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How do you stop needing that feeling? Should I just practice stoicism?
A few months later and I regret not voting for Kamala Harris. For starters I don't trust her in doing a very good job, but the direction that Trump is heading us isn't going well either. As much as we screw politics, politics will also screw us and we have to choose the less bad all the time regardless. But more importantly, I'm afraid women will ask me who I voted for, and if I told them I did not vote, they will treat me as an evil person who is complicit in destroying democracy and upholding the patriarchy. As such, I will remain a beta virgin for the rest of my life. I'll never be able to date those tall big tiddy women.
How do I cope and get over this?
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Previously on ATOGA: >>32942092
This is getting tiring
Thing is we are cultivating carries and even tied to the community college so we have a lot of under 21s who will be invited.
I am nervous I am going to fuck up. start making race jokes, take my chance with a girl, admit to my politics, what ever. I only ever drink with the old heads when I go out so I am in for some culture shock.
Any advice? I mean shit, don't get me wrong I would also love to capitalize on the social setting and getting a girl.
Anyways what should I do here? Need to optimize being social without looking a fool.
I know it's because my brain didn't develop relationship when I was that age so it got stuck like that.
My life is filled with remorse for the chances I never took
I was in some very promising situations and did nothing so many times
>decided to sever all my connections to previous life because it was unhealthy
>have become too normalfag for internet
>not normalfag enough for real world
I don't mind it in her so much, but I'm worried about the disease passing down to our kids. All her family seems to have it to some extent
> 18
Not sure if I'm below average, above average or whatever in looks. I have that sort of thug looking archetype but not like Chad or anything.
I'm less ugly than dream I guess. It think it's mostly chin fat that says that makes my otherwise taut jawline.
I am fat but tha tis the least of my concerns considering that can be fixed relatively easily
In my school I am surrounded by people similar to my height. Ofc there are 6+ dudes but they are not common. But when I looked up the ave male height.
My mom criticizes my height. She says If I eat better or exercise more I will magically grow. She reminds me every now and then. My dad does the same but only to point out I am fat.
I'm not THAT fat, but I am overweight so not a problem at the moment.
How do I increase my height.
>you say that you're about X and Y or you believe in X and Y
>but they like nah you're not about X and Y you're about A and B
>you then affirm that you are indeed about X and Y
>you explain to them you show them how your life aligns with X and Y
>how your core values are all about X and Y
>but they double down and refuse believe you
>quite adamantly too
I'm fully aware that I'm kind of sheltered, but I'm never going to grow past that if I don't make an effort. I talked to a guy from one of my classes and he invited me out. I said yes, and I was dumb enough to tell my family.
My mom and dad instantly started spiralling about how one guy will lure people aside so they get jumped and kidnapped by several others and they kept bothering me not to go or to just have the date at our house (frick no).
I got upset and asked if they wanted me to die alone or something and locked my door. They've been apologizing for upsetting me, but they still want me to either cancel the date or have the date in the house.
I called my brother to ask what he thought would help, but he told me to give up and said I shouldn't be going out with "some shady guy" anyway even though there wasn't anything shady about the guy.
I don't want to make more drama but I'm worried they're just going to keep doing this if I don't take some kind of stand. Any tips?
Work a min wagie job that i actually enjoy. Only job I have enjoyed but now have a nit picky nag of a manager. Sure there are some good points but a bunch of bad which is leading to losing other workers making things harder
Basically always kneejerk reactions to things even though it was initiated by her not doing things correctly or choosing the wrong time to do things (like filling up the bins so quickly after it was emptied, with things that didn't need to be urgently disposed of, then acting like the bin scheduling isn't ideal because they had to deal with full bins for 2 days straight). Basically can't be corrected or told it's the wrong way of doing something without feeling like you're undermining her (even though I corrected her in private, she kept carrying on like I was happy she made a mistake). Even something simple like pointing out the labels being sold on the supply store isn't for our equipment and that we should double check first before buying them. But was just snappy about it like she knew best and they must be the ones. Low and behold they didn't fit
I really enjoy this job and with the right team barely feels like work, just a bit of exercise. Should I seek a transfer or even go casual (on call for multiple stores, get paid better but problem would be securing consistent shifts).
It's a very bizarre situation. I feel like my regular duties and roles are being taken away from me (treats me like Im not as good as every says I am at it, even though I'm known as being that guy). On one hand it's good because it means lighter duties but on the other, the 2 days I'm not working with her is basically me cleaning up and organising the mess better because the following shift with her would be bitching at me at the state of the workplace even though I'm basically starting my days without her on a handicap.
Don't say get a job, cause I'm already applying for jobs.
Currently, I'm living with my mother, my older brother and his wife. Neither my brother nor his wife work right now due to circumstances (drugs) and my mother works part time, so I’m financially supporting the household.
It’s all well and good, except they still treat me like the youngest. I have no say in the house and am frequently ordered around. This has developed frustration and resistance in me and now small situations that wouldn’t have impacted me in the past can send me flying into a rage.
How do I cope with this? My mother is an old lady so I can have patience with her but I am starting to hate my brother. Issue is anytime we discuss this we inevitably end up into a fight which causes my mother stress, which I hate as she’s only got so many years left.
how do you fix this?
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>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard these days, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, have given up, or insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach)
"Models": https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612
Wingmam: https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)
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Ok I think. Just another retarded attention whore flirting around with all men to boost her narcissist ego, whats new under the sun. Maybe she'll post some #Metoo vid on Tiktok later that night. I ignore her and do my stuff, but ofcourse tgere is more...
I am a 26yo KHV. I've had advances and signals from women in nearly every environment I have been in
But I made a fatal error, I put it all off for "when better days come" , and its hitting me now , the bright future I imagined , is either ways off or is just not happening and I'm finding comfort with less. I come from a broken home and I was never a hookups person, I thought I would date to hopefully be in a relationship but as I still live with my narcissistic parents and can't move out cause rent is so high where I live.
I still look good for my age, girls my age do think I am put together just purely off looks. But in all cases, I'm not the hookup guy (I think they actually want to know me and date me).
I'm naturally somewhat of a "good guy" so it doesn't feel ethical to lead a girl on like we are going to date. But all my friends tell me "bro a date is just a date , you don't need to plan your whole life with them, she's seeing other people too etc etc" / ie its not that serious.
I suppose what I'm really afraid of , is hitting it off, them realizing I'm a dud and then I lose out on a great person who has a completely different opinion of me now because they thought they were getting one thing but got another.
I don't mean "pretending to be someone else", but rather changing how to think.
Now we have termites. I found a hole with dirt all around it a few days ago in one room with one crawling out (~18 inches from the exterior wall). I sprayed every corner of the room with Ortho Home Defense Insect Killer because I had no idea what to do. When I told them about it, they sprayed the hole itself with Raid. I also found a winged termite in the bathroom not long after this. But neither of them want to call an exterminator or treat the house unless, in their words, "it starts falling apart."
I'm at a loss for what to do. I can't call an exterminator and every time I've treated the house for infestations before, they've gotten angry at me/wanted to start an argument because I was trying to fix it. I'm gonna be out of here in a couple years but I don't want this to be something they have to deal with. I want to treat the house without them knowing so I don't get into arguments that stall it any further. But I know next to nothing about termites and what I need to do to get rid of them on my own.
>was told saving myself for marriage would make me a good boy
>all available women my age are single mothers or have had men cum inside them
>my options are either this or die alone
wat do?
>Get message back saying they want to do an interview
>Do interview say yes to as many hours as I need
>Seems to be going fine, not issues, things are going smoothly
>"Okay, we'll check over your resume and give you a call back"
>Leave and realize that pay was never even discussed
>Don't get a call back
I'm going to hang myself
I don't know how to get out of it.
>"Just be yourself!"
>"Focus on your carreer and education and the right person will show up!"
>"Just have fun out there and she'll appear eventually!"
No. The fuck? She won't. How do people even get significant others? Am I just retarded?
I'm turning 24 in a month, but in every social situation I've been in since, I get rejected and everyone ends up hating me. How do I end this pattern? There is no constructive place to build relationships because the vibe I put it is bad.
I used to wallow in self-pity a lot in my teenage years, since I was incredibly stagnant and not really going anywhere with anything despite knowing and having the goal that I needed to better myself, but despite having that reoccurring thought-process for myself, I stayed socially awkward and one with no friends.
Their behavior includes:
> mocking race
> making countless gay insinuations and remarks over the years just cause I'm still a KHV at this age (I just have no money and no looks) , not as much anymore
> one ups- menship" , whenever I share something I'm remotely proud of , at least one of them posts something and they get all the praise , its like they just gloss over me (this is why I don't post or talk much) and praise whatever the other guy did (this is still ongoing)
Fuck I can't believe this is my life sometimes. But on the flip side , especially these days, they regularly treat me and take me out , we have good convos here and there about random shit. Should I really forgive and forget? Cause fuck , its hurts. I'm thinking I'm just eventually going to move away and just quietly take my leave one day so they can mock me openly and freely then have to backdoor it.
She was nice and gave me a BJ (at least tried to with my limp dick) I got hard for 5 to 10 seconds and put it in her but it deflated again within seconds. After about 45 minutes I just gave up and went home.
I feel like a fucking retard fag now and have to drink the night away to stop over thinking this.
I want to try again but I don't want a repeat of this. I wasted $300 for nothing. At least I'm not a virgin anymore but it doesn't feel any better.
How can I get rock hard erections that last during sex?
please help anons.
My sister is blind, she had a surgery that partialy restored her vision but that only lasted until she was 9 and then it went downhill. She was always sad about it and said how she wishes she rather was blind from start. Lately she has been insanely sunken and barely did anything except sit on her bed completely hollow barely talking
Yesterday our parents left for 2 days and i was left to take care of her. She called me into our room and she was crying about how she hates being a burden and a problem for us to solve, and i was trying to cheer her up. And then she asked me to kill her. I was absolutely frozen and she grabbed my hands and put her on her neck and just begged me again and again to kill her and free us from the burden she is and stuff like that. I managed to calm her down a bit and she cried herself to sleep but im scared what will happen when she wakes up. Its so diffirent feeling it myself and seeing it from someone else. I dont want her to die. I dont want her to feel this way. Anyone got any idea how i can help her or try to cheer her up about her situation? I have no clue what being blind feels like, but i dont want her to hate her life because of it
But then, puberty happened. Everything becomes sex, you can't go anywhere without thinking of sex, seeing girls, thinking of all kind of fucked up sexual stuff.
Added to that - I feel like I'm very ugly and that makes me not enjoy being outside. I feel too skinny, disgusting, like the way I want to be does not match what I really am (very ugly). And I feel like nothing will change how I feel when it comes to this. But it's a constant thing that bothers me: I can't enjoy going to the movies because I'm always thinking if I'm looking ok/trying to not be seen.
It's very annoying. I tried for years antidepressants, different types of therapy. Nothing works. I feel fine, I'm not sad, I enjoy a shit load of things, I barely get bored because there's always something for me to do. But it's not the life i'd like to have. What the fuck can i do
I'm a 31 yrs old virgin, so it's not like I'll figure out how to get a gf.
During that time, I wasn't taking care of myself. Over the past few years, I've neglected friendships and hobbies, not because she pressured me to, but because I just wanted to take care of her so much. It was like she -was- my hobby. For the past few months especially, I have mistreated myself. I've kept my room dirty, neglected hygiene, goals, friendships, hobbies, and I've redirected all my focus into taking care of her. I didn't make myself a priority at all.
I think this was a defining factor in our breakup. Another factor was that we were at different places in our lives; She works full-time in a demanding career while I go to school / work part-time. My biggest regret, which I voiced to her, was that I didn't prioritize myself more in our relationship and how I think this could have been avoided if I had. Also, I expected school (for a career change) to take 2 years, now it's taken 4. I regret moving those goalposts as well.
Just kinda venting here, but also open to any advice. Due to my age, I'm also processing feelings of "I had my life all figured out and now it fell apart and I'm 'old' and in school part-time like a friggin buffoon instead of locked into a career." I've started up my old active hobbies and working out 4-5 times a week.
I had a mental breakdown when I passed my driving exam and passed a biophysics course without a decent social support network to wish me well.
Due to still recovering from an auto immune disorder I can't gym much or sport much or else that would be my go-to.
>b..but eugenics is state mandated
sure, but modern eugenics is just less regulated and more grass rooted, so it all is just the same. On top of that, the state is ready to back women and chads it seems. Then again, I'm ready to change my mind on this if I'm misinformed and possessed with hate.
Why am I doing this?
A desire to help people, and learn how to get better at doing so.
>we only see eachother once a week
>she's taller than me
>she's slightly older than me (I think)
>I don't know much about her and vice-versa
At least she doesn't treat me like shit like almost every other woman my age. She asks me for information and is willing to help me.
She once called me our language's (not english) equivalent of "cutie", but I don't think this means anything.
I don't know how to approach her - all my previous gfs either approached me or were clearly into me before I approached them.
I'm tired of repeating these patterns. How do I change this?
no matter what i try, i can't seem to stop feeling chronically nervous when i'm in public. my heartrate is always going through the roof and i can't stop doing everything manually (walking, moving my head, even where i look). i avoid looking at people generally, but i often feel like i'm being stared at (or more like being observed). when i do look up, i notice that people do look at me often, so i don't think i'm being 100% delusional when i say i feel like i'm stared at.
i have a bf, i'm generally happy, and no real issues in my life other than having no friends and being currently jobless, and i don't think i'm depressed or anything. it just feels like ever since i turned 20 or 21, my heart rate is always very high when i'm outside regardless of the situation. my movements also end up being very stiff when i'm out. if i decide to look up at something for example, i try to move my head normally/gently, but i always feel like i end up whipping my head around suddenly, not on purpose.
what mental illness is this
Most scammers make you buy bitcoin or gift cards but this one made me send thru the bank and I saw his email
Is this at all useful info?
And maybe a phone number
I've been cleaning and cleaning. Not gonna go so far as stocking tampons in the bathroom or whatever, but it's a cooking themed deal, me and the other dude, plus a girl are gonna be cooking and drinking. The rest are just gonna bring alcohol and maybe other things.
Anyway, the advice I'm looking for, is how to prepare for this? I've got dice and cards, but I don't have a TV. There's a fire pit and firewood in my backyard, but that's about it for entertainment honestly. I don't spend much time at home except to sleep and tend my garden.
given this, would it be acceptable, morally, for me to seek out a boyfriend? i don't have male friends but i am pretty cute & apparently a good conversationalist so i could possibly do ok on dating apps. i am just worried that my overwhelming sadness would be harmful to anyone close to me. what do you think, anons? i am really lonely
I've been antisocial for the past few years and I'm developing severe mental issues from it. It's scaring the shit out of me.
There has to be something other than my cousin's idea of going to bars nonstop. Even if it's a bunch of autistic gamers just talking about video games and anime.
>no one to support emotionally.
>no one to by birthday-, Valentine-, Christmas (for example) gifts.
>no one to get intimate and have sex with.
>no one to argue with, possibly talk it out/make-up (depends on the problem) and continue to develop the relationship.
>no one to go on trips/travel with to discover new landmarks, monuments, etc.
>no one to kiss, caress, no companionship, etc.
It's kind of funny that I still even haven't managed to meet a woman who wants to use for the things I've mentioned.
Regardless of having a job, being reasonably fit, having a driver's license and needing to get a few of my teeth fixed this May, etc I would still 100%:
>cut my gym-time for her.
>make time for her before-, after work and my internship.
>have inevitable, unavoidable arguments with her and do my best to find a solution/solutions depending on the what the problem is: I'm sure no relationship is perfect.
>buy a car to travel with her, go to my internship and work, drop her off at her college/job, even though public transport here is actually pretty good price-wise.
Honestly, I've had no luck on dating apps.
Also, I have little to no time to join a club.
Additionally, the few dating app matches I've received either ghost me or I get stood up on date nights....
Damn it, I would do even more of the things I mentioned earlier, if I just had a girlfriend.
Being a single guy who doesn't get any companionship, intimacy and sex, doesn't have a woman to wait for him to come back to his apartment absolutely fucking sucks....
Anons, be brutally honest with me:
What exactly/else do I need to do to finally get a girlfriend already?
Thank you in advance for your helpful advice!
Thing is this time around I don't feel it healing and it's been 8 months already, it feels like I have a hole in this emotion.
I've talked to other girls, pretty ones and interesting to, they even showed signs they liked me and I felt... Absolutely nothing.
I feel like a robot sometimes, how do I heal this hole? I'm 31, sometimes I feel like I'll just end up being alone in life, because I just can't feel love or even passion for other people anymore.
I’m not lazy, I’m not addicted to social media, and I can work long hours, but the problem is finding a job with a salary that can cover my needs… Any advice, guys?
i doubt I'll be able to have any recourse in a professional setting (it's an old boys club) and outright violence seems short-sighted. I'm looking more along the lines of making a person's life difficult, insufferable or generally driving them crazy.
Respect.
pic related.
>customers dont really suck they’re just clueless so i dont give a shit desu
>***managers?***
>no work? "go scrub the pavement outside", invent minor tasks that dont even need to be done or dont matter to justify their existence
>ask why? "insubordination and next is a write-up "
>try to talk to them about their behaviors and about other stuff in the workplace thats rough
>"i dont like your attitude thats a write up"
>slash pay behind peoples backs, in minimum wage jobs some were paying below minimum and not telling them
>their fuckup? document it as your failure
>suggest efficiency? "my way or fired"
>your way works? "violation" + threats
>write-up threats for:
>leaning
>not taking out trash cans that are a quarter ways full
>managers do 10% work, dump 90% on us
>shit hits fan? poof. gone.
>berate and insult us personally in front of customers and co-workers for mistakes that are trivial and don't even matter whatsoever
>their massive mistake? "whoopsie, your problem now"
>restaurants: health codes = fanfiction
>expired chicken? repackage and upsell
>elderly? toddlers? fuck em, profits > safety
>GMs: mythic creatures
>exist only to gaslight and cash checks
>tasks completed? "scrub the parking lot cracks"
>pause for air? "time theft" + final warning
If it's genuinely like this everywhere I'm probably just gonna kill myself ngl my life is already too shit for this, I'm not gonna live my existence sucking off retards who dont even deserve their positions.
But that's weird because I always felt like I was more of the romantic type, looking for LTRs rather than one night stands.
Anyone else with this issue?
It's raining so I can't take her on a walk and I've already played with her as much as I can stand
I don't want her to hate me but I can't stand her whining so I put on the shock collar.
What do I do from here?
Thing is, it's not even remotely common or normal where I live for women to have shorter hair and I am certain everybody who knows me will think I have cancer or an existential crysis, it that I'm a lesbian.
The other thing is, I told my boyfriend about this fetish, and he accepts it, but he doesn't share it. He has said he prefers long hair but that ultimately, it's up to me.
I worry though that he will realise he doesn't like short (or really short) hair once I go through with it. Additionally, it'd be ideal for me to do this with him but I feel as though I'm "pressuring" him considering he has expresses this isn't a fetish for him, that he is at most fascinated I'd let him do this.
Has any of you ever had an impulsive need to do something like this? Was it worth it?
>I bought food for her house when her parents wouldn't do it
>Paid doctors to take care of her when her onw parents wouldn't do it
>She got it all, then left me to rot after she got it.
>Already has another man, a month later
>Celebrates her birthday with the friends I helped her get and the new guy (who actually treats her like shit I heard)
My question is, how the fuck can people just do shit like this? I can't even imagine doing this to someone who actively cared for me. Am I stupid if I'm not playing this "game" as well or she's just outright one evil fucking person?
When should I?
On the first date, she says she's looking for a guy that won't judge her about something about her. I tell her, I'm not going to judge her. She doesn't believe me, and ends the date, never sees me again.
Why are women like this?
I would like a copy with thicker pages, one where I can take notes on the margins.
I go to a gym where they have the ones filled with sand or something but those need to be mounted on the ceiling, so I was wondering if the freestanding ones are actually good.
I want it mainly to practice my kicks (I can't do a middle kick yet, so I want to practice at home too).
Anyone got any experience with punching bags? I want to know your opinions and recommendations on what to look for.
The ones hanging seems nice too (I have tried those at the gym), but the house I live ain't mine (I could ask for permission to drill the ceiling to mount one, but I don't even have the tools or know how to do so, or if it's feasible to do it in the place I'm due how to construction was made and such), so I was thinking about a freestanding one, but I never tried or saw those anywhere.
Even in my fantasies, whenever I have sex with a grown woman in my imagination I'm way younger, what does this mean? Is this what Jung talked about? That I'm trapped in a child-like state like Peter Pan or?
isn't that shit important to them?
How do I tell her I'm breaking up to cause the most amount of emotional damage to her?
>write a letter gaslighting her that she never made me feel loved and someone else did
>just ghost her completely
>write a letter that says basically nothing except it's over
>write a letter implying I think she cheated (she didn't) and the ghost her
>send her a video of me and the new girl fucking
Any other ideas? I don't know which one would be the best.
Right now I'm leaning towards the letter making her think that I think she cheated.
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i need help
my family (my mother, my father, possibly my grandma) lived with some relatives. they aren't blood related but they would basically be my: aunt, uncle, and cousin
now they've lived with us for a really long time (more than 10 years) and my family does say things like how they don't really pay for other stuff or any other things. basically they've been living rent free with us without paying that much.
now i don't know that much but here's what i do know
later on, i think they had a feud with my family but i'm not really sure what it was about. when they went back to their home country in asia (which is where all my other relatives from my mother's side live) for a vacation (the relatives, not my mother, father, or grandma), she played the victim role and lied to her father how we treated them badly even though it was more of the opposite while they also leeched on us. afterwards, when they came back, they moved to texas.
the plot twist is that i'm not sure when, where, and how, my 'aunt' stole my mom's social security number.
my mom said that my aunt used to be an accountant and was good at remembering numbers which is probably how.
im typing more in the next comment under here
I've been an involuntary NEET for several years. I have a college degree with a decent GPA (it's not an elite school). I've applied for a countless number of jobs and have had numerous interviews. Initially, I would only apply to within or adjacent to my major, but then I gave up on that and applied to everything else whilst pretending that I don't have a degree. I've applied to 3AM warehouse jobs thinking that would do it but I don't even receive a response.
I've accepted that (as long as society stays relatively similar) I will never get a job, because each passing day my chances get lower, and with those prior chances I haven't been able to succeed once. I've realised that all jobs are (at least in my era) a form of patronage, and that degrees don't get you jobs and that for those who did get jobs with degrees, the degree was nothing but a box-ticking exercise. I'm intelligent, tall, good-looking, it doesn't matter. I regret giving up my personal data, I regret that the interviewers I've interacted with now know or probably might remember my identity or status, I hope to never see them ever again.
Time is surreal. It's been more than half a decade since I graduated from high school, but because my life has had zero progression I feel no linearity. There's really no way to describe it. I see people younger than me have jobs, I see people of my age with jobs in positions of seniority, which is again surreal. Time passes but nothing happens, it feels like I'm waiting for a train to arrive, but it never does, and I'm just endlessly biding my time and waiting to strike when the moment is right and an opportunity presents itself. I look in the mirror, I look 18, I feel 18, I'm not 18 and time is withering away...
Wtf do I do? Am I fucked? Am I going to be extorted or some shit now? How do I be a cyberpunk and not have shit like this happen to me
>don't live for others
>don't compare yourself to others
Then what the fuck am I supposed to live for? What's the fucking point in living only for yourself in your bubble closed off from the world? It's not hard to love myself and it's done nothing for me. There is no me anymore. I'll give it up, my most precious possession, for the joy of the world. The world is what makes life worth living not yourself. Could you really go on living if the entire world vanished without a trace? To say yes is the thought of a deranged person.
I can't just give them my money because I need it!!!
"just go outside and talk to women, bro"
>women classmates are shitty to me
"they just want to be treated like people"
>women coworkers are shitty to me for no reason
"just stop seething over them dude"
okay, fine. I'm doing something wrong. it's not that I'm ugly, because some women adore me and think I'm a gentleman, and are surprised when I mention I've never had a girlfriend. What am I doing wrong then if the rest hate my guts? I'm just a working man trying to build myself up and my future. give me your best answer.
I have a very bad relationship with my parents, and they are both incredibly narcissistic and egotistical. I could write story after story of why I cut them out of my life, but it was the cancer freight moment that did it for me.
Years back I had a doctor notice a possible lump in my tongue, and thought it was cancer. I was beside myself, thinking that I needed to do a big work trip, get money, give it to my sibling to ensure he was set for life, and then pass away. If I'm going to go, might as well help out as much as I'm here for. Anyways, I was getting things ready, and my father and mother for some reason burst into my home, arguing with me over numerous trivial stuff, and I told them I didn't care about that, I'm just getting stuff prepared. It would turn out way later that the lump was benign thankfully, but at the time I didn't know, and I wasn't going to sit around and do nothing. My parents then thought it would be a smart idea to tell me "you got this because of your mentality". I think they were referring to my political beliefs, I'm quite RW, but I keep a lot of it to myself, the opposite of them in fact.
I remember just sighing, looking at them, nodding, and saying that it's nice they came by, and deescalated the conversation until they eventually left. I then immediately blocked their numbers, stopped going to family functions with them there, avoided them, and just decided to treat them as if they're dead.
TLDR; My parents said it was my own fault I got cancer because of my political beliefs.
So what made you stop talking to your parents?
So I guess the next move is just for me to find a new place to live, right? Because he's not going anywhere
But the lady that works there says, there are sometimes jobs that can fit me.
The lady says the agency needs me to give them a resume. I basically have only been a cashier and stocker at Walmart. And I told her that, and she still wants me to submit a resume.
What the hell do I put on a resume for this place?
Any ideas?
I have this subconscious idea that women need to compensate for their periods. as in a woman needs to be attractive otherwise I find her grosser or a woman needs to be more mature and stoic otherwise I find her grosser.
i don't treat women worse because of this, I can suppress these thoughts but they still pop up now and again.
but like I don't wanna feel disgusted by either women or periods cause women are half of the world and it's not like periods are something they do on purpose so how do I get over my disgust?
Still can't afford anything despite only wanting a tiny cottage.
Girlfriend left me cause I wouldn't buy a rented trailer house.
Losing all motivation to keep saving.
Staying in job mostly for health insurance to fix my erectile dysfunction.
No luck on dating apps so I don't even know why I'm trying to fix that either.
Been living with mommy at 31 "racing" house price inflation figuring I'll catch it eventually.
Was assigned a massive task at work that is mind numbingly boring.
Im so tired and burnt out. I have a follow up doctor's appointment mid May but I don't even know if it's worth going. I don't know why I don't just walk out today.
How fucked up am I? If I stop now, when will all that hypericin etc leave my body and be normal again? I fear for my eyes now.
I've looked everywhere and can't find it. I'm afraid I accidently threw it out or something. It makes me so sad because my grandpa is gone and that's what I had of him. It was such a beautifully made little knife.
>Everyone talks in gay slang, ebonics, truncated vocabulary or valley-girlisms
>Nobody is sincere, all discussion is trying to get a one up on someone with thought terminating cliches to shut them down and keep up their fake social media character
>All modern media sucks with no exception, music, TV, games.
How do I escape it?
What is wrong with me? How can I be so social yet dislike serious relationships? I try to analyze my feelings and i think some of the thoughts i get are I dislike feeling deeply responsible or accountable for another person and I feel some kind of shame around "dependency" where I expect myself (and my lovers) to be just as capable of happiness outside the relationship as within it
Im not trying to deliberately be a jerk, in fact I kinda want to solve this so I can experience true intimacy. I am fairly independent though so maybe I just prefere being single, nothing wrong with that right?
>instantly switch to another plan the moment something doesn't work
How HOW do I stop doing this habitually?
It's like I don't have a proper past reference to realize shit takes time to develop and it's normal to fail a lot. Neither from my past experiences, nor from any family members or friends.
I grew up with poor intellectual development because I somehow got the idea at a toddler age that if I don't succeed the first try at anything, I am a complete failure and must stop immediately.
What size of this should I get, Small/Medium or Large/X-Large?
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I don't really trust measurements online
I think it's time for a new job in a related field, but not the same job. Maybe something that my experience or education could be applied to. Example If you have a job in accounting you ight get a job in business. Something along that vein.
But im not sure what to choose now im completely lost.
How do I go about repairing my brain and its function. I know I might have done a fair bit of permanent damage but I feel like there are still some things that I can do to maximize my regrowth potential. Idk what these things would be tho or how to begin searching for them. Has a doctorGPT been created yet?
The county increased the property value of my house by 20%. I did not make any improvements to my property. I own my house in the clear, and have enough money that I am seriously considering buying the house across the street from me and moving across the street just to lower my property taxes and get a better valued property. Is there anything I can do w/the county before taking this step?
i have a complete lack of self esteem or worth and now i'm realizing most of the ways i cope come at the cost of other people's sanity
its not as though i completely lack any morality or empathy though, just that it gets overshadowed by my desires and attempts to reason through everything, like i'm kinda gaslighting myself to be selfish
and sometimes i feel like i'm living for other people's validation and assurance rather than for myself, and that if i ever get into a relationship i'll become emotionally dependent while being unfair to them
Im 30f, live at home and just got out of a 7 week treatment program for depression and extremely low self esteem.
I had been a neet for a year previously and am starting to feel myself fall back into old habits.
I have no friends because I have a difficult personality/very introverted (I’ve been described as autistic, blunt and a bit boring) I never went to higher education where most people meet their friends. I worked as a server for 10 years and made okay money (averaged 60k a year) because I was cute and loved to work as much as possible. Im aging out of the industry now and have gained a lot of weight so I no longer have my looks.
My only diagnosis is adhd. I have a full scale IQ of 107 with a general abilities index score of 117. My problem is that I have a working memory score of 85 and a processing speed of 88. This means my frontal lobe is fucked up, moves very slowly and can’t manipulate information well. It’s the reason for my high emotionality and lack of discipline. I can learn but it’s slow and painful.
I struggle to keep up with conversations and form cohesive arguments. I want to go to school so I can get a real job and improve my life but I think im genuinely too stupid.
I can’t seem to make myself get out of bed in order to improve my life. I want to move out of my home town, go to school and just have a normal life.
My questions: what can I actually realistically accomplish with my unique iq profile and what field would give me the best payoff?
How do I make myself move? I get so overwhelmed and wind up continuing to choose the comfort of my mom’s house and scrolling online instead of putting in the work. Im deeply lazy and comfort driven.
I had anyone had a similar story and saved themselves in their 30s?
Im an asshole and a bit narcissistic which I hate. I hate myself, how do I change this?
Eventually I finished college and got a job in finance. I met my girlfriend and never told her about this. But now my stepdad is blackmailing me to pay his rent in exchange for not telling his girlfriend. I haven't responded to the message. What should I do? My girlfriends family is Mormon and I am worried they will make us break up.
Now, 10 years later, I am a shadow of what I was, I'm ugly again and I'm balding badly, it crushes my self-esteem beyond comprehension, I guess I'm just a pathetic loser
How can I cope with this?
My life is not a particularly bad one, I have a family, no (major) medical illnesses, I am not starving, but every argument, every time I get the flu, every driver texting on their phone and crossing the middle line threatening to kill me for no reason, every frustration gets to me and some times I feel overwhelmed by it all. I sometimes dream of being pulled out to sea and thrown down in tall waves, or being caught in a giant tsunami.
That is not to take away from the good things in life, they do happen, but...
How is it for you?
This is a dating strategy if you find yourself being used by a girl that doesn't want a relationship. I will be referring to said woman as the cuckette.
>Step 1: Act like a guy best friend, be just awkward enough that things wont advance
>Step 2: Go to a highly female populated public area with cuckette who is half interested/using you
> Step 3: Sit at a small table in the middle of area, try to talk or eat with said cuckette and keep your eyes peeled for inevitable gawking from other women
> Step 4: Get rid of cuckette without ruining "relationship" as to use her again if you fail
> Step 5: Shoot your shot with the gawking women. Sincerely telling them (if asked about cuckette) that you two are not a thing
> Step 6: Date gawking woman and if things go gray just revert back to step one
If you end up as a guy best friend, its only proper to use this strat since youre going to be used by the cuckette anyways, either by being used for attention or as a backup to her partner she didnt tell you about. Reverse card baby
>I gave her one of the gifts a day early and she wanted to look forward to celebrating her birthday ON the day and it ruined it
>i was happy and enthusiastic with her the days leading up to her birthday, but then *on* her birthday I was “cold” in comparison because I was dealing with shit at work
>she’s “mad at her friends nobody is around to celebrate my birthday with a social gathering do I even have friends”
>”ugh I hate my birthday I don’t want to be older”
>”anon we can go to dinner at any time this isn’t anything special like it’s just dinner and then a show cool you’re checking off boxes and then we’re done for the day right?”
I’m pissed at her because like what, everything wasn’t 100% perfect so now it’s all ruined? And she’s pissed at me because “getting gifts and dinner is easy I want to spend more quality time with you on my birthday”(???)
we’re grown people with jobs this seems really fucking weird and I really think she’s overreacting and being ungrateful but open to other takes
I can’t sleep, I want to sleep to horror, but I can’t fall asleep. I lie in bed for half an hour, then I take the phone, then I lie motionless and this is repeated in a circle. Nothing helps, changing the diet does not seem to be an opportunity, from physical activity I have been suffocating from 11 years old
i need to do smth about it, i wont live more than two months if i will keep living like that
I am a khv at 22 now and I have been blowing off any girl that has been interested in me since the age of 19 after I lost a lot of weight and stopped being obese.
I just feel so numb honestly.
I cant even fit in with normal dudes as all they talk about is getting laid and sex and I just have turned off my sexuality in a way I dont even jerk off or watch porn.
For me, because my bottom teeth were crowded it caused TMJ issues and my bottom teeth were constantly sensitive/tingling, and I’d have burning pain through my chin and cheeks randomly through the day, and mine were nowhere near this bad. So when I see other people with mouths like this I just wonder if they just ignore and cope with the side effects or if I was just unlucky and the only issues most people have with it is cosmetic?
i have:
>no transportation
>no friends
>no other family willing to take me in
so if they do really kick me out am i just fucked? is my life over all cuz some ancient 80 year old geezer says so?