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can anyone please tell me what kind of degrees i should follow to get financially independent or at least earn a decent amount
>inb4 computer science
i don't really want to be an officemonkey/condemonkey wasting away 9 hours a day for a boss that earns millions plus i don't really like physics
>why am I virgin
It started with me wanting to save myself for marriage, and I'm being very serious and unironical when I say this. But as it is right now, I guess I'm ashamed and even somewhat afraid of sex. My main issue is being repressed and since I still live with my parents, I wouldn't even know where to have sex.
>go at the guy's place
Yeah, no.
Cheaters is for people who cheat on their significant others to give each other advice and strategies
No moralfagging
Don't come here if you don't like or agree with the content
No LARPing. Let's keep this a place for serious discussion. Not a shit posting general
And no, before you recommend me, I'm not pumping my body full of estrogen
So how does one become the next Elon? how do you find the next big idea and convince investors to give you money?
How many years do I have left to achieve these goals? 5 years? 10 years?
In my eyes her “virtue” doesn’t exist anymore because she’s had sex already so why does it matter?
She has asthma but refuses any meds because she thinks they will kill her for some irrational reason. She woke up today saying that it would be a terrible day because apparently it was the astrological number 4 and that brings her bad luck. She wanted me to call to this place for her and when they didn't pick up the phone she said it was my fault, said I was worthless and an idiot and that I had inherited my father's "evil gene". Then she started suffocating from asthma again and said this was all my fault because I told her she was being too harsh calling me sleazy and an idiot. I told her a mom shouldn't talk like that to her offspring.
This has been happening all my life. I live normally, nothing happens. Pretty much emotionally stable. Then my mom starts yelling at me, screaming and I want to kill myself. I legit want to end it sometimes when she does this. I can't differentiate between when she wants to manipulate me or scare me into doing something, and when she's genuinely upset about something. Sometimes she will freak out like this but then someone would call her on the phone and she'd be cheerful. Ever since I was a kid.
Once when she started yelling at me like this, I hit myself on the sides of my head. For 3 days then that spot hurt and it was pulsating
I don't know what to do. I'm stuck with her because of Covid. I don't think the way she has acted all her life is normal. She can be really sweet sometimes but sometimes like this morning, she turns my mind into a hell. I don't want to be alive anymore when she becomes like that.
Any tips on how to be homeless? I have about 100 dollars and nowhere to go. It's also a public holiday, kek
Is this something to be worried about?
I'll be 30 by then. Is that too late to find a high quality woman and maybe date a 23 year old?
I fucked up hard the last years, so I am in a bad spot.
im ( 20/M)to the army next year (south korean army) but I have no fucking clue how to speak,write,or read the language and its been bothering me since the day I was born with constant talk of "you need to go in the army or else you are dishonor and go to jail" from mom and dad.
I already know I'm fucked going in the mandatory military service. should I just kill myself during basic training (take my chances and shoot myself in the head on the firing range
I work food delivery to keep a roof over my head. All I've really got going for myself right now is lifting consistently and making gains. I need to buckle down into a training program or SOMETHING that will lead me further out of this rut and into being a competent, productive adult, but I'm a a loss as to which path to take.
Do anons recommend a trade, finishing college, etc.? I'm at a loss but, like I said, I'm ready to commit to something. I guess I'd like some help brainstorming, and could use any advice you may have.
>wagecuck all your life
>degenerate increasingly oppressive society
>pay taxes on money you slaved away to gey so politicians can add it to their 7 figure bank accounts
>be abused by wife/mother/dad or whoever that person in your life is
Pros to suicide :
>everything of the above, only that it no longer exists
Cons to suicide:
>your mom will cry or whatever
There is nothing you can say to convince me that life is worth living. Its complete and utter garbage
Feel like I'm the reaching no point of no return in which my options are dying alone, suicide or a third option.
Pic kinda related
I have a lot of issues when it comes to feeling weak and anxious. I was completely depressed and unable to do anything when I was 20 and I hated myself for the way I that I felt and who I was.
When I started to distance myself from my emotions and from "myself" I began to function again. That came at a cost though, as I started to feel more and more like a robot. Even when my mother committed suicide 2 years ago it didn't feel like it was real to me (like everything else).
Last year I started to wake up during the night with panic attacks unable to fall asleep again. I felt so exhausted at times that I thought my heart was about the stop.
The panic attacks aren't as powerful anymore but I still wake up every night but most of the time I am able to fall asleep again.
I think that my panic attacks are a result of not letting myself feel weak and vulnerable. I am just too afraid of feeling depressed and helpless. I also don't want to feel weak because it is unattractive to women.
I am seeing a therapist at the moment but can't open up.
My question is, how can I convince myself to feel vulnerable?
i didn't know he had temptations until recently, when he recommended another person joins in on us having sex, and that broke my heart.
i don't know how to explain to him how fucked up that sounds to me and neither can i just accept that he's going to have a hard on for girls other than me
This way I lived for at least 20 years, but now I just feel empty. I don't want to invest into something that will disappoint and make me depressed in the end. Yet I realize that I have nothing in life that can be looking for if I'm not obsessed with some sort of media.
I have decided to leave my obsessions, but I faced a reality that there is nothing that brings me joy, passage of time just makes me depressed now when in my media obsessive days I was happy that some sort of update or a new release was coming closer.
Is there a way to bring any meaning to my life outside of consooming media, find happiness and joy outside of it?
How do I fix myself
Stop giving a fuck.
That's right. Stop giving a fuck.
Stop looking at other people. Stop analyzing yourself. Stop analyzing others. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop comparing yourself to standards. If people criticise you and you don't think they're right, stop seeing those people. Stop reading lifestyle guides on the internet. Stop thinking about sex, or about not having sex.
Just stop. The amount of information available right now is too much. We aren't evolved to deal with it. The amount of fake shit, lies, idolization and the amount of losers crying is WARPING YOUR VIEW OF REALITY even if you're smart enough to realize that it's not all like that. Simply seeing all of the SHIT is enough to turn anyone into a fucking husk. Be it social media, the internet, or just people in a community who lie out of their fucking ass.
Just live your life. Just do your best. You don't have to be successful, pretty, handsome, famous. You don't have to get the girl or the guy or fuck them either. You don't have to be social (or antisocial). You need to stop listening to all of this fucking waste bubbling around you.
Your entire life philosophy should just be "I live" and "what can I do to live nicer?". That's it. That's literally all you need. Stop thinking about changing yourself and improve yourself instead. Do things because you want them, not because people told you that you need them, or that you should want them.
Stop GIVING A FUCK ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING
STOP READING THIS SHIT. RIGHT NOW. Go to another board and read something actually interesting. Let this be the last bit of "advice" you ever recieve. Get the fuck out right now
Now I've always been disgusted by this behaviour but am I wrong for feeling that? I'm the only one of my friends (male or female) who has chosen (on the rare occasion) and cannot engage in this behaviour. As in I've had on the very rare occasion the opportunity to hook up and I've only had my first (and only kiss) in the past few months.
I do feel a bit bitter about women not liking me but beyond that I feel like the odd one out, for being a virgin, for not wanting to hook up with rando’s, for feeling disgusted with my friends when they talk about being in open relationships. That sort of thing.
My parents had a dysfunctional relationship but my grandparents met when they were 14 and have been together ever since. Worked themselves out of poverty to become wealthy. Only ever wanted this.
Am I just a butter incel?
i dont enjoy anything anymore. i dont know how to get out.
im gonna be real with you adv/; i used to be okay with girls, then i got super depressed (even more so than i was) after someone i consider my first and only love (we werent even together for long so it was more just an infatuation) kinda broke my heart, which led me to not dating in years (properly anyway); now, i've gotten to the point where i think i should start or just kms but the problem is that i met this one girl who i only wanted friends with and she the same, but i got feelings annoyingly, and then after meeting a bunch of times and us having a moment where we could have kissed in a bar (a couple months ago) things kinda seemed to fizzle at the start of jan and she's been weird ever since, she acts like its my fault but in reality
>she used to call me
>she used to send me vids of her singing
>she used to actually want to hang out and stuff instead of just saying it
>she used to take an interest in me
now, i started dating someone else in the past 3 weeks or so and that may be the reason but i noticed that she became distant and then since telling her things were over, she became a little more there in my life
>called me yesterday but it was to basically "chat" and then say she has to cancel hanging out
>say she still has something to give me
honestly, she describes herself as
>attention seeker
>sad because she cant travel and she now has no freedom
>trapped
i know feelings for this shit is dumb but im kinda losing my mind and wanna move on so what do i do? the girl i dated briefly was a fucking nut who literally stayed 24/7 at mine even when i was out and was generally a weirdo
(I am a shut in autist who has few friends)
The main problem is, the kid they mostly have me working with bites himself until he bleeds profusely then paints all over his section of the classroom with it, puts it in his hands, runs it all over, then fucking runs it all over his toys, then tries to bite me with blood in his mouth, and tries to wipe his blood on me, and all we have is alcohol wipes and some gloves + there is dried blood on all of his toys which I am expected to handle not wearing gloves. Also a lot of these kids are african immigrants, and I dont care about that because of race, I care because countries like south africa have a population where 19% has HIV. So there could be a 1 in 5 ch ance this kid is smearing me with AIDS blood. Legally, can they fire me if I just say I cant deal with that anymore. I have 0 training, and I'm not going to get aids or hep c for 14 dollars an hour. If I quit will it blacklist me from working at a public school in texas ever again if I just dont put this on my resume?
Am i overreacting? Shes been to the doctor and she had no health issues, or pre-diabetes, or high blood pressure or anything. she just looks big. It could be water weight, or hormones. but she was pretty thin before she had it in.
ive talked to her about and it it makes he really emotional because she knows shes getting big and she feels like its either be thin with massive pain or look fat and not be in pain. she believes she will lose the weight once its off, because we both want to have kids someday so it will obviously come out.but its just making her look unattractive to me.
Why is she telling other people this instead of me?
I have been insecure about it since i began growing chest hair when i was 14, i have tried waxing and trimming it, and right now i trim my my body every 2 weeks and shave my neck area every other day.
I have already done 3 laser sessions on my neck area because i had folliculitis, and the difference is obvious and i don't regret the procediment. Now I if want to completely remove the hair follicles i should do at least 8 laser sessions.
Honestly, do you guys think this is too much body hair?
Once I put my foot next to hers to see what would happen, but she took hers away. So obviously the sex isn’t going to happen. And I wouldn’t want to destroy our therapeutic relationship.
Sometimes lil things happen which turn me on like once she leant forward and I got a nice view of her cleavage. She noticed me looking and sat back up. That was pretty hot and I still coom over it to this day.
Are there any ways I can change the dynamic of the relationship slightly so that we remain a good client/therapist but she also drop little bits of wank material to me?
Today in our video session she scratched her arm and to do that she had to move her shirt and I saw her bra string and a wee bit more flesh.
I never talk about sex in session because I don’t have any and it’s not really an issue for me. I’m not sure if she would handle that sort of discussion, if I initiated it it would be contrived because sex isn’t really one of my issues.
Anyway bit incoherent
TLDR: how can I make therapy more flirtatious?
>tell group to research in their own free time
>repeat myself 10 times
>they don't do it
>I do all the work myself, I don't mind, my education is far more important
>lecture complains to me that I do all the work
How do I shape my group?
I have a tendency of giving up on people that reject my help.
1 group member even tried making me feel sorry for him. He's 30+ years old.
I come from a very devoutly Muslim, Pakistani-British family. They instilled in me the rules from day one. Prayers every day. No pork. No alcohol. No non-religious music. Absolutely no dating or mingling with girls at school. Even when I got to uni they still made my life unbearable constantly checking on me and making sure I was studying and not going to parties or dating girls. The irony is this upbringing made me too socially awkward to be able to accept party invites or pursue girls, even though I want to. So I didn't do it anyway.
After my first year of uni I was sure I was not Muslim anymore. Then covid happened. Now I study for my degree at home and it is hell. No escape. No time off. No more chill beers with my few friends at the weekend. Enforced studying by my parents at strict hours of the day. My friends try to invite me to some Zoom chats with beers but I can't even accept those, lest my parents find out about my double life.
It's so fucking hard to leave. I have two sisters. Both of them are younger than me and devout Muslims just like my parents, at least for now. I try to test the waters by revealing some of my doubts about Islam to the elder sister. She freaked out and told me I was crazy and that uni had "brainwashed" me. I don't know what to do.
I need your /adv/, anons.
The problem? She lied to me about some things. When we first started talking, she said she was a nurse. Recently she confided that she's unemployed and has actually never worked. She also admitted that she was 2 years older than the age she claimed (23 instead of 21) and there were some inconsistencies with her pictures vs. what she described herself as (I still am attracted to her though).
Now I want to stress that I DON'T mind her real self, I'm attracted to her face and body, she's still good to talk to, but I'm upset that she lied about so many things. Just stupid things too. She cried when she told me she had lied about it and I told her it's not that bad.. But the more I think about it, I dunno it just makes me feel like something is off. She told me that she hid things and lied about things because she never dated before and was nervous so she wanted to present the "best version" of herself, which in her mind was the future person she wants to be. I can get that, but I guess I'm just worried this will happen again. I don't want to feel suspicious of someone I'm trying to build a romance with, and to have mistrust this early on is not good.
She swore to me that those were the only things she lied about and that she would be nothing but honest to me from now on. And I do know for a fact her pictures are her since we cammed a bit too. What do you guys think? I want to forgive her, but I also don't know if I can trust her.
And please, I don't wanna hear about how online dating sucks, I know what I got myself into. Just try to give me some help, please.
I've been spending a lot of time with her since my breakup and I forgot about how much she loved me and how much I loved her. how can I make it up to her for having left her in the first place? I really want to get back together with her again and do it right this time but everyone around me keeps saying I'm just rebounding.
How can I prove that I'm not and that this is real?
5 months later we get an even worse story: He's given himself brain damage from drinking too much.
The last I've heard about him from the main friend this one chick left him because he still wouldn't stop fucking drinking
What am I honestly going to do. This is the internet. I can't just make someone quit doing something. And I can't just walk away & say "play stupid games win stupid prizes" because how that's going to sit on my conscious if he ends up dead. It's literal fucking purgatory with this man. I can't just tell him to stop drinking but I can't quit on him either.
>get super close, borderline married
>seperated because of covid travel restrictions
>try to make it work long distance
>she gets sad & starts hanging out with a friend to cope
>im okay with this because trust
>communication starts to get sparce and weird because of distance & sadness
>decide to take a break
>just makes things worse
>decide to finally end it and stay friends (beginning this year)
>bring up one rule: do not date or fuck the friend she coped with last year or i will leave
>she does it anyways
>i cut communication completely
>now mutual friends acting weird with me / think that was a bad move
did i do something wrong here? why do i feel pressured to stay friends with someone who literally betrayed my trust & borderline cheated on me
Was it a bad move? i think it was pretty justified.
Seriously, I'm extremely bad at conversations irl and given my work, I don't have to do them much, but I'm literally terrified anytime somebody rings me on discord, I just don't know how to respond...
could i achieve this? if so, how? do guys mind if i don't look like this? thinking of taking up jogging.
I had a FWB who didn’t want more. He said he felt nothing and left me to pursue his ex.
Nobody has ever really seriously pursued me and made it known that they really want me
I feel like I’m always a backup or okay option
Nobody has ever really desired me
What do I do? Am I being too sensitive?
I love my gf but man she doesn't fulfill my sexual needs at all and its beginning to bother me
But now I'm going insane, I can't sleep, I can't work, I can't read, every day is torture, do you have any way to cope, this is agony.
>I worked with a group containing her on a certain project
>She became my seatmate at one point and when the teacher returns our works it is meant to be passed through her and she would take a look at it while i was waiting on her to reach it to me and after that she would compliment the said work
>that was all
Anyway that aint the most relevant thing in this thread, so im gonna continue by saying she transferred the next year to another school and now is the time to mention that she had a friend that i too am close with. So the year she transferred her friend and i actually had a chat in the early parts of the year and that is the part where i get to hear some details from her about my crush
>Hey so R transferred right? Remember when i told you i liked her back then yeah?
>ah yes anon speaking of her she mentioned you in our pms
>mentioned me? Let me guess does she find me creepy?
>no she was asking how you was
This was a huge surprise, and so i did what any weirdo would do. Message her on chat,
>hey R how's school? ":D"
>oh hii anon it's pretty fine actually glad you asked
So the conversation continued casually and it ended nicely, so from then on i started to greet her goodmornings and shit while she would respond back, now we had some nice conversations on pm and now she finally got a bit closer to me even when we barely interacted on 6th grade. So im gonna have to continue this later if anyone is interested to know what happens next because this is literally my first 4chan post so update me if you want to know more i guess idk.
tldr i have sleep molest disorder, what do
I'm trying to get back into the dating scene and I realized most girls I find attractive are into music. How the fuck do I talk about music? Am I supposed to go "oh yeah I like this band blablabla" and send her links or some shit? The only music I like listening to is music without vocals (mainly League's OST).
I'm not a good singer either, but I am good at dancing so there's that.
Any tips anons?
For the last two to three years, I've constantly tried to find a third income stream that can keep me productive and busy during my days off from my other two jobs. I make about $100K a year balancing each position (one more than the other) but I find myself bored and unproductive (outside of errands/life maintenance/small hobbies) on the weekends.
I already invest my money into a variety of things (i.e. RRSP, ETF's, Stocks, Real Estate) but that doesn't keep me busy at all. I've looked into different avenues others suggested such as dropshipping, part time landscaping and so forth but I can't find anything that's worthwhile.
Most of my friends either sit on the computer playing video games all day (some aren't working right now due to the pandemic) and it's such a waste of time doing that day in and out. I don't want to fall into that trap.
Thanks /adv/
A relationship with that women wouldn’t even work, she became a feminist and an SJW. Yet every time I see her or her profile pops up I go crazy. What should I do to get over that physical attraction? Any advice?
Thanks in advance friends
I have BPD and was bullied my whole life and always coped with self deprecating jokes and video games, but it went to far i guess.
This video changed my life forever when it came out now I can't stop saying the N word.
How can I stop this habit ?
I had a life changing experience on DMT. The only person who can get this insulted me in some manner. I would like to get this drug and spread it to anyone who is interested, free of charge, to hopefully experience something similar to what I did. Should I swallow my pride and try to amend things with this person to possibly benefit others?
Thanks in advance.
Obviously the problem is that she's also really insecure about her weight loss. I love this girl to death and just want her to eat healthy again, I wanna be overcome with lust when we have sex because she was sexy as fuck back then. And she's been asking why I seem less in the mood and I don't know how to tell her that I just want you taking care of yourself again.
I don't know what I can do to help with this problem, how I can encourage her or even begin to talk to her about this. Any advice?
inb4 gun violence memes, i plan on getting CC as soon as i can lol
I'm a KHV 23 year old and this is the first time a girl talked like this to me. She's apparently 22.
I stuttered throughout the entire conversation, and she laughed when I said I've never done it with a girl before (she asked me if I have).
I said "n-no, I d-don't have money right now..." but she told me to come back and ask for her if I ever change my mind (she gave me her name).
What the fuck do I do? This may seem like nothing to you chads who can get laid anytime they want, but for me this is fucking life-changing.
I promised myself that I will never lose my virginity to a prostitute, but this doesn't count, right? She's not really a prostitute and I'm not really losing my virginity since it's just a handjob, even though she's asking me to pay her $20 (which I can obviously easily afford). She doesn't even look like a prostitute AT ALL. She's cute and she could literally be my classmate, and I went to a prestigious school where most girls are pretty.
I wanna lose my virginity to a qt gf who actually loves me, but I think a mere handjob doesn't really count..
I don't know what the fuck to do, this was so intense, I'm a fucking autistic socially-awkward basement-dweller who has never had a girlfriend, ever. Nothing close to this has ever happened to me.
No girl has ever wanted to get close to my dick before, and now this massage therapist of mine literally just asked me upfront if she could massage my 'private parts' until I come.
I'm a fucking coomer who masturbates to hentai almost everyday so obviously I wanna do it, but I wanna know the "normal, non-autistic" decision first. What would a normal person do? Say yes or no?
Also, what are the chances that I'm gonna get in trouble for doing this? If there's even the slighest chance of me getting arrested, I'm fucking out.
It's not even about women and attraction, it's simply knowing that the kind of man I'd like to be is completely out of my reach. I'll never be feel imposing or tower over people, I'll always be a fucking manlet.
Any advice, please? It really depresses me. I'd honestly give anything to be a bit taller. 5'8'' by the way.
Has anyone experienced this feeling, when you become very aware of your breathing and the feeling that you're not getting enough air starts creeping in?
I've been caught off guard twice by this, went to the hospital and a number of doctors(heart, glands, lungs, throat) and they found nothing. I have yet to see a psychiatrist, though.
Anyone else have any experience managing this?
We had sex. She was and is on birth control pills, and I had a condom on. Problem is, I did not roll the condom all the way down. Just like 3/4ths of the way down. It was one of those extra thick kind of condoms if that makes a difference.
I don't think there was anything other on my dick outside the condom other than pussy grool and lube, yet I'm scared shitless now. I feel like I did not do my part well enough so I will face the worst consequences.
Should I be worried? Because for all intents and purposes I have OCD and can't reliably assess the risk. There either is no risk, or the risk is too high.
Fucking help
Like she sat on my lap basically on my dick, and even other stuuf, there's just one.little.problem.
SHE'S IN A FUCKING RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER DUDE.
So it's fucking embarassing already, but i kinda needed someone to hug me or something like that, I've been feeling pretty sad lately, (we didn't fuck or anything) but I didn't feel anything. no emotion, I didn't feel anything that came with her touching me, we've been talking before, it wasn't my first time where she touched me, when she wasn't in a relationship,And so i felt nothing, apathetic as always.
feelsbadman
How do I overcome this burnout? How can I finish a project that I have no motivation to finish? I want to have it done by this coming Thursday. It's actually fairly close to being finished; probably just another day, maybe 2 days of work, but I can't even bring myself to open the program.
Im a Tunisian neet student
what to do
- We broke up 2 years ago in high school because of outside circumstances
- A year later, she informs me of a plot by a classmate to falsely accuse me of rape leading to my ex-girlfriend and I growing close. I jokingly tell her that I “owe her a favor”
- Because of the favor, her and I go back ‘n forth half a dozen times. We go on secret dates for coffee, we go out for lunch, we go shopping, she does a photoshop for me. All of this is happening while I work for the Trump campaign
- When November rolls around, she shows up at my house to give me gifts and brag about winning the election
- About 2 weeks ago, she hits me up again to not-so-subtly hint that Trump officially being out of office means the barrier between us is gone
- I’m planning on copying her format from November with my own spin on it
Her family loves me. My family loves her. What initially drove us apart is gone— what should I do?
I moved away from our hometown after college as all i remember when I'm here is humiliation at failing at the social game and how i paid the price for it. It worked out well for me and I started growing into a normal human being and not a walking heap of shame, but when corona hit i moved back and now I'm reminded constantly five years later of the entirety of that meltdown.
Five years later not a day goes by where i don't regret not cutting out that friendship. To make matters worse, said person has done a complete 180 and is now going to use the skillset that helped them break my spirit when we were younger to help people (people reading and manipulation. They're becoming a therapist.)
This girl my friend has been trying to score with for two years and my other friend has been gaming hard. It was kinda weird, since the “gaming hard” friend did kiss her a couple weeks ago while she was blacked out.
This same girl I hooked up with on Sunday, but I fell asleep by the time she was interested in sex cuz my housemate was throwing a party and I was super gone. She has been hitting me up daily, and invited me over to smoke weed with her at her place.
I was rubbing her a bit on his thighs and arms, as she lay on me watching a movie. We never got to kissing, and even went out for food. Lots of giggles. Anyhow, after like three hours of hanging out, she said she was getting tired and I offered to bounce since I couldn’t really read her at all (physically flirty, squeezing her body, but nothing outright sexual like kissing) but she said she wanted to see how the movie ended. So we finished it, she walked me out, and when I was hugging her she kissed me twice on the lips, pulling back before I could do anything more.
So... is she a tease or is this dating for prude people? I haven’t dealt with this situation in a while, since I’m more of a one-night stand person and the last time a girl did a lot of these tease hangouts, I caught feelings (we dated for a while) so I’m wary
So at that moment I decided fuck it. I told them my parent had covid-19 and that I had to self isolate per company policy. Then a little less than a week later I told them I tested positive for Covid-19. Boss asked to see my test results but I never sent them and have been bullshitting since (I did get tested, I was negative). Per HIPPA privacy laws, my employer cannot demand test results or medical info from my healthcare provider.
Worse, they told us they were going to lay us off with severance a couple weeks ago (making the whole faking sick thing moot and pointless), but then they cancelled the layoff at the last minute.
I called my doctor, had a phone visit, and he said he's happy to fill out FMLA paperwork to send to my employer to let them know I do have Covid-19 and that my symptoms have lingered on, as sometimes happens, which prevents me from doing my work.
Here's my question. Can I still get unemployment benefits if I'm on FMLA leave? If I don't send my employer anything, I will be fired for "job abandonment" on Wednesday. I really just want to get unemployment especially since the gov't is giving out extra money. I don't plan on being a mooch forever, but I need this right now not to kms. Does anyone have any advice?
Should I send my doctor the paperwork and go on FMLA leave? Or should I just bullshit more and allow myself to be let go on Wednesday and then file for unemployment?
>real life women dont arouse me. I like the way they look and feel some slight stirring in my pants but nothing close to an erection
>guys that seriously look like women, not like irl trannies, arouse me though. I have boners and thoughts of dominating them and all. but whenever something remotely masculine happens with them I lose interest
>I can get aroused to the thought of women if im thinking of them romantically, like with romantic situations instead of visual things
>I have flashes of semi-porn related thoughts that I have to forcefully drive away sometimes
I've also never been able to approach or talk to attractive women irl. I think I have some deep seated issues related to women and that's stopping me from getting anywhere, porn-addiction wise or dating wise
>entire world comes from her - I was a shut in, so all my friends, 4 years of memories, work contacts etc are tied to her
>later becomes jealous when I start talking to new girls, in fit of rage aims to do as much damage my friendship group, starts telling them I am abuser and other lies, everyone from distant friends, colleagues to my closest circle. “Don’t tell him I was talking about this to you, I’m scared he’ll hurt me” (I live on other side of country)
>circle initially doubtful but after more rants from her end up believing her, egged on by her female friends they all stop talking to me
>feeling guilt, she tells me why after I ask why no one wants to hang
>disappointed, block her and resign the old friendships to the scrap heap
I’m hurt that they wouldn’t even talk to me about it after 4 years of being their friends, but glad they showed their colours. Don’t have any feelings about ex beyond disappointment over the slander and sadness all those good memories now have a taint. Just a sad feeling to have almost everyone you were close to in the last 4 years disappear, and return to square one of being isolated. What can I do to get my mind off of this and move forwards?
What's a good board/forum that's like pre-Qoomer 4/pol/? I don't want to rock up there and see a bunch of spergy muh-secret-spy screenshots.
I feel bad because I know that I'm harming her by not pointing out her hypocracies, but I pity her too much, am I doing the right thing or should I explain that she's being unfair
eg.
>Playing a Brian Eno tape at 8pm
>She gets super mad and says she was sleeping and that it's late and that I'm being inconsiderate
>The previous and next day she was watching TV at full blast at 3:30am and I just put earplugs in because why get upset.
>She complains about how our other housemates don't respect her because they wash her dishes/cookware for her since she leaves them there for days
>She complains about clutter and then leaves her bag and shoes etc. all over the house.
I know that I'm taking the easy way out by just de-escalating the situation, but I can't help but view her as a child throwing a tantrum. I empathise with the fact that she is bothered by things as everyone is during co-habitation, but I'm sad that she can't see that she must be doing things that are also irritating to the rest of the household.
She says that if we have an issue that we should bring it up, but whenever we do she flies off the handle and says that we're "overreacting". But it seems that ignoring her would doom her to never learning how to bring up her grievances in a calm and diplomatic way.
Maybe I'm overthinking things.
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I don't think I'm too dumb for any of those. I see people who are passionate about writing poetry or making music or whatever but what they create is not good and their criteria for liking the literature or music they like is pleb af. Like, I'm a better reader than some people who are passionate about writing.
What's my problem? What do?
Problem is, I'm kind of stuck on what to refer to art crimes, especially forgeries and the like.
Any ideas on where to start?
We study at the same campus, and with this lockdown and both of us being new to the city, I'm the only one she hangs out with occasionally and she seeks a lot of advice and comfort in me. Though I'm over the potential dating phase, we have so much in common and in sync with so much, that I can't help considering her a potential and ideal partner.
Should I just accept it once and for all and not risk fucking up the friendship or should I actually invest more into her? I've learned from someone else that she actually wants a BF, so I guess there is a chance.
I haven't said anything but I always get pissed off and cancel any plans entirely when she tries to reschedule. For example, this week my city is gonna be on lock down for two weeks. I asked her if she wanted to come over and live with me for those two weeks since I wouldn't be able to leave my city to see her. She said yes. Today, the day before the city goes on lock down, she said she's not gonna be able to come because school for her brother has been canceled and her dad wants her to come over and spend the next few days until Friday, basically baby sitting him. She then said I could leave the city anyway and come pick her up on Friday, but I told her to forget it because I'm not risking getting caught by the cops and getting a fine.
I don't blame her for putting her family first, but she has said she wants to marry me. If she sees me as her husband then she shouldn't put her family, who basically hate her, first every time.
- 5'7
- White
- Emo
- Nerd
- Moody
Sorry if I wrote this whole thing weirdly but do any of you have advice? I feel like I'm going insane.
Is that a normal thing to happen and will it still be able to heal on its own?
Cant go to doctor. USA and lost job/insurance from Covid.
In her befriending me, I developed a crush on her. Which has been absolutely tearing me apart since I know she doesn't like me at all.
Now I've been the type of guy to just keep to myself, and when I'm by myself I am content.
It's always when I try to start socializing again that I get thrown into unfavorable situations that devastate my mental health.
At this point I am considering just cutting them off entirely, but then that just makes me the bad guy.
Am I just supposed to grin and bear the pain I am experiencing, keep interacting with my friends who make me feel so bad?
I feel like no matter what action I take, I lose.
I am currently a college student and while in my dorm I experienced a drug induced psychosis and and currently dealing with the resulting effects while i'm home with my parents. To be honest its killing me and is making me question my life and other trivial parts of my identity. I am talking to 3 doctors a week with the help of my parents but I can't help but keep the truth from them regarding how I am really feeling. Can anyone help with some advice or coping strategies?
What other sites should I try? Should I even be looking right now with the covid restrictions in place? Seems kinda fucked right now.
My life is miserable and pathetic. The thing is I have very little talent for everything in general thus I avoid trying new things as I know I will suck and feel miserable. I don't get joy from shit just from doing it, I'm happy only when things go well.
I feel I'm missing out in life because of this. How do I get over my bad self esteem so I can start enjoying hobbies even if I'm shitty at them.
>Things go well
>Talk for a few weeks after but plans keep falling through
>No communication all November
>Early December reach out, ask why no contact
>"I'm busy and stressed b/c of the Holidays, its my kids birthday but I can't even afford my car payment, let alone a party"
>white knight mode engage
>offer to send her money to help out
>she reluctantly accepts
>we talk for a few more weeks
>things seem to be going well again
>she's reaching out and initiating conversations
>says she really wants to see me
>week of Christmas literally texts "I'm gonna try for this week!"
>Text her on Christmas, wish her a happy holiday
>ghosted again, never replied, haven't heard from her in over a month
What's the play? I know I probably sound like a pathetic cuck but I really like this girl and I don't understand how I wound up back in the same situation. Do I bother reaching out again or just put it behind me? I've been trying to do the latter but I just keep thinking about her.
I currently work two jobs and also try to make time for my creative pursuits. Both the jobs are kind of dead end, so I have decided to study for my teaching certificate as well. I will do the teaching certificate part time, it will be between 3 and 6 hours per week.
I am wondering if anyone had any resources or advice for maintaining time management. I go to sleep every night at about 10pm and wake up around 7 to do my own personal stuff, work from 9-4 about five days a week.
I don't use social media and I barely game. But I know that when I start this degree it will result in a big amount of mental real estate. I'm just wondering if anyone had any advice for approaching this -- apps that help with study, books or resources on constructively using time, I'm interested in pomodoros etc too.
If marrying her is what it takes, I'd gladly do it, but I'm more concerned that her family wouldn't approve of it.
What the fuck do I do?
>start jerking off, she's apparently never masterbated before because she's "ugly and gross" (she's not)
>convince her to try rubbing her clitoris
>she does, thinks it's gross
>I lose my boner because she says she's turned off too
>she asks me if I'm turned off because she won't masterbate
>I say yes
>"anon I'm pretty tired, I'm going to bed"
>obviously just uncomfortable
am I a dick?
At least in real life the people around me are mostly nice to me. But because of covid I haven't been able to do much or see friends.
On 4chan I don't care if people insult me because they're completely anonymous. But on a forum it's like these people are so pathetic it actually makes me upset. I can't explain it. Does anyone know what I am talking about?
anyone actually got laid on this app?
Says shes gay.
I don't believe her.
Shes hot.
I want her to have my kids.
If I let her go its Italian and Japanese hookers for the rest of my life... The man in me says i should keep bothering her stupid ass.
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