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Need tips to become that man
My motivation is pretty simple: i don't have any goals except: physically improve my body and health; have a family (loving wife+2 or 3 kids); and be a (most likely failed) writer.
In what ways should i improve to have a somewhat "successful" female (a doctor/public officer/enterpreneur) accept the arrangement in wich i take care of the house and kids while she provides for us?
My current pros: I like children a lot and outside of being awkward at carrying the really small ones i don't have any problems taking care of them; i can easily keep a house clean and organized as long as it doesn't have a "female touch" (unnecessary furniture, objects and decoration)
My current cons: i'm terrible at cooking and still pretty far from having a body like pic related.
Also, if there's someone from /fit/: what lifts would make one a better father?
And the most important question of all: How the hell do you have a conversation with a stranger that ends in you staying in touch? Do you honestly just ask for their number? Do you ask them on a date, just like that, just having met them?
>Trying to do my work
>Teacher mentions Lazy eyes an example of how eyes can be impaired
>Trained my eyes from a young age to focus together at an optometrist
>Non dominant eye only drifts when im tired
>class stares at me
>Annoying as fuck Faggot keeps on staring at me and laughing
>Imagine beating him to death Once Upon a Time In Hollywood style
>Next block
>teacher forces me to group with him
>swallow my pride
>"Look, lets just get through this."
>Anon i thought you hated me, gonna be Mature Boomer?
>Just ignore him as hes shit talking me with his friends and im doing all the work
>some fat hog who had the luck of being popular says "Hey Cutie."
>Resist asking if she tried killing herself with an Shotgun or an Elephant Rife to penetrate the fat
>Start fantasizing about beating the shit out of him again
Any tips bros literally have no fucking clue what i want to do
I don't know how to quell thoughts like this though. I have never even had a relationship. I have no idea what I am doing. I was honestly floored when she actually gave me her number.
I have a cousin. My cousin is //probably// an incest baby. My grandpa was known for being abusive and there are some hints from my own mother's past that hinted at him sleeping with my aunt (but no confirmation on whether it happened - but making out on the living room couch is a pretty good sign).
Unfortunately, my grandpa and my aunt have since passed so it's... hard to figure out what happened exactly or what the truth actually is. (FTR, my aunt was kind of a drug using prostitute, so we never knew who his dad was or my other cousin's dad was but they were DEFINITELY different dads).
Now, my cousin's like in his 30s and living a pretty decent life. He looks almost exactly like my grandpa and he's a little slow at times, but nothing that stops him from holding down a job and pursuing his hobbies. He doesn't know the rumors that go around in the family because, well - none of us aren't really sure if we should tell him in the first place.
So, advice: if you suspected someone in your family was a product of incest, would you tell them so that they could get tested and figure it out? or is it best to let the secret die with the rest of the family and let him live his life as normal? I'm really unsure which would be the best option because if I was in his shoes, I know I'd like to know? But you know, I'm NOT in his shoes and his life has already been hard with his mom being who she was.
Your life is the plot of a movie that ends when you die. Therefore, it's best to structure your life like a good movie; with an interesting setup, rising action, and a satisfying ending.
I have strong reason to believe that I'm going kill myself before I grow old, maybe within the next year. I'm content with this as long as I make an awesome "movie" before I go. My goal is to get rich quick in a fun way.
Here's what I'm uncertain of. I'm working on two "big" projects right now that each have the ability to structure the rising action of my movie's plot.
1.
>A 4chan inspired social network designed to be a safe-havan for racists/bullies/extremists. My goal is to stir up as much controversy as possible as a form of free advertising (it's a little edgy but whatever). 20% complete.
If it takes off, I'll have the power to manipulate posts and/or sell it to a different company for $.
2.
>A website that sells a specific type of illegal goods in exchange for Bitcoin. 70% complete.
If it takes off, I'll have a massive wallet of Bitcoin. It's not interesting enough though - I would need to find something to fund with the money.
Do I opt for the greater social impact, or do I go for the easy money. Am I just a crazy person with autism? Where do I go from here /adv/?
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>situation
1. I'm pretty sure she's been flirting with me
2. dating at work is fine
3. don't have any other contact info
4. we work together
5. we're pretty much never alone together
6. (And this is kind of the most important one) I only see her like once a week.
I take supplements like magnesium + vitamin D.
BUT I'M UNABLE TO SIT DOWN AND STUDY UNLESS I DRINK GREEN TEA.
What to do?
I had a FWB I used to see about twice a week and it felt good, but she wanted commitment and someone else was willin to give her that.
What do?
*finished my degree little ago, I'm tryna learn to code and study for a masters next year
>me: hey you have good taste, I'm here to play mario kart too
>her: doesnt read it
>me after a couple days: yo I dont usually text twice but ur qt af and I'm really feeling the mk
>her: bold of you to double text (eyes emoji)
>her: I only play double dash
>me: whaddya know, that's my speciality
>her: do you have it?
>me: yeah I got it around somewhere
>her: cool let's play it sometime
>me: sure you gotta gamecube at your place?
She hasn't responded in about a day. I sorta wanna be bold and text again but maybe not. I thought this was sorta playful at first but I realized it comes off as incredibly autistic.
What do?
>I'm working out everyday
>I have a great group of friends
>I'm doing well in college (almost 4.0)
>I'm down almost 40 pounds since November
But still I feel nothing. No joy no sadness, just nothing. I feel like a husk just going through the motions. I have so much free time but no matter what I do with it I'm bored. I find myself just staring at the wall for hours because I can't find anything I want to do.
What do I do? I hate this existence, I want more than this, I want to be happy again.
Like, I can admire beautiful women, and I like to cuddle, nurture, kiss, and generally daddy girls, but in terms of like fucking and real romantic connection?... Nope. I feel like I can only have really intimate relationships with guys, and with men I crave to be fucked and dominated, pretty much the complete opposite.
The idea of being feminized and like reversing the roles that I typically have with women turns me on. I entertain the idea of being super femme, but I don't think I'd want to be that way all the time. I feel fucking weird about all of it though.
What is this? Is this normal?
He missed his last one and if he doesn't go tomorrow he's gonna have a warrant
He has something important to do tomorrow
and cant show up
I live in NY if i take his place tomorrow is it a Bad Idea?
I ask because I've actually managed to get over a good bit of my social anxiety in recent months and have been considering giving apps like bumble a try but I feel like I might just be asking to be humiliated when you're this much of a low value male. Would it just be waste of time at this point in my life or is it worth it to at least try?
I decided to post something because my interactions with the police haven't been as helpful as I hoped and I've been waiting for 8 hours for them to call me back.
Me and my ex split a few weeks ago after his behaviour had become extremely frightening and unhinged. I was anxious about how to get out of the relationship in the least damaging way possible but last week he forced himself into my house, broke my finger and punched my flatmate. The police were called and they came over but after then communication with the police went dead. Today he followed me around screaming at me because I won't talk to him. I know how unpredictable and unstable his behaviour is and I'm scared for my life.
What can I do?
>1 year out of college with a CS degree
>have codemonkey office job
>hate the work
>hate my boomer coworkers
>never in my life had any real friends
>never had a girlfriend
>not close with family
>don't know what it is like to have someone genuinely care about me
>was in love once but she just used me for affection and sex and never wanted to really commit to me
>live alone
>no passions or hobbies
>coping with marijuana and alcohol every night
>want to kms every weekend
>only thing therapist can recommend is give up these and start taking depression medication
Am I fucked? Life has passed me by. What do I do? Where do I go? I hardly have a relationship with anyone in my life right now.
Help
>I have always been there for her, supported her though transition, purchased dresses for her, make up, went to legally change her name and everything
>When she needed a hug or a shoulder to cry i was there
>I personally i don't mind doing all these things, i see them in a platonic way, she knows that, i don't see them sexually
>She asked me to kiss her for her birthday, i figured it was just a way for her to give back
>Since this she says she loves me, tells me she dreams about us being married, even if we cannot bear a child she wants "our kid"
>She constanly pushes me into having sex (By guilt-tripping) gave me a blowjob when asleep after i told her i didn't want to get one
"Don't you see me as a woman" "I knew you just were lookin down at me" "Was it all a lie?"
I understand she might have mistaken my attirude for something else, but she believes we cannot really connect unless we have sex
Or should i just embrace her and accept her for someone that loves me?
I doN't even do drugs even... I just fap to porn and play vidya. Why am I such a loser?
What do I do now? How do I get a job? I fear if I try doing any interviews now and people see my resume they'll just kick me out on the spot.
I know more or less how to HTML/CSS and do shitty webdesigns and I have marginal experience with javascript. Should I try finding some job related to this? Will I just be laughed at when they see my shitty resume?
Honestly I don't know what to do from now on and I don't want to become a hobo. Should I just kill myself?
Do you think that this article is a bit too extreme? It says " behaviors you should never tolerate" but should one really be that strict about that?
It's starting to fuck up my relationships with my male friends too. They usually won't invite me to anything because they know the girls don't want me there, and if I get to go to something they ignore me and talk to the girls.
How the fuck to I get the girls to like me? They honestly barely know me.
I've known girls whose condition was more severe than mine but they still attracted boyfriends. Different rules for women, I guess *shrug*
All of this is weird. I don't care what she does with her profile, but the fact that she said she was 'probably deleting it' weirds me out. I barely texted her on the thing to begin with, and only to set up / confirm the first date. Do I just not text her anymore because she's being crazy? Or is this normal girl behavior?
So I found this guy who lives in my city on instagram around 5 years ago who I fell for almost instantly. I've never interacted with him or seen him in person, but I really want to know if there's a chance for me to have something with him. Though we have never interacted online, there is a possibility he is already aware of my existence because of my occasional checking of his instagram stories, which isn't usual for a man to do to another man especially if you don't know each other. So last week this guy posted a screencap with his league of legends account and I immediately saw this as a chance to contact him.
Simple, I create a throwaway account on league, talk to him and see what happens. Problem is, I don't know how to talk to him, what to possibly say and if I should actually do it. I just don't want to go ahead in life thinking I didn't try, but this is also a very morbid circumstance in which to meet someone so I have my reasons to really doubt this
I don't know about his sexuality, which is what complicates me the most. As far as I'm concerned, he's never had a girlfriend (now 24), he has many female friends with whom he jokes in rather inappropriate ways, or would seem inappropriate if he were straight and has a bit of a tendency to overshare on the internet about what he's doing. and he has sort of a childish manner to present himself.
That's all I have for now, thanks if you come in to help
For some reason, I've been unable to do it. Not even sure why.
I am starting my first full-time job soon, straight out of college, and I would really like to get this over with.
How can I stop being a little bitch and get the guts I need to break up with her?
This is about my relationship of 2 years that I seemingly ruined for the rest of my life.
>start having casual sex with single mom co-worker
>download Tinder and Happn
>start talking with 12 girls who I got a match with
>start dating with 5 of them
>meet this 9/10 (she has bad posture) family oriented cutie today
>we practically fall in love
>now I have to break up with 5 girls and a co-worker
>I even have 3 dates scheduled with 2 of them already
How do I do it? What the fuck did I do? I got too cocky, bros, but I don't want to hurt them. Two of them keep saying they love me and all of them are asking for dates in the next day. How do I break up with 6 girls without being an asshole or ghosting them?
Sheriff stated that I was doing 76 when I know I was doing 55 and sped up to 65 to keep a car from tailgating me and to pass the two cars in the right lane.
When I asked him to check his radar equipment- he held a thin piece of paper in front of his radar like it was the factory equipment tuning fork... I then asked him if he had an FCC compliant piece of equipment- he quips back "I dont know the science behind it..." I then ask him if he has any sort of documentation affiming his training that he can visualy affirm my speed, to which he responds: "I have 20 years on the force"
Im obviously dealing with a backwoods hick who has a badge. anyone have pointers how I can affirm his operation/equipment licences? Im gonna lawyer up because its a $746 ticket.... and ill be damned if im gonna stand and take this.
Been thinking about picking up some sport for quite a while to do exactly that, but always fear that too quickly my deficiencies will become obvious, I will only hold everyone back and everyone starts noticing how severely lacking my motor and coordination skills are.
She just texted me finally admitting that she likes me. Anybody have any advice on how I should respond? I want to let her down easy and make things as least awkward as possible since we may run into each other in the office.
haha some days, I couldn't keep roach straight because my hand was shaking from being so nervous
It was there for me when I was at my lowest, and I know it will be there for me when I'll be at my peak
I rarely get emotional but right now, I am crying while writing this. This post has no purpose except to throw my thoughts into the void and to apologize to /adv/
Because when I came here to ask for what I should do with the cheating situation, I didn't listen.
I took her back and it ruined me.
It's been some time now and I've been drastically changing things my life that I wanted to change for years.
Thank you, thank you for everything.
Next time, I will listen.
I was "parentified/covert incested", and was my mother's little emotional lapdog through all the my childhood.
My sister rebelled against the abuse, and I was brainwashed that everything was her fault.
My sister had a extremely troublesome teenage and adult years, with drug addiction and constant rotation of abusive boyfriends. I myself was a "stoner" during high-school and many years later.
Today, I find myself I'm my early 30ths, and have no idea who or what I am. I have been sober from alcohol now for a few days fairly heavy alcohol abuse for the last 10years.
Im married and have a kid, but my marriage is in the shitter because of the suppressed abuse, and honestly I don't think I even love her.
I don't have a single friend anymore as I cut contact with everyone. Even since high-school I was pushing away friends and eventually everyone.
What, the, fuck, do I do now?
I don't know where to start but I'll try to put as much detail as needed
I have been dating a girl for 8 months now (I'm 27 and she's 25) it started as a casual but exclusive relationship, I have never been much emotionally involved but I do care about her, on her side she's developped feelings for me
We have many things in common, shared interests, but also very different views on some things (politically, mainly)
It appears she doesn't want to have children, but I do, someday
side note : we're doing good sexually she's beautiful but I don't really like her body
Now here's the thing
She's going to Ireland for 6 months to practice english and have a job there, she insists that she'll be faithful to me
I thought it would be a good timing to break up, but it's not so easy now, it's true that I still feel good when I'm with her
Should I do it ? It is painful to let her go (I hate breaking bonds) but maybe it's the right thing to do, I still feel like I might regret it later... you know what you're losing but you don't know what you'll get
I've noticed in the last week that it randomly wouldn't boot up.
I turn the computer on, I see a light on the case indicating that it's on but it's completely unresponsive and doesn't display anything.
Typing on the keyboard does nothing, pressing caps lock or num lock doesn't light up the little lights.
What is causing this and how do I prevent it from happening in the future.
Thanks.
I stopped talking to her and one night in september I wanted to know how she was doing. She immidietly asked me out to do something. We do rock climbing and starts to make out with me by the end of the night. After this event, she doesn't answer until she finally message me saying she thought she answered me blablabla. She said that she's attracted to me and all the possible compliments but there was "something missing out". We basically end the conversation saying we'll see how it goes.
She again contacts me at the end of october saying she wants to do something and we go train at her gym. At the end, I lean towards her to hug her but she thought I was leaning in for a kiss so she pushes me back and says "wait I don't think you understand..." I just wish her a nice day and leave. She apologises a few days later but I don't respond.
By the end of december, she wishes me happy holidays and all and get progressively more chatty with me. She even wanted to do boxing with me but doesn't work out with her schedule and after I propose to do some at her gym, she "reads" but never replies.
A month passes and contacts me again because she noticed on my story I was closeby and wanted to see me. In the end it doesn't work out, I ask her out and says she's at a friends party and will let me know if they go out. In the end, she writes me later saying she is bored at the party and should have went along with me. No messages since last week.
What do?
>pic semi related
I’m in the UK, but I’ve already stocked up on food, medicine and a few masks, mostly to assert some sense of control over an uncontrollable situation. I know it’s silly.
It sucks because id love to have bros to play videogames with and not give a fuck about looking like shit in front of.
most of the girls in my matches never actually talk to me or they talk to me only once and never seem to have the time for an actual conversation and i've had to wait an hour just a response to a simple question because they are "busy" and when i ask them if they want to meet the tell me they "need to get to know me better first" when they barely interested to begin with or they tell me they will "let me know" when they are available which never comes
and i feel like i have to interrogate them just to learn anything about them as they always give short answers
and sometimes i have to wait days or weeks or a month for them to message back when i just want a simple conversation
i just wish these women never bothered swiping right on me and wasting my time, money, and my emotional stamina
and another thing
sometimes they will suddenly unmatched me really quickly out of the blue during a conversation without even saying why
i talked to one girl who quickly asked if i lived in her area which i did and then asked for my number
i thought a girl my age asking for a cell phone number was odd since most girls use social media
i asked if she was sure if she wanted just my phone number and or if also she wanted my social media
i put my phone away and wait for a response
i check back and find her gone and probably unmatched me
like fuck what's her problem?
Now I am trying to get over it. But it's very hard. How do I cope with knowing that there is a big chance that I will never have a girl like that in my life again? It's really heartbreaking. It makes me not want to live anymore
I’m mostly depressed because I keep running away from things that’ll make me happy. Like lifting, boxing & Jiu jitsu. I want to toughen up, and shake off the anxiety. The anxiety of a poor heart, leading to a sudden death whilst I’m far away from home. I keep thinking to myself how can I be a man if I’m scared of action.
>pic related is my heart electrocardiograph chart. It was 87 BPM but I was anxious during it being taken
This has made her very upset and I wish there was something i could do. I have cried countless tears about this and I just want to admit it all to her but I know it wont matter because she might even be more hurt by me being a fake. I also dont want to risk any legal problems for myself if she goes to the police
Should I come clean and tell her? or just let her be sad and get over my own sadness?
I wish I was dead.
She doesn’t fucking get it though, I need to FUCK!
I have done a lot of research and apparently like 60% lose their sexdrive in long term relationships. What the fuck is that!? Why?
But I don't know what to say without sounding like a creep.
What do?
Fellow wizards, figured out how to cope with chronic loneliness and dealing with the fact that you may be wageslaving for the rest of your life? I thought it was supposed to get easier as you got older (and became a wizard) to deal with disappointment.
We finally exchange numbers. She ask for a video selfie and I send it to her.
Next thing she says is that she is sorry but she is not feeling it now.
Suffcie to say my confidence is just dying at moment. I'm not some ugly monster but very plain slightly below average dude.
Why are people so cruel and judmental on looks alone? We were chatting for days about topics we shared. I'm in tears bro's i just can't handle it anymore.
And my gf isnt in school rn due to a few reasons shes trying to get into another one but you know European governments are gae and make everything hard so it takes a bit and my mom keeps complaining to me I should push her to go to school get a job sport etc but like how do I tell my mom and its driving me insane bc she keeps doing this and I'm just done
So I've seen these posts lately - these girls selling their nudes on 4chan for money. I know it works because I convinced one of my friends to buy some of their pictures, and they followed through.
This is my call to you, Anon. What can I do, as a MaleAnon, to make money, too? I've been looking for odd jobs on craigslist, trying to stream, make videos, and I'm going to college but I still can't make ends meet.
I'll make personal videos for you, take meme pictures in real life (I live in NYC) - your wish is my command. These E-Whores are selling pictures that you can find on the internet easily. I'll do your fucking homework.
Add my discord. Kosmaul#9196
I really like History but I'm gonna do CS because I also want a job
What are some techniques I can use to cheat to help my score?
Phones, food and drinks are not allowed in this test. There is no math involved. It's a matter of remembering the answer to the 100 questions. There are 2000+ possible questions that may be on the test.
>She is like that to every one of her clients
>She knows i'm wealthier than her and wants me as an escape to her financial situation, She's just behind the money.
>She actually likes me.
I don't know what to think. I have been trying to not think of her but after today's fucking, it's becoming unbearable. Is a hooker just an unredeemable damaged good?
>Had one gf in 4th grade
>Started working a few months ago
>Figured out my coworker likes me
>Both work part time so don't work together often
>Was gonna ask for her snapchat the last time we worked together but she went home early
>Found out she's leaving the job soon
>Her last day was yesterday
>It's a retail store, so yesterday I went in to pretend to shop
>Was planning on talking to her then and at some point ask for her snapchat
>She wasn't in the front, she was somewhere in the back
>Never got to talk to her
We're both seniors in high school, but I take all my classes at the local community college so we don't see each other outside of work. Now I have no way of seeing her. Was planning on going to the high school today to talk to my counseler abouf something and maybe I'd see her there, but that's not a great chance.
I already looked up her name on snapchat to see if I could find her but that fell flat.
Would it be weird to ask some of my coworkers if they know it?
Otherwise is there anything else I can do or did I miss my shot?
I could afford to pay this increase but it'll put me at the edge of my living expenses. enough to pay for everything comfortably but not much left over for saving. is this an okay way to live for a year or two while I'm working my way up from my entry level job or am I being foolish for considering it?
>dr takes extended leave and pushes our appointment to next week
>out of pills for a week, no other dr will sign off on prescribing me more
>get hit hard with the flu overnight
>practically paralyzed mind and body at this point
I feel like I’m going to die, what can I do to feel better
![serveimage[1]](https://i.4cdn.org/adv/1582635663153s.jpg)
I also noticed that when listening to drill music (dark nihilistic gangster rap music), I also started to laugh when the Rapper says horrible things about killing other people in his bars. In the past I would never, on the contrary, it would shock me. But now I regularly listen to this violent music, and I even started to research on gangs and their histories. I recently read a thread on 4chan about a girl thug from Chicago and I laughed multiple times, even though that's fucking horrible that people grow up to become like that. But it's like, all those events kinda amuse me in a way, and how things turned out. I feel bad about myself for feeling that way though, we are talking about murders and all that
The thread in question :
https://yuki.la/r9k/28210368
Am I losing my sense of empathy and sympathy? Am I becoming a psychopath, or at least a very desensitized person?
>live 3 doors down from miserable old man who had taken a disliking to me from the moment I moved in.
>My dad, a big real estate guy and contractor, says it’s because I’m young, says he’s seen it before
>this old fucker is like a bully, I hate to say this but I feel like I’m being picked on, hes a genuine pos, he has this extremely smug aurora to him, he will stand outside and just hard ball mean stare at me if I’m doing something in the front yard, can’t tell you how many times I decided to stare him down until he looks away, a few times I’ve even shouted “hey, whatcha looking at? Can I help you?” And then he usually replies with something to make him sound like he’s just an innocent bystander doing nothing wrong.
>my first week here about an inch of my car was sticking out onto the lane and he took a picture of it, sent it to the strata council and I got an email threatening that they will fine me if I park like that again, as if it was on purpose
>have a small fenced backyard with a little patch of grass, I have a medium sized dog that lives with me
>let her out. She shits on the grass, he walked passed, took a picture of the shit and sent it to the strata saying I need to clean up the dog shit immediately or they’ll fine me
>i eventually purchased a truck and had to park it on the road outside the complex because my driveway wasn’t big enough, and one time I got home early, my complex
Is RIGHT beside an elementary school, and all the moms and dads were parked taking up all the spots, so I decided to park in a guest for an hour, there were no other vehicles in any guest spot
i don't have a social life and i have no wing man
i want to actually find love/romance or at least lose my virginity
In my early 20s and late teens I was having steady sex with different people, but mid 20s hit. In the last 5 years I've only hooked up with one girl and we fucked twice. The last 3 years have been nothing but dry. I'm sexually frustrated and feel like a loser because normies make it seem like sex is this thing that you're entitled to have at least every two weeks.
Please give serious answers only, google is useless at these questions
Well I thought I had heard the last of her but apparently there was trouble in paradise and she gave me a call recently. Apparently, her husband left after he had suspicions that the child was not his. So they had a paternity test and the child is not his, prompting him to leave her.
She told me that I'm the only other guy that she had slept with in that time period, so that means I am the father. However, she threw me another bombshell in that her husband had already signed the birth certificate. Apparently, he only really suspected the child not his several months after the fact when his family had suspicions and they both fully believed it has his child.
So basically, he is the dad as far as the great United States is concerned. What should I do here? I know I should get a paternity test to make sure she's not lying to me but should I even get involved at all? Assuming that child is mine, I feel like I have responsibility to it. On the other hand...that other guy is technically the dad so maybe I should just pretend I don't exist? I feel like none of this is my fault so I should just bow out quietly.
>Best buddy in the entire world has a gorgeous little sister
>I'm only about 8 months older than her, little bit less
>We've been doing the nasty together for years now, our first time together was right before her 15th birthday, both each other's first time
>She's 19 now going on 20, I'm approaching 21
>We're trying to find a way to tell her older brother, my friend, that the 2 of us are an item
>We want the whole "confirmed relation on Facebook, she can publicly show me off to her jealous friends, etc"
>Struggling to think of a way to tell my friend without getting my teeth kicked in
>Also want to avoid lying to him about how long we've been together
I'm at the point already that I'm just gonna drop it on him, and damn the consequences. But I'd like to be able to cushion the blow if at all possible. He's been my best friend since we were 5 years old.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=k5hWWe-ts2s
As a youngster, I thought the song was about a date raping chad who intentionally shielded his feelings to achieve his objective. Now, I realize that he cannot love the best thing that ever happened to him because his heart was removed by the worst thing that ever happened to him. An irony is that, the one who destroyed him was a perpetuating chain of others' hurt upstream and, it trickles down.
An individual is the one who feels the pain but it is hard for them to believe that most of us have and still do feel the same. I don't know why nature sees fit to inoculate against first love but, first loves are sorta irrational in the strategy for life. You need to find one to want and need as a team member. Not sacrifice everything over nothing.
Do you have any examples of things you've learned from songs? Say a few words or we are just posting songs and there are better places for that.
Grow out of this and grow the fuck up, man!
I can't say I havent thought about it or anything, but those are mostly intrusive thoughts and not at all fantasies. I realize we're basically platonically dating already and im not sure what to do.
like, should I give him space to get over me? just fuck him already just to see what happens? keep doing what we doing and fuck the haters?
he means a lot to me and i dont want to break his heart :(
im in the mood for some personal transformation but im not shure what path i should take...
Im 35 and have a degree in
B.Sc Process engineering
M.Sc Engineering management
at the working for a car manufacturer that pays pretty well, but all these "project managment" is kind of boring and seems to lead to nowhere..
So Im thinking about doing something new ...
well, is there any adive you can give?
Because there's no catching up and you've missed too much already. this feeling is hellish, every day is just dread and regret and I don't know what to do
We hit it off crazy well and she still wants to continue to see me. Problem is that she's in an open relationship. I'd be cool with that if we were just smashing, but I want more than that. She's shared with me that she's in a really tight spot with her primary partner. They're having issues and she's sexually frustrated.
Is there any way I can take advantage of this and swoop in for the kill? Does anyone have any tips or ideas for how to handle this? Should I just get out before I get hurt?
my parents are fucking retarded boomers who don't understand anything
they' don't get it that most towns can be quarantined and we be royally fucked in a few weeks.
my dad is beyond stupid and inept, he's watching his shit soccer again instead of prepping and moving out to get to the countryside and get away from people.
i'm on welfare, i get my check soon but i fer it's gonna be too late.
i can't drive either & i need at least a trash contained turned into a shelther and i don't have any means to get one.
i'm such in deep shit
i thought about living in the water sewers but i don't know the layout and temperature.
and i have a retarded dog who can't hunt and is stuck in baby mentality/want to play with everything
i don't have a weapon to hunt with in the forest i could live in!
i can definitely get myself a shovel (i have one) to dig a big hole in the ground for shelther
i live in a extremely dense population area (suburbs) and the big hub town is just a shore over.
it's the worst recipe for disaster.
what do i do?
>ghosted her when she tried to come back and I found out what happened
>has tried multiple times to get in touch with me
>even went so far as checking my whatsapp stories that I post for family bsck Home
Is she checking up on me to see if she still has me or do you think she wants me in a genuine way
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Local law enforcement is trying to get some leads, and i have a feeling it could be someone on 4chan, some forum, or other digital community.
Thanx!
When I was a younger I'd literally go days, weeks maybe even a month without brushing my teeth. My breath was killing but instead of fixing it I just got so insecure about it to the point where I couldn't talk to someone while looking at them unless I put hands in front of me or like elbow or something to cover up.
Now more than 6 years later it's still haunting me. I'm brushing both my teeth and tongue at least twice a day and chewing mint gum after every meal. Yet it still haunts and worries me.
For example, my girlfriend doesn't like making out so we never actually do it and most of the time just choose to kiss me fast like a bird pecking multiple times. When I confronted her about this she said it's because she has problems with breathing and can't breath when we're kissing, since then we started doing it a bit again but tells me to wait for her to catch/hold breath before we do it.
Other examples would be me still trying to cover myself as much as possible unintentionally, I often catch myself speaking to someone with my elbow in front of me like I'm resting. Some people have even commented on me doing the elbow thing and not looking directly at them.
So I will try to find a woman with good genes and breed with her. Then I will dedicate my life to make my offspring the best human beings possible
Do you think this is a noble purpose? Should I begin now? I am 24 years old
>they fight with me and another friend because we are not responding their messages
>group disbands
>starting feeling guilty because i never respond messages
how the fuck do i get rid of this feeling
guess i got fucked, once again
>overweight
>bald
>no friends
>shit job but at least it pays well
Why shouldn't I just end it now? I've even been working out and eating less, and I've seen some results, but I just don't really care. My family and highschool friends live in a different state and I don't want to go back there.
Nothing makes me feel good and I don't really want anything out of life except for a romantic partner. I've had many GFs so I'm not worrying about not finding another. I just don't know what I live for anymore. I'm kinda over this whole "being alive" thing.
>Final year of high school
>Wasted most of my good years being an autist
>Going to work for the rest of my fucking life
Anything to remedy this feel?
On top of that I just don't know how to maintain a friendship when I see people less than daily or once a week like in school. I don't know what is considered needy, how I can ask people to hang out casually etc. This is why i'm afraid that I might react pretty distant/cold once somebody does check up on me or tries to contact me. I'm afraid of being that needy, desperate person.
And after a while I feel like people tend to pick up that something is off with me. They ask me out less and less and don't really check up on me anymore (which is fair of course, considering they don't hear from me all that often. They can't be blamed but it does hurt.)
I'll probably never be fully free of anxiety, but what steps can I take to improve and actually function like a normal human being when it comes to friendships? Because if I keep going on like this i'll probably end up being all alone once I hit 30.
Do you know any good source for SM/Media/Influencers from all around the globe especially UK, DE, IT, FR? I looked on google and only good tool I found is hypeauditor. I work for Social Agency and we are looking for instagram influencers. I cant find any correct facebook group also, which would be cool too..
May the force be with you
But I can't keep a hobby. I move on. My interests never settle. I never get past the intermediate stage in any hobby. I get basic competenncey and drop the hobby.
What the fuck is wrong with me. Why can't I just stick with something. I have no consistency.
Here's what I don't get. I also did Doordash in 2019, but I received a regular old 1099 misc form. I got roughly $4000(box 7) from DD and $6000 from Ubereats. Why the fuck did I get a nice old 1099 from DD, but have to deal with this summary autism with UberEats? Yes I'm asking for tax clarification on a nordic fishing image board.
>inb4 these jobs suck
I know.
>borderline NEET
>associate's degree gen-ed
>dropped out of university
>strong background in psych and business admin
>general interest in justice and computers
>social chameleon
>hate interacting with others
>bullshitting my way through life
>can't do manual labor anyone (more in reply)
I have these depressive, borderline crippling feelings regarding a certain thing.
I don't want to say what the thing is (although ahead of time I'll let you know it's not homo shit so this isn't about being confused gay or something. I'll get that out the way since I suspect it would be you anons first theory)
whenever i stumble upon that thing I can get depressed for long, and I sometimes get manic.
it's really not something I can just ignore as people on chans sometimes post it in a reply, or I just stumble upon it, and when an anime I watch incorporates that thing I just drop it completely on the spot.
when it gets extreme I get nothing but suicidal thoughts.
I tend to rationalize my feelings all the time, when I feel anything I try to deduce why I feel that way and usually I get over it. with this thing I'm drawing a complete blank, I have no idea why I feel that way and it's sort of an isolating feeling knowing that other people don't mind that thing and they might even enjoy it, there isn't really any resource online to help with it so had to turn to the advice board of a vietnamese kite surfing forum.
if it helps your analysis, I match the description of schizoid / SPD and I suspect I'm on the autistic spectrum (I never got diagnosed since it's pointless where I live)
Basically ive started earning good money doing something and everyday im excited and over the moon about it to the point that my adrenaline is buzzing all day, I should actually be calm and indifferent to it, and that's where I want to be.
Does mediation help?
suggestions please
And now I'm kinda clueless, I can't seem to find a phone that can compare to it. Even its successor, the k12, seems weak and looks ugly as hell.
/adv/ can you please give me a hand here? I need a phone with a big ass battery like my old k10, the other specs aren't as important to me, but 64gb of internal memory should be good.
Working for a recruitment agency and I have got assigned to work in a warehouse this week. Got to work with this 24 yo dude. He is very kind but smells like cheese. My problem is that he is a giant fuck up who became a father at age 19, did coke and amphetamine weekly, punched the mother of his child whom dated a pedophile (somewhat justified, but fucked), about to lose his driver's license for the 2nd time and has never done any other education than mandatory grade 9. Generally has issues with self-image, relationships and is $46.500 in debt.
We talk well together, but he apparently consider me his friend now, takes selfies of me and him to send to his friends on Snapchat, mentions me to the girl he dates over the phone. He has said he is specifically looking for new friends to help him improve his self-image and mental state for a better life and new relationship, which I think is kind of sweet, but it puts me in a position where I feel responsible to help him.
I am not working these jobs to make new friends, and I feel uncomfortable of how overly approachable he is towards me. I'm gonna work alongside him untill Friday and I am unsure on how to keep things cool and avoid him considering me his new drinking buddy, without making things awkward the next following days. He is not the worst, but I don't want to be in touch with him.
Why? What is in my brain that makes me want to stay alone and unhappy? I don't want to stay alone but I rationalize saying that I'm actually better alone and he will see all my flaws and leave anyway. Somehow how my mother/brother will feel if I ever get a bf scares me too a little.
I don't even know what the problem is so thanks for reading, <3 on you anons.
Please help how I can get credit.
I cant get someone to put me under them.
>Inb4 Hookers can pretend
No, that won't work. I know it's real and honestly I would get really embarrassed with the whole "pretend" thing.
what extreme training would be needed to require so much food?
I want to train to eat,not eat to train
I feel like it's a fucking weakness and a terrible flaw that has been there within me for my entire life. Yes, i overthink and overanalyze things, that's how my mindset and character were created.
How can i overcome this and improve my emotional state and skills?
I just can't get good grades in math tests, does not matter how much I study. I have very good grades in all subjects, less math
in the other years, I had "good grades" in math because I was good in sports so the school used to pass because of this.
but now I just can't see a future for me in school
I don't have expectations anymore and tried suicide last year but I'm too stupid so I failed
what I do?
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