Trying to survive
Intro monolog about stealing & theft. as justified by DEI and/or "Just getting by" in life.

I'll admit: I do it. not for luxury or DEI. I only steal things of actual, nessesary and lasting value & investment. I don't steal fashion, junk food, recreational items or electronics. I steal fruit trees, fruit bushes, tomato & pepper plants. I used to buy & pay for them, up until about 2 years ago. I kept buying & planting trees for our orchard. despite irrigation, soil ammendment & proper planting; I was losing about 1/3 of what we planted. similar but different for the garden plants. we seed start, but our climate is harsh & unforgiving. we have had some tragic die offs due to not-so-uncommon-anymore "freak" weather & temperature flows.

It started after I tried to exchange 2 trees that had a 1 year live guarantee. I had receipts & all proof they said they require, including digging & bringing the trees. when the store Mgr would not honor it.... the rest has become history.

we live WAY the fuck out here, are poor despite working 40+hrs week at a paying job, then farming on evenings and weekends for supplimental food & calories. the trees are obviously not producing now, they are an "investment" in our future food security. we raise and buther rabbits, ducks & sheep for our meat and trade.

we live paycheck to paycheck, hand to mouth. we have the basics: farm truck & wifemobile (40 years old combined) a roof over our heads, water, sewage & tools of my trade. I make sure to keep auto, home, health and life insurance... our "luxury spending" in case of a disaster.

I got fucking sick of seeing our "elite ruling class" steal with impunity while taxing and stealing from me like a peasant.

am I a total degenerate?
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Hey guys i’m notified I will be laid off next month.

Severance - (2 months of being employed, 1 month of severence)

$450k in stocks/crypto
$20k cash
Severence and NEET bennies - $50k.

Do I go abroad for like 3-4 months and chill or nah? Feels like I won’t get another chance like this and I wanna recover.
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dark-knight-joker-1597655811
How do I detect if someone is lying to me in order to extract information out of me with no intention of giving me what I want in return?
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Will I have better luck finding a girlfriend on Hinge or on Duolicious?
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I'm really struggling with job searching. I've been applying to jobs for months and I've haven't even gotten anything more than the occasional rejection email or straight up no responses. I dont know what to do any more, I need a job badly, I need money to support myself and if I cant get a job soon things will probably get worse.
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small chest / estrogen help ??
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i’ve always had a very flat chest and have tried many different things to grow my breasts such as changing my diet, trying serums, massaging them etc. is there anything that i can do to increase my estrogen or smthn to ACTUALLY helped increase breast size
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Laugh at me.
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I ruined my life by being a zogbot. Been in two different services, failure in both for two different reasons. 28 now, making good money, have a fair bit of college done. Know I need to get out but I'm unsure of what to do. A very kind anon here has suggested I go into law, but I fear I will be a failure at this as well, mainly due to certain intractable aspects of my personality. Thoughts? Am I just screwed? Should I just continue zogbotting and being abused to get the retirement? I have the old retirement system since I've been in 8 years cumulatively.
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Depression how to get help
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So i've been dealing with depression anxiety and all that shit for a long time now. I want to get help i've been having chest pains 24/7 from all the stress and panic attacks. Ive recently developed visual snow syndrome and tinnitus which i think are related to my shit mental health since they are neurological problems.
So how do i approach my family doctor to be referred to a psychiatrist (I would go straight to one but being referred means it doesn't cost an arm and a leg)
I suck at opening up i can never properly say how i feel and what im dealing with i always down play it or just straight up lie since its the only thing i know. If i do get referred how do i be taken seriously and understood?
Any advice would be appreciated
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