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>date girl long distance for 7-8 months
>there’s been highs and lows, the lows get pretty low (ill elaborate if you want me to)
>want to bring her over to me in the usa to study at my university
>but im broke and she’s in one of the worst depressions ive ever seen
The ulcers in my stomach are going to kill me. A few days ago she told me I have one month to give her an action list of specifically what i am going to do and when if I actually want to keep her, otherwise she will end the relationship and will never talk to me ever again. I need advice, this is destroying me.
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.
>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard these days, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, who have given up, or who insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can fuck off to. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Resources and Books
Wingman.live: https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach for men trained on /htgwg/-approved material)
"Models": http://library.lol/main/C314BA7C8EC5C9B66174B08F4DC83931
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://libgen.li/edition.php?id=143167290
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/ (a bit cringe but decent advice)
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (something to listen to)
(new suggestions with working links are welcome)
REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.
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What are your opinions on this? Anyone educated himself there?
>Played video games all through out
>Got shit degree
>Didn't accomplish any dreams(Drawing, instrument, getting fit)
>Can't get a better job
>Brain is developed so there goes learning a new skill anyway
>Will more than likely die unfulfilled wishing what I could've done
Is there anything that can break the cycle or no? I've been having this vague feeling of nihilism like nothing I do will matter, that shit is already set in stone for me and it's a scary process
Thoughts? How do articulate this feeling to my GF to help save face?
I was molested from the age of 12 to 15 by a woman who was 18 at my youngest...
It fucked me up bad, no one believed me, no one sympathized with me and I became an antisocial asshole in response and fucked myself over.
I'm 25 now, and she just shows up again in my life. She's joined a friend group I'm in saying she knew me and now she's chummy with all of them and trying to make good with me.
>Why not tell them?
If there's one thing I learned it's that no one believes a boy over a girl, no matter what. Even friends.
>Why not just forgive and forget?
ONE. I fucking hate that bitch and I'm not gonna do that.
TWO. She's the one that showed up to where I was and inserted herself into my group to talk to me. This shit is on HER
I genuinely don't care if a woman thinks I'm weird, I feel demoralised however because I'm not a normie by any means and don't feel like I measure up to the common man. I've got an okay paying job but no friends and nothing that makes me feel like I should/could carry myself with confidence.
She is being paid 3k, she's not getting it just to diddle her thumbs and go Hurr Durr.
I want my questions to be answered.
I get jealous easily especially with sex. If a girl/guy mentions "me and my bf/gf are going to have sex tmroow" extreme low rage with jealous is inside me
ofc yes, i am 24yo khv 5'5
how do i stop being jealous?
i need to prevent this.
>want to study cinema
>check cinema schools in my country
>degree +9k €
What I have to do do?
Where are reasonable prices to study cinema?
How I enter in the industry?
How do I not come across as an unapproachable asshole to people because they see me as the person that never talks?
HELP. ADVICE?
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for a couple months she didnt date anyone and we talked a lot, i hoped i would be able to get her back, and it looked like she wanted me back. BUT then today I saw a post on her instagram "me and my gf" from some random fucking dude i've never seen before in my life. I asked some of our mutual friends and apparently she started e dating this cop with massive unresolved PTSD and he came over to visit and now she apparently in love with him and THEY HAD SEX. despite her being catholic. wtf. worst part is that she's like 5'4 and i'm 5'7 while this random fucking cop is 6'1. i thought about like beating him up but i would probably get shot and killed. what the fuck do I do? he's older than her by like three years too. I'm in love with her and watching her go out with some random cop who's gonna beat her is heartbreaking.
I'm 27 so i wonder if it's even possible. if i have any neuroplasticity left i want to maximize it to get one last burst of change, otherwise i'm not gonna make it in this life and will either commit suicide, do drugs, or die of hunger on the street.
I want to get laid and find that finding a girlfriend is too much work, and requires me to go out of my comfort zone, and not be autistic which is extremely hard to do, even just pretending and masking.
The problem with this is that I fear that I may get STDs, AIDs, and my dignity will be destroyed forever. I fear that I will have to hide this from my future wife forever, and the guilt is too much to bear, and I don't want to taint her with my dick that has been inside an escort.
What should I do? I've tried dating apps, and have gotten matches, but it's a pain in the ass, almost like doing fucking homework and chore to just get one to somehow hookup with you, not to mention I'm not good looking enough for them to one night stand me.
I almost manage to get a GF from a workplace, but my autism got in the way and fumbled. I tried online dating through video games and Discord but it's the same shit with dating apps, very low success rate. Not sure what to do.
Yet,
I'm a piece of shit. I have three side chicks I'm talking to at any point in time and I can't help but think about fucking other girls. I've held off so far and my gf is none the wiser. I really, really want to. I don't know how much longer my self control can hold. I don't know why this is, either. I always struggled with girls before my current gf but being with her has made me know what to do and now I can't help but want to fuck other chicks. I already have one that wants to meet up in a week. My gf trusts me implicitly so it would be easy to do it without her ever knowing, and this other girl is four states away. I want to stop, but I don't know how. I can't tell her, obviously, as she told me that she feels a visceral disgust at the thought of me fucking any other chick but her.
fuck me I have everything and I'm gonna throw it away by being a hedonistic bastard. How do I control myself so that I don't give in? I'm not an impulsive person and I've managed to hold it in but I'm unsure if I can forever.
this site has a bunch of miserable people, so idk if yall will be able to help me.
No, I don't give a fuck about my huwhite race, I'm technically not even white since I'm eastern European
No, I don't give a fuck about my nation or birthrate either, my people have isolated me when I was very young and when I needed socialisation the most
28 years old, I've been alone for my entire life and have no means of meeting a wife or gf, not even hooking up, I missed the opportunities to learn how to talk to women and it's a void I won't fill
My parents don't deserve grandkids, I explicitly told them I never asked them to bring me here, if I had a say in it, I wouldn't want to exist
None of them ever said they're sorry about my situation, I've never remembered them really loving each other like they're supposed to.
As for having children
> Gamble with someone else's genetics, luck, life, money and happiness
> They'd have to remember their family die
> They'd have to witness a potential war in the future
> They could get sick or have my luck which means I would've forced someone to live like me
Even if none of this happens, I still couldn't guarantee that they'll be really happy to exist.
The only reason given to have kids is that I'll feel better about myself and that's retarded for 2 reasons:
1) I wouldn't
2) It's insanely fucking selfish to even bring someone here just for my personal satisfaction
So for all those reasons, I'm leaving the shop. But I have to give notice because it wouldn't be right to let them pile up a stack of books for me if I'm not going to come buy them. Next week is the last week before the comics I've preordered start showing up. I really do not want to have this conversation face to face, so I'm thinking that I'll pick up my last books from the shop on Wednesday, and then send him an email. Something like this:
>Hello, this is [my name]. I'm cutting back on some things and so unfortunately I'd like to close my pull list at the [name of city] location. Thank you very much.
Is that okay? Is there anything you'd add? Even though I wasn't very happy with the service, the guy who ran the store was a nice dude.
I hate how they are so unambitious and all they do is trying to look good without ever doing anything with their mind. They are doing some things but they are not passionate about it. I just want to stop feeling angry whenever I see or hear a woman
Starting from my teens, I've spent so long desperately vying for the validation and respect of others out of a dire lack of self-esteem that I can hardly remember who I was and what I like; what I can recall that I like is hard for me to be interested in anymore because I'm so obsessed with this validation that it's all I can focus on, and the memories of the personality I can remember having are flimsy at best.
I don't know what I want to do each day when I'm not at work, what I want out of life, what my personality is like, and even small things like what I want to wear. The concept of who I am as a person vastly changes depending on who I am with and what I am invested in at that moment.
Is there any way out of this? I'm really desperate and I can't afford another therapist, my first was kind but not suited to what I am going through. I'm going to be in my twenties by the end of the year and don't want to live another decade like this. Please help me.
I have full blown fantasies of being a cyclist with a fuckbuddy who'll peel off my lycra and fuck my firm butt at the end of a day of cycling. Also desu the only reason I lift weights is to look sexy (mostly to women) but I secretly enjoy other men seeing my naked and in my underwear.
How common is this? And how do I stop?
We are both in our late 20s and I am the first boyfriend she ever had. She seems infatuated and in love with me but I do not think I really want to be with her because she is very liberal in her views and also gets upset and cries easily over things. She wants to have a baby among other things but I am not sure I want to have one right now.
>have so much in common it's almost uncanny
>she's never been kissed or in a relationship like me
>talk, watch shows and play games together daily for hours on end
>exchanged pics and she's a qt with an adorable smile
>only problem is that she's in another continent
What do I do, bros? I thought about saving up money and meeting her in her home country. I don't even know where our relationship should go from there if it becomes an LDR. We're both still too young and in university to get married.
We were never supposed to stay together, I had broken up with her the week she became pregnant because she was an excitable BPD train-wreck and I was tired of the love-bomb/discard cycles we were on pretty regularly.
The day I broke up with her I picked her up at a mall she was wandering aimlessly at (in a manic-depressive split) and took her back to my apartment and we fucked and I nutted in her and I basically told her we were still broken up, but I was open to being friendly.
About a month later and of course we're hanging out again (because I'm co-dependent and at the time really didn't know how to break something off with someone like that), and she starts feeling sick around me and viola she was pregnant.
Needless to say the baby was the single best thing that ever happened to me and stepping up to parenthood has been a defining feature of who I am today. I wouldn't trade it for anything, but his mother is a mess and drove me miserable (it is my child, we took paternity recently). We separated on a few occasions early on, but never stuck to breaking up, as I always wanted to be around my son. About two months ago I finally snapped after all whining and verbal abuse, we had an in-house split where I was sleeping in another room and we were being amicable like strangers. She ends up pissing me off a few times around my birthday and I figure it's enough, so I install tinder and start talking to other women.
One night I go out to see someone, knowing she'd find out, knowing she'd get pissed enough to toss me out, and of course all of that happened.
>we flirt a lot
>I like her, she likes me
>customer comes in, girl starts acting really shy. Is barely able to talk properly to him
WTF she was never with this with me. She's flirty/teasing with me but she seemed smitten to the point of losing her senses with this guy
Did she find him more attractive than me? He was shorter than me and this girl was very obviously attracted to my tallness but still wasn't ever like this with me.
We're never going to see him again but I'm starting to doubt it all. !!!!!!
Anyway my gf cheated on me and turned out to be a piece of shit. Logically I can look at the whole situation, all of the facts and can agree that she is a piece of shit. However it feels like emotionally I can't accept it and I have no clue how to change this. I KNOW I'm better without her but it's like I don't FEEL as if I'm better without her, if that makes sense.
Can someone please help? This shit is mentally fucking me
>start showing her attention back
>all of a sudden recoils the attention she gave me and only responds when I show interest
What happened
>bullied to hell and back because I was fat
>lost all the weight
>fast forward a few years
>still feel like a fat piece of shit even tho I'm 64kg (141lbs)
https://youtu.be/V1IY9FLtA6U?si=fz9ICE09wWszQtRk
>Go to the gym. I don't care about your copes or if you post the bald manlet with a beard and baby face. The gym will make you physically, mentally and visually better and even if its by 1 point thats still a net positive.
>Do not fucking listen to womens advice. I cannot stress this one enough. The end result of this is you being groomed into a beta loser who will never get laid or be respected and if by chance you do get a crumb of pussy she will never treat you properly. You will be a stupid pet end of story.
>Do not take advice from women on 4chan of all fucking places, avoid generals here like ATOGA. The last place you should be getting advice from a female is this shithole of all places. These women are far more busted then the typical female you meet online and they will groom you into just being a fucking idiot who doesn't know how to interact with normal females
>DO get advice from whores. Stay with me here: Actual whores who know that they are whores and own it are unironically the best advice givers on women. A family member of mine worked as a stripper and an escort, she knows what she did and owns it. I have unironically gotten some of the best insight on the psychology of women from her and they will give you valuable insight on every women you come into contact with. They will also be able to tell which women are interested in you and who to take your shot with or whos been eyeing you up like a piece of candy in public.
I'm a male and I'm attracted to only other men. I've tried dating women, but to no consequence, I feel absolutely nothing.
I'm conflicted because I'm a devout Christian and I don't know what to do with my feelings. If I married a woman it would be unfair to us both. I've tried to "fix" myself, to no avail.
So, I'm either to live a life a celibacy or follow my own passions and instinct. I know their are arguments about Biblical scripture, but I first and foremost want to devote my life to the Lord our God.
Any advice on how I should go about my life? I don't think I can change my orientation, but I don't know what to do with my life. I started drinking heavily about 15 years ago, when I failed in my straight relationship.
Please, any advice you can give would be most appreciated.
I told all of this to my doctor about 2 months ago & they made an appointment for me in a hospital's sleeping clinic. Which is at the end of august (3 months waiting time because my country took in so many immigrants our health system is failing). And it most likely won't be a diagnosis the first time either (they didn't tell) so it's gonna be another few weeks / months ontop of that for the diagnosis appointment for me to find out if this is what's causing my problems. And only after my insurance will buy me a CPAP machine which I can't afford myself (& they will only buy if I get diagnosed with obstructive sleep apnea)
So basically there is nothing I can do to fix it in the next 1-2 months. But I am sick & tired of not having the mental energy to be productive & just sitting around as a useless NEET all day. This shit is fucking killing me & making me depressed. I have genuine interests & am passionate about stuff but I just can't do anything other than watch time fly by & me wasting my life which is already way too short. I naturally have a sense of 24/7 urgency because I know that I'm probably not gonna get old & I wanna do as much as possible before I die. But like I said I can't right now. It's making me go insane. I want to live, not be functionally a vegetable. How the FUCK do I cope with this?????
However, when I was job hunting in march, I went to a recruiting agency to look for industrial jobs since I am in college for welding, and manufacturing would look great on my resume. That agency recently contacted me, offered me an assembler position with a pay bump, and benefits.
My issue is, I let them know a week ago I was still working for AZ, but I am due to start at that job this monday, despite me being scheduled for this week at my current job. I have a good relationship with my managers there, and I wish I could give a 2 week notice, but I have to quit.
What would be the best way to quit on an amicable note?
I'm dating a Latina, I always dated latinas, I only had 1 white gf in my life.
She is lovely, caring and gorgeous. She has a few red flags but nothing serious for now. (We have been dating for a few months now, so I might still be at the "she is so perfect" phase)
The thing is that I cannot see myself having a child with her (or any Latina).
I am white, blond and blue/green eyed. I want my kids to look like me, and all those traits are recessive, so the chances of a white blue eyed kid is very low.
I swear to God that I'm not racist. I just want kids that look like me.
I know that what I am saying and thinking is fucked up, but I can't stop thinking about this.
Please talk me out of this mindset. I can't talk to anyone about something like this, not even my therapist.
I think I've been depressed for years but now it's affecting people around me I care about. I managed to get married last year and my mood just makes me want to be alone all the time making my wife unhappy. Work constantly stresses me out and I have nightmares all the time about it. I'm extremely underweight on top of it all and struggle to eat when I feel this way.
The solution here is to get over myself, I know that, but I can't get myself there.
Any anons who managed to turn their lives around? How did you manage it? I feel like an asshole 24/7
Recently I deleted every thing. Still I find myself walking around, looking at walls, or unlocking my phone in an infinite loop out of habit. What the FUCK is wrong with me and how do I actually study? I even do that shit when I have to eat because I don't wanna do the dishes for example. I'll spend hours walking around and looking at random shit on my phone or listening to music instead of eating out of laziness. Give me a plan to become normal again please.
Its a tough journey moving out of autist but there has been progress, wish m luck boys
It's might be a long shot as most who have bought it probably don't post here anymore.
I've got a gang together to bounce from the beast coast to the mellowest coast. The motive for the trip is to have one of our friends see the state to prepare for the possibility of moving there.
He works in a demanding field and it was small coup getting him to take a week off from work so, now we need to make the most of the time. The problem? None of us know much about the state so I thought I ask the guys here for suggestions on:
1) Interesting places to go
2) Worthwhile events to attend
3) People to meet
We are going to start in the northern part of the state near Mt. Shasta, make our way to the coast then head south. This will happen in the middle of next month, August, but that's all we know. Alot remains unwritten...
/adv/ice?
It's over.
The moment I stop initiating texts, and talks, he just stops, he doesn't give a shit. And there are times where we were playing games together and going competitive mode to rank up, he ranked up to a really good level and doesn't even tell me about it, when he was hyped as hell before.
>ends up bleeding
How can I remove ass hair without being a retard?
Is there anyone here with a success story to share? Someone who actually did follow up on the advice they got and really did succeed? Or invented their own methods? Tell us how you fixed your social life, if you did
When they catcall them
When they try to date them etc
Does dating a tomboy fix these issues?
Yet, when it comes to porn, I am almost solely attracted to women. I masturbate pretty much only to female masturbation videos or lesbian, unless speaking to a sex-bot. When looking at naked men, even if they'd be my type in person, I feel almost nothing unless I am REALLY in the mood for dick (like once every year or three?)
I'm just curious, what the hell kind of fucking sexuality is that? Here are some tl;dr facts
>I'm a grill
>I do have a boyfriend, so I do feel satisfied in the cock department
>I'm asking a porn-addled question, but I'm not actually addled (well maybe right now with the bots, but over all watch porn maybe once a month)
>Have had sex with women, I know a lot of women in real life I may have no instant attraction to I would be soaking wet for if eating them out
>I am extremely attracted to both 2-d and 3-d women in porn
Anyway, I am just curious because it's so bizarre. I'm conservative, but I do understand sexuality is sliding scale, but mine just seems so fucked up.
I used to think all the BBC/blacked/BNWO shit you see on 4chan was 100% bullshit, but since I went to college I've overheard white women making fun of white men and in one case even saying she couldn't even imagine her baby being white.
I really want to believe they are just virtue-signaling because it breaks my heart more than any "height and face" blackpill ever could, but honestly I've lost all hope in humanity long ago.
Also, this is not a BBC spam thread, so fuck off if you want to post blacked shit.
what do i do
im scared and it didn't smell like weed
Im typing with my grilfrend but im got Concern when she Tell me , im wil copy it and put here
I enjoy watching r*pist and torture p*rn, hearing the painful sounds turned me on
Sound im angry, conserd idk we not yet met in reall life and that freak me up, because its not normal for me and idk where to go to help, no google rearch give me answers so im posting here. Pls im need some help/advice of im should stop it.
How do I cope?
I had a big gaming group of friends among many groups, all playing a popular MMO, which works out really well for me because its a super social outlet while working remotely from home. Especially where I live, and being in my late 20s, there isn't really a better way to meet people for me at the moment. Met a girl who infrequently hops on and we immediately clicked and got along really well. Months go by of harmlessly watching shows together, playing games together, talking for hours, etc. Mutual friends were fearful that we would start getting closer to the point of intimacy so she had been getting guilted to avoid me due to jealousy among girls. She ended up abandoning a bunch of friends for the sake of being in control of what she does and chose to hang around me as much as she wanted to. But word around the friend group that was common knowledge is that she was divorced for a while and then used to date someone else from the same group for a short time. They didnt work out due to the other guy being disinterested- he had knocked her up once and made her abort shortly after. Later, he did try and get back with her but she had sternly chosen to be with me instead.
1/2
You know the shit I'm talking about?
Do I make up a reason to not see her? Don’t want her to get the ick by thinking I have bad hygiene.
Faggots like rupaul are sick, they have a sickness in the head. It is disgusting. A MAN wearing WOMEN'S CLOTHES and prancing around like a clown. I hate it.
She recently asked to exchange phone numbers, so things have gotten a bit more personal through text...
SO. I learned that back in 2020 she got pregnant from some guy she waited tables with at an Italian restaurant. This guy was habitually unfaithful and developed an alcohol problem, yet she stayed... Her "final straw" was when he grabbed her neck in the car, kicked down the front door to their apartment, and then smashed the baby's crib before passing out drunk. She says he now lives out of state and that they only communicate once per year when he attempts to see the child.
I'm not comfortable with them communicating AT ALL, and don't believe that it's only once per year. What is the best way to start diffusing this whole interaction and go back to our work duties as normal? Find another job?
send help
Ever since we were young, horny teenagers, we have mentioned now and then how it would be hot to have a threesome. I always made it clear that for me it would have to be with women only, and she agrees as she says she wouldn't like to be with another man anyways. We were one another's first everything and have a very strong bond.
For a while, as we entered adulthood and had a lot of things to sort out and worry about, the threesome talk never came up again, being just a distant "fantasy" of ours. Recently, however, she brought it up, as we have been travelling through our country every so often, have accumulated wealth (individually) and she finds it a good opportunity to find a girl with no strings attached in the places we go to.
However, I have no idea how to initiate this kind of thing and/or if I should even give it a go. I fear I might have performance anxiety, which to me is fine since I still want my girl to enjoy it if it is something she wants to try out, and I know I do a good job even without using my penis.
We are in our mid 20s and not particularly attractive (I'm a 7 or 8 on a good day, so is she) but we are tall, well-spoken and wealthy (individually and collectively). My girlfriend is fit while I am skinny fat.
What would be our options if we decide to go through with it? Tinder? Swingers' places? Go to a party and flirt up girls? I believe my girlfriend would have to be the "wingman" and do the initial approaches since girls have a white flag by default with other girls.
Any ideas or opinions from someone who has done this?
I think the comedown of the last week nonstop vaping is gonna be hard. Ive been reguarly vaping for only a year, usually a 7k puff vape last me for 3-4 weeks.
Any tips from smokers who managed to quit? My current 15k vape is on its last leg right now:
Absolutely love my girlfriend and everything about her she is perfect to me with 100% certainty and I love our relationship dynamic and including her autism.
HOWEVER, there is a discrepancy regarding my love of her possessiveness.
She has a tendency to go into a jealous rage to a point of going into full on melt downs if a woman is ever mentioned in conversation or ever interacted with positively by me. I again love her possessiveness.
But As much as I love it I have to acknowledge this level of envy is really bad for her mental health. I want to know if there is something I can do. I want her to feel security in me and peace. I don’t want her to panic. I can see how much it distresses her and It’s not that I don’t like her possessiveness, it’s that I don’t like how it detriments her and makes her feel. It’s also accommodated by her terrible self image issues (which she is stunningly beautiful and well endowed beyond regular women so it hurts that she sees such terrible perceptions put on her by her abusive exes)
Will this level of jealousy get better over time together? It’s correlated to trauma of being cheated on by exes. Will it get worse? Is there anything I can do to help her feel the security and the love I have for her be so absolute? I have two long term female friends, and I’m afraid this might eventually bleed into them eventually forcing me to remove them.
But I will do whatever it takes to keep my girlfriend happy. I love her so much. Any advice besides “leave them lol” is appreciated especially by other autistic people regarding a similar issue they’ve also conquered.
If I must disconnect from every woman and abhor any and all interaction with them then so be it. But I don’t think it’s good for her to always worry this way.
I grew up in a real strict Christian home. I was homeschooled because my parents thought I'd pick up worldly values. My homeschooling was done on the computer though since both my parents worked so I kinda grew up on the internet too since I had no supervision.
I'm a newlywed now, and never tried sex until my honeymoon and I just...want a lot more? Like we had sex four times that night, twice the next night and every night after until we got home.
Now I try to get him to have sex with me, and my husband is like "I'm sore" or "it (his dick) needs some time to rest". I feel like I'm going crazy because I restrained myself and I was good all my life and now when I'm supposed to be able to do this as much as I want my husband is just not going for it and I'm really frustrated. Since we got home from the honeymoon we don't have sex more often than once a day, and rarely more than five times total in a week.
I told him all this and he tried to act like it was a medical thing, like he couldn't perform that often so I asked if we could get him Viagra, and he got upset. Then he told me it wasn't normal for me to be so horny and now I just feel dirty. I thought I was supposed to get to finally cut loose and now its like my whole future is set in stone and I'm just not feeling great to know he barely has any sexual interest in me.
Anyway, I have this friend online I talk to sometimes. She's a lesbian, but we still get along pretty well. She offered to send me some stuff to help me "handle it myself" but I worried it wouldn't be appropriate to accept that kind of stuff from her since she's a lesbian.
I’m very stressed and agitated and not being able to sleep is making it worse, and I have fucking work tomorrow. Fuck this gay earth
Any weird tricks anons???? Should i hit myself in the head with a rock or something
AVOID, i am afraid
>Reconnect with relatives
Avoid, ashamed
>Do my hobbies
AVOID, too involved
>Social events
AVOID, stressful
>Chores to do
AVOID
>Assignments
AVOID, overwhelming
>Debts to pay
AVOID, ashamed
>Bank error
AVOIOOOOOID
I seriously need help. I am so scared of everything that I run away from it. Obviously I need to “JUST DO IT” but I can’t manage my emotions long enough to do it. this is a pattern in my life.
On a more joyous note how do I become more optimistic if standard advice doesn't work if from a realistic viewpoint things are bad while I'm actively trying to change my environment ?
Many thanks in advance /adv/
Dad bought a couple for his personal project but didn't go anywhere with it, so I'm trying to find second hand buyer with his permission.
Local electronic store don't know what to do with them. And they won't take it off us without slashing the price a lot. It's Taiwan made top of the line stuff.
Never tried selling online before. Ebay?
All I hear is that "it's a warzone out there", and the classic top 1% of men take the lion's share, and it's honestly confronting.
I have no idea where to start, or how to go about it. I've signed up for POF & Tinder in the past two weeks, kind of a test-out-the water situation, and the only matches I have had have both mocked my display picture, which I've attached.
As much as I am looking for genuine advice, it would be reassuring to know that I'm not totally repugnant and alone.
My two friends think I am autistic.
Enjoys: exploring London by tube, would like to take up tennis, existential despair
23/M/Near London
cord: centre5
Jannies get lost, this is for advice purposes
Any advice on getting friends who I like?
19 neet
All I feel like doing is making game mods on my pc and never leaving my home
how do I have ambition in life.
>This may take the form of symbolically or literally re-enacting the event, or putting oneself in situations where the event is likely to occur again.
I need today's brightest anons to weigh in here. How does one choose the new path, not the familiar one?
Does returning mentally to a traumatic situation help us master old wounds/understand what went wrong? Or is it futile and damaging?
B.F. Skinner: "The difference between rats and people is that when the rat gets shocked at the end of the maze, it doesn't go back." Yet people do.
So my best friend of >10 years just told me they don't really want to be friends anymore as they essentially have outgrown me. It especially sucks since my ex took our shared friends in the breakup.
What now? I have zero connections and I am far too autistic to know how to make new friends.
>finally we meet, everything goes right, we hold hands and kiss
>keep talking on whatsapp after we meet but suddenly one day she says “tomorrow i’ll answer im having a bad day”, then next day she sends an audio about how busy she is
>days later i ask her if i can call on the telephone her
>she rants about how busy she is, that she has had a heat stroke, that she is very busy on her job, she is ill, she just found out her aunt has cancer
>”don’t think i didn’t want to pay attention to you but im exhausted due to being ill and busy”
>”i felt very comfortable in our date,, it went as planned”
>”and i want you to know that you seem to be a very good person”
am i being friendzoned/ghosted or am i paranoid? may she be dating other guys or testing me?
and pursue some type of career. My living situation has me disorganized and feeling stuck. My graduating gpa was trash, I’ll admit that. I was on probation the last 2 years of highschool so I ended up going to some alternative independent school. I never got to talk to a counselor about college and my mother and father are uneducated losers barely making it by themselves so theyve never helped me with that either. I worked immediately after I graduated but that fell apart the beginning of this year. My mental health isnt any better either, I feel dumber but I do miss the structure of school. I miss learning, being able to take notes and learn things and turn in homework all that shit. But I also have a goal currently, to get my grandmother out of her old apartment and living somewhere better because for some reason none of her 4 children have managed to do it themselves. While I want to prioritize my livelihood, I really just want to make sure my grandma can be comfortable man shes getting older. So I guess my question is:
>What major/career should I pursue to knock my goal out the fastest?
I know it’s unrealistic. I wish I could do drop shipping, gamble, stocks, hell even pimp myself out whatever the fuck to get money fast and then worry about school later but I dont even understand how that works either. I just want advice on anything that would get me out of this hole so Im not useless anymore
Is there any help? Should I really take the pillpill?
(1a) Can I legally record my own conversations, audio only, at my place of work?
(1b) Is my particular place of work considered private and thus recordings would not be permitted?
(2) Should I record these on my private phone or work phone? (somewhat related to 1b since information recorded would typically include info considered confidential by the company)
(3) What is legally the best way to respond if this coworker yells at or berates me again?
Should I get a free consulation with a particular kind of lawyer? Is there someone better to talk with?
For some background: this guy is a ticking time bomb. He has had numerous incidents of yelling at and being aggressive with coworkers, in addition to sexual harassment claims filed against him by others, but the union always protects him in the end from being fired. His mood flips on a dime and I'm scared of him. If I can eventually get him fired, great, but this may just end up as evidence for employer's comp if I feel I have to find a new job, if I'm eventually physically injured by him, or if I end up having to file a lawsuit against the company themselves.
I have never consulted with a lawyer before, so I'm primarily looking for WHERE to get advice on how best to proceed in the meantime without accidentally digging *myself* into a legal hole. I want to start recording audio on my phone anytime I am in the work area where I have to interact with him to have evidence of his next inevitable blow-up, but I can't figure out on my own whether one-party consent applies to my particular work environment. I am close with the manager for the location and he has expressed his hands are essentially tied when it comes to this guy, so I think talking to HR will only harm me in the end by triggering this guy permanently against me to make my life hell.
Thank you
How do I deal with university idiots who think they're smart and big because of the closeted nature of how university works?
I'm a student that is transferring to a very prestigious public uni in a month. I've had mixed feelings about university and higher education. I'm a first generation college student, but am regarded as intelligent.
Having been all my life an independent learner, I haven't been able to really associate my ego with what I learn or what grades I get. I have just had an interest in things, and have gone deep enough to know things well
Getting graded on stuff based off arbitrary rules isn't fun at all. I know that the system is standardized for a certain reason. What can I do to avoid, challenge, and dominate people who make university their whole personality? Understand I say dominate because they would not hesitate to throw me by the wayside to look good themself
I value myself on other things, like my good works, self care, and how I do things in the world
How can I do it?
>inb4 distract yourself
It's been 10 months. I've distracted myself. She is on my mind constantly. I'm OCD about guilt and such.
>inb4 therapy
I'm in the system, trying to find someone who can help.
Can anon give me good, tailored advice? I would be eternally grateful because it's been 10 months already and there is no end in sight.
>Practice tantric sex, sexual meditation, Edging, and pursuing more and more intense orgasms
>Can usually have a deep meditative orgasm that lasts like 2 1/2 minutes where my muscles contract and is sheer immense pleasure
>Other day I'm with my partner, I edge for like an hour
>Feel my orgasm coming and it's time to release
>Most intense nut of my life, feels like I'm ascending to heaven. Shooting thick ropes of cum everywhere
>Suddenly sharp, scary pain shoots up through my gooch, groin, and lower abdomen
>Worst pain I've ever felt
>It goes on for a solid minute or so
>She gets up and calls ambulance
>Turns out, I came so hard that I tore the orgasming muscles of my "Pelvic floor"
>Doctor gives me meds and says I can't fap, fuck, or do cardio exercises like running, jogging, etc (Nothing that involves the legs.)
It's been a few days now and my groin and abdomen feel better, but I can't fap. I shouldn't even want to but I'm starting to get in that stage where my penis is getting hard for basically no reason. How do I distract myself?
Last Episode: >>31691566
I trained my ass off for months In smash bros ultimate, tool Ls and some Ws aplenty at a local venue we went to.
It was all for the dream con smash tournament (with a 10k prize to boot, but i really wanted to do it to PROVE myself)
And now I get told pretty flatly br the TOs that the spots are filled up and I can't even replace someone who doesn't show up (Boss's rules apparently)
Despite the fun and people I met from training in smash, my mind feels frustrated almost as though I wasted a couple months of my life (just turned 26) grinding this game only to not play it at dreamcon.
Fuck.
What the fuck do I do now???
>also want to note girlfriend is in mario kart tournament and we both trained in the house for our respective games and encouraged each other, it was fun and honestly romantic. However my gf wanted me not to mope about this