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And just to get some point out of the way...
>Just ask her honestly, bro
I’ve done that like three times now
>She’s cheating bro
She’s not
>Try experimenting, bro
I do and whatever we do she says she prefers slow and gentle missionary every time
Also side note, she says she’s never masturbated before which sounds like bullshit but she also has zero knowledge of vaginas so I don’t even know what to make of that
Anybody else, men or women been in this spot?
Fuck. What do you do about problems you can't solve, that you can only distract yourself from?
Recently broke up with my gf of 15 months and felt really bad about it, she cheated on me, not all the way but she did. Because of that I'm in a bad place mentally and don't consider myself worth it, I've only had 1 gf before this ex and both of them were the ones making the first move. I thought that I lucked out and will never have a gf again.
Now there's this girl from college who is considered very pretty by others even though she's not my type at all, she's also very bitchy, basic, I'd even say dumb and just all around not a very good person. She took a liking to me because she tries desperately to be alt and I'm the only edgy/emo looking guy in our course. She sends me stupid normie memes daily, dms me sometimes just random stuff like making fun of a dude she turned down that day and I was kinda cold texting her, keeping distance, I don't want anything with her.
She calls me over to watch a movie and chill, because she's home alone, I had a strong idea where this was going. At some point she starts talking about a hard experience of hers with a friend and starts crying, I hug to comfort her, she hugs back and afterwards kisses me. I return it and we start making out, nothing more although I do grab her butt. She says she doesn't want a boyfriend (but that may be because a few days earlier I said I'm not looking for a gf) but wants to have this fwb(?) kind of relationship and I say yes under pressure and even ask if she wants to come over another day this week.
I had 0 confidence in myself because of the break up and just wanted some quick validation. I don't want to be with her, thankfully she asked me not to tell anyone at college but she'd want to be friends at college probably. How do I stop this without being rude? I don't want anyone to know I had anything with her ever.
Do I just play along a few times and then just break up? How? I will have to go to college with her for 2 more years I made a mistake.
Everybody says "Go to therapy" "Get help" "It gets better" but I think everybody also recognizes that if you reach your early twenties and are dealing with the exact same serious issues you have always dealt with, you are probably going to suffer with these things for life.
(I'm happy to elaborate more, just want to keep the post reasonably short.)
I am going to therapy and I have had one session so far, but I don't know how much seeing someone for an hour every two weeks will fix me. I have gotten to the point that I'm jealous of the criminals who plead insanity, because they get these long free psychoanalysis sessions where somebody really can tell them what's wrong with them, and I don't even know where to look and I'm sure I'd have to pay out the ass.
Anyway, all advice is welcome, just be honest. Thanks everybody.
>boss (CEO at the same time) doesn't communicate by written, everything is done verbally
>I write emails asking for information and he doesn't reply. Actually refuses to write stuff to me because if it's in written it could be used against him.
>He forgets stuff constantly and keeps changing what he said and claiming that I just misunderstood it.
>I'm constantly busy writting stupid emails asking for information to give our customers but nobody cares to provide me with it.
>customers are spoiled motherfuckers and in the current market situation where there's a lack of supply of most materials, they expect us to do the impossible
>I've had customers insult me on the phone, mind you that these aren't random joes, but purchasers from multinational companies.
>Can't fucking take it anymore. I feel like I'm between two walls that pressure me all the time, either the stupid co-workers and boss or the rude customers.
>any tiny mistake is immediately made into a big fucking deal and I get yelled at by the boss.
I'm exhausted. Furthermore, I get home and all I can do is mindlessly stare at my TV, since I have no energy whatsoever to do the stuff I used to like doing in my free time.
No joy in life anymore, I feel empty and nervous all the time. I even dream of the stuff at work and get intense nightmares.
What should I do?
any advice?
I am in the Republic of Finland, and I get into an argument with an Anon from the United States of America. Angry, I include "i am going to find you and i am going to rape you" in my comment, with absolutely no intention of actually doing anything.
This may break the United States law and thus be against site laws, but I don't care about that.
What I care about is that is there any legal consequences for the threat when I am doing it to an anon from another country via the internet?
And what if I do it constantly every day, threatening to rape a hundred anons internationally? Of course, I have never raped anyone and I have no intention of doing so. I merely find the reactions funny.
I like her a lot and she really likes me, but she’s really liberal whereas I’m more centrist/slightly right leaning on certain issues like gun control and abortion. I typically avoid bringing up politics with her (mostly because I don’t like talking about politics in general) but she just assumes that I agree with her on most things.
I’d like to think that we can come to a mutual respect about each other’s political beliefs because we like each other so much, but a part of me is worried she’s so far left that she may be unable to overlook even minor political disagreements.
Is it possible/sustainable to continue dating someone with different political beliefs or is it basically doomed from the start?
>spent my entire life focused on study and job
>now doing comfy work from home job in nice appartment
>on track to be millionaire by next year doing honest work
>eat well, dress well, keep everything in good working order
>something is missing though
>absolute zero social life
>no IRL friends, family is oceans away or dead, never go out except to jog and get groceries
>so removed from a romantic life at this point relationships feel like some otherworldly fiction
Alright so how do I get my turboautist self out of this and get a normal life now? I've made it, I beat the rat race, where do I redeem my coupon for a wife and kids? How do normal people even socialize? How do you make friends now that college is over?
I have hobbies but it's all autistic shit like shooting, chess and philosophy. Help.
I have always been for her as a "cool uncle" but honestly seeing how is she being raised by two incompetent lesbians breaks my heart, im ready to recognize i fucked up, but it's too late for regretting, back then i only thought "cool i will reproduce without paying for it" And well I was only 21 years old, i wasn't really mature.
My kid "knows" my love and interest for her surpass the intention of a "family friend" but she doesn't know I'm her biological dad, we made an arrangement beforehand to never tell her I was the donor. How do i proceed from here? I know i can't tell her I'm her dad, and I can't raise her the way i would like. My friend is also tired of me being so "clingy" with "her" daughter. The child likes being around me but I'm in no position to tell her the truth or take her live with me.
I'm 36 years old, never married, haven't had other children, i have always been overly narcissistic and never loved anyone, never truly allowed any female in my heart, instead i got obsessed with money and hard work, but my daughter is an exception to the rule, she is my blood and my legacy, i just want the best for her, should i repress these paternal feelings? How could i even do it? I just can't control it. That child looks like my mom, and despite my resentment for my mother I still love my daughter because of their resemblance.
She is indeed my child. And i love her for it, but i know I can tell her so. How would she even react? What if she hates me for it? I just don't know what to do.
I really care for this girl, I would love to have another chance, I really wanna change. I really want to break no contact, but I think that is not a good idea. How can I maximize chance, of us getting together?
I am 95% of the way through the process, I've been told outright by a psychologist that I am autistic but higher functioning and I'm not sure whether its worth completing the process and getting the formal diagnosis or not
Basically
>I'm 27m Bonger
>No problem holding down a job
>Some issues with routine and executive function outside of work
>Some sensory issues but nothing massive
>Get very fixated on some topics for a few weeks to months a time but this usually isn't a problem as such
>Cannot ever tell how I feel inside, like I have a hard time recognizing when I'm sad, angry etc.
>Main issues are in socialization and maintaining friendships, being awkward in conversations etc.
>Still don't really have a friend group though I've joined some clubs etc., no prospects of a relationship though I go on dates occasionally
>Two points above are the main reason I sought a diagnosis in the first place as I've been unable to solve them on my own.
I started this process to learn some stuff about myself and hopefully get help with some of the social problems I have, at the end of the process I have learned a lot about myself but apparently I function too well for any of the social support available to be relevant and the only real benefits to me would be if in the future I was discriminated against in work or something, which doesn't seem likely, also my employer offers to pay for therapy but seeing an ASD therapist requires an ASD diagnosis, which I might want to do at some point.
The only downside seems to be that if I applied for some jobs that require enhanced vetting in the future it would turn up and may potentially be a disqualifying factor.
I can't decide whether or not to go through with it.
TL:DR Retarded, but not that retarded, get official tard stamp or not?
I figure there's lots of autists on this board so I'd ask here, cringe pic related is my experience trying to search this topic
>Got new job making 75k starting that started this week
>so far the job is cushy and I don't know what to do or feel
Is there something wrong with me? I thought college being over would be the beginning of my life but it just feels weird and slow now. I'm happy to not worry about papers, tests and finals but it feels weird to get a job where I realistically only work 5-10 hours per week and bill 40.
I have no will to do anything productive.
I just stay here browsing the same 4 boards aimlessly waiting for tomorrow so that I fuck up the exam and get a bad grade.
Am I a lost cause?
>you slave 60 hours a week and can't even hold a conversation, despite "just going outside" for years
How do I cope with this without going insane?
>have 1 (one) friend in our entire class of 25 people, and he is the popular guy who doesn't need me, probably just feels pity for me and lets me stick with him
>last year of college have a fallout with the guy, now I am utterly alone
>Come back home after giving exam, haven't had any contact with from my class for the last month
>College decides to take us on a trip to a hill station since it is our last year
Should I make up with my 1 friend guys? This is the last opportunity of this kind I am going to get. Or should I just wing it and hope I will somehow get accepted by some of the 25 people? Last college trip was the most traumatic experience of my life, I was alone all the time while my friend had so much fun with a group in which there were 3 guys and 3 girls. I am feeling like I am going to regret it if I go and regret it if I don't go. This is the last chance. Should I just swallow my pride and go back to chad with my tail between my legs?
Other than other dispatch centres & management, what other decent paying jobs have transferrable skills? It doesn’t even need to be front line work, could be 9-5 desk job drafting policy or some shit.
Pic rel is me, I’m also a full time discord mod on the side
>qt, rich, and has a great relationship with her dad
>Have sex with girl four times on first date
>she literally begs to hang out again
>I return enthusiasm
>get ghosted in less than a week despite making plans
Why does this happen why was I just used in someone’s character development
>bad at studying theoretical subjects (dropped out of university several times)
>bad with people
>bad with numbers and minute details that require rigor
I'm fucking worthless, it's like I'm meant to be a fucking neet
Help
>see her often
>start being attracted to her
>find out her name through some means and look up her socials
>stalk her
>never end up talking to her
Why am I like this
I live in Saint Augustine Florida and there's a fort near this college downtown. I have heard that students sometimes fuck there but never seen it myself until now.
Riding my bike at 9 pm at night but it's well lit. All of a sudden, I hear what sounds like a little girl yelling in the distance. I go in that direction and right when I turn the corner, I make instant eye contact with this big black guy fucking this skinny white girl in missionary position.
As he pounded her, he kept eye contact with me and angrily said "get the fuck outta here nigga." I don't even think she noticed me because she was in a trance, probably at the end of her orgasm or some shit idk.
Now I can't get the image out of my head. Any tips on what to do would be appreciated, thanks guys.
>have no social life
>have no friends
>haven't dated
>obese
>depressed
>stuck in a shitty town
>still living with parents(long story)
>no car, no job, no place of my own, no career, not a dime to my name
Why are people telling me that I'm fine and things will be ok? Am I really the bad guy for just admitting that a lot is, and has been over for me? Or is it just the normie bullshit optimism I've became tired of? I'm not happy where I'm at in life either, and I've had a lot of wasted time and set backs, I just can't admit it? I don't think that I have that great of a future ahead of me, or if at all.
>don't know what to respond but "thanks"
how do you properly accept a compliment?
i'm tired of feeling used and unwanted as anything other than a cumrag.
feeling very down rn.
am in danger ??
>the market collapses, jobs rapidly disappear and the country is about to enter an economic crisis
My biggest mistake was to think that life isn't just a big joke. Anyway, how much alcohol would cause a liver failure?
How do I know what hairstyle works the best for me?
Yes if I tried hard on dating apps, I may find a below average looking girl looking for a relationship (of course after she’s slept with 5 or 10 guys before me) but I will never be able to get the easy which sex with hot girls that chad gets. Prostitution allows me to get this.
Am I doing anything wrong?
Can any of you guys help me out? Does any anon here know anything about suppressing cancer as much as possible? I remember reading some advice from anons talking about not consuming any carbohydrates (especially sugar), going on an alkaline diet, and something about chlorine dioxide. I don't know much else.
I'd really appreciate any advice you can give me.
I’ve wanted this Woman for so long and she used to like me but I just don’t know what to do. She isn’t mean. She isn’t cruel or something, but she just will not talk to me and I can’t understand how she can not care. Yeah I met her online, so does that mean none of her friends online matter either? Why am I the expendable one? Is it my physical appearance just not being good enough to warrant putting up with my other issues?
I’m not angry, not trying to sound like an incel (I wanted her to like me again, I didn’t care as much about sex) I just genuinely don’t understand. It’s been really harming me and I couldn’t do this to her if it were her instead of me. I hold zero anger towards her, but I genuinely don’t understand why we can’t just repair the problems.
I think despite what she said, she views me as less because of my emotional problems. It’s just that I could be gone tomorrow, we’re both here now, we can both talk, it seems like such a waste not to repair things.
How do I overcome this? I know that just sleeping around and never settling down and having kids would make me unhappy, but I don’t really feel ready to marry someone when I’m so un-
>we start dating
>she tells me she can deepthroat and has no gag reflexes
>im amazed but take things slowly with her
fast forward 1 or 2 weeks later
>she starts sucking me off
>i slowly go deeper but she stops me when my cock is half way in her mouth
>she starts to cough and gag
she never got further than half of my cock
why do girls do this?
We've spent lots of time together online, everyone knew in our friend group we're going to date or already are.
We're officially a couple since may, and second date was my birthday, and i've gotten absolutely the best cake and b-day i could.
She's an absolute keeper with lots of green flags (no social media, never uses phone on our dates, very commited, always responsive and willing, very intelligent), and she lives only 40 km away.
She is extremely shy though, i'm going very slow, and she's opening very slowly, i was going to kiss her and say how much i care about her today, but i guess i should only go for a kiss.
I've only kissed her on the forehead for goodbye to make her feel safe and secure.
I'm reluctant to say i love her yet, not because i don't feel that way of her, but because i'm afraid if it's too soon, i've only confessed to one girl before in my life, and the following break up fucked me up for years.
I've only met 3 people in my life with whom i've really clicked my ex, my dead best friend, and her.
He had hopped between several agencies since we last spoke. “It’s a toxic environment”, he said. Indeed, recruiting agencies are notoriously bad, so I didn’t find that statement too alarming. I noticed after our phone call that he removed most of those previous positions from his professional profile, however.
“I want to move into your industry. Do you have any advice?”, he asked. I spent the next thirty minutes being interrupted every other sentence. It quickly became clear his problem was poor communication skills, especially as he opened up about not having any friends and being asked by his last manager if he was autistic. At one point, he brusquely stated “let’s wrap this up — I have a life to get back to and we’ve spent, like, thirty minutes on the phone”. I spent the next minute or so going along with everything else he said to end the call out of disbelief.
He wants to meet up tomorrow evening at a coffee shop far away from my neighborhood. He wants to bring his laptop so that I can show him how to code. To recap, I offered him my time over the phone, as well as my time tomorrow both as a tutor and friend.
The sad truth is that his problem exceeds hard technical skills. He doesn’t know how to communicate, and he doesn’t strike me as particularly bright. I want to overcome these harsh judgments and help him; however, the rational part of my brain is screaming “don’t waste your time — cut all contact”.
What is the moral thing to do?
If anything, I have feelings for him. No other guy has liked me that way before. Maybe there have been other guys who liked me, but none have ever been so overt about their interest in me. We’re still social media friends, and my hope is that we can get married and live happily ever after together. Another thing that didn’t help was that at the same time, a guy that I really liked had a girlfriend. He kept the fact that he had a girlfriend from me, and I was so disappointed. So I redirected my feelings for my crush onto this other guy
I know it’ll be rough. Given how confident he was with me, he likely has done what he did to me before. I admit, I’m a virgin, never had a boyfriend before either. I want to have sex so bad. I know he’ll likely hurt me really bad, but he said that I’m the most beautiful girl he’s ever seen. He told mutual friends this. I want to get married to him and be financially dependent on him. I want to be pregnant with his children, and have lots of babies with him. Knowing what I know about him, he has some abusive tendencies, but not to worry. I won’t let him hurt our babies. I’ll redirect his anger and frustrations on me. No one has ever loved me before, and he’s the best I can do. I don’t want anyone else, just him.
Completely burned out and decided to quit my job a couple months ago but nothing is going forward in my life. Thought that taking some time off would help me but I'm barely able to get out of bed recently. Depression is just going deeper day by day.
They basically hire anyone without interview. Think it's a good idea to work there or it'll just fuck me up even more?
Now I’m 30 years old and my parents still remind me of how retarded I was.
They don’t care about my awesome job or current life in general.
Nope. Every time I see them they just wanna talk about how retarded I was 10-20 years ago.
I see them maybe 1-2 times per year.
Why they do this?
Do I suck it up, make fliers with my personal info and bring them to people's mailboxes and local businesses? If so, how extensive do I have to be to have done the right thing?
Or do I just keep going to therapy, continue to not act on my sexuality, and keep it to myself.
I'm slowly rejecting her and being a jerk and not explaining why, and she's getting really hurt.
I feel like I can't stop. Also she is incredibly annoying.
All this, yet zoomer women my own age don’t give two shits about me and never give me the time of day. I constantly hear from the office ladies shit like “oh wow you’d make a girl very lucky you know”, and yet I either get ghosted or flat out ignored by girls if I ask them out.
What gives? It honestly makes me just wanna fuck MILFs and let these young roastie whores rot and get fat.
I'll keep things short.
Because of the inflation, war, and how the polish government handled things I wasn't able to pay for rent and loans, I got kicked out, because I already had been not paying my rent in full, because it jumped from 250USD to 600USD in just three months. I have a family to take care of. Already filed for bankruptcy and contacted social services.
I had to get 1500USD to pay the loans, I managed to get 800USD, and I need 700USD more, I do have a full time job, and a part time one, from which I took a paycheck in advance, I also managed to find a gig in night time inventarization, I'm currently staying at the office because my boss agreed to that.
I need 700USD as a loan, which I'll pay back in two weeks. We can exchange details over email, don't really want to post it here on the bard. I'm really in need of help and fast, some loans are already overdue and I have to pay as fast as possible, getting the 700USD would take my about two weeks, but I can't just wait.
>no motivation to actually do it
What’s wrong with me?
I'm always the one initiating conversation; does that mean they find me kinda annoying and don't care to reach out to me, or are they just like a bit autistic and need me to take the lead?
And like, if they still reply to me three quarters of the time, that means they still like me and I shouldn't worry, right?
I have been crashing at my friends place pretending to go to work for the past week. I feel bad about this, what can I do for the 9-5 time instead.
I have achieved self actualization and I generally live a happy life.
The problem is, I am reaching my 30's now and so far I haven't achieved any glory.
It's not like I haven't been trying hard enough. I work a fulltime job. I work extra after coming home on my sidegigs to create wealth.
On side, I also run some social media channels to raise awareness about stuff.
All this hard work for last 3-4 years and I have nothing to show for.
I haven't generated any wealth, I haven't been a cause for someone else to have an improved life. I haven't made even the smallest dent to the bad stuff in society.
I worry that whatever I do, things remain the same. Nothing changes and this is starting to get me. This was my first anxiety attack and feels like more is to come.
What do?
Also, what do I need to eat to cure the anxiety?
I know I should just be alone with my bad thoughts more, but facing something so unpleasant is easier said than done
Problem is, there are almost no programming jobs in my city (I'm not in America or Europe). One solution is to move to another city, but that means higher rent cost and everything else.
I started learning python before university, and did a bunch of practical stuff.
Do you think I could make like, $10 an hour in freelance?
>ask some girl out who i really like
>mentally prepare to make moves
>we meet up
>she asks me how am i, etc..
>then i ask her
>she said "i was outside yesterday, then i slept over at (some guy's name)
>i connect the dots and die inside
>some time passes
>we go to our homes
>i check her ig account
>she posted a shirtless story around 00:00 (you could only see the collar bone and up)
>giga psychological damage
How do I stop this dreaded feeling? I have other options, but I really wanted this one.
>year 11
>one more year to go
> no fucking clue what im going to do once i graduate
the only hobbies i have are weightlifting,drawing , watching films and anime and playing computer games, ive been fucking around in school since i realised i could just fuck around and get Bs by barely working except for math which id always either get c's in or flunk. now im hearing math will make up the majority of my ATAR. what am i gonna do bros im fucking lost i dicked around for the last 11 years and now i realise im fucked. what to do bros
>larping nazi
>not in a cringe way but in the /fa/ way
>I just like the aesthetic
>literally my fucking fetish are cute artsy jewish girls
How can i get one and not betray my aesthetic and vibe?
We have some years of difference but nothing dramatic (she is legal).
Would it be too 'weird' to add her on Instagram? Fact is that we have different routines, she studies I work so I rarely see her.
How do you do it /adv/? My aspieness takes the best from me..
I've come to the conclusion that liking women just ends in depression, at least for me, as a person I'm just not good with other people but I've been complimented on my looks a number of times and I'm convinced it's the reason any woman shows interest in me.
How the fuck do I stop liking women? Why do I desire to have someone special? Why can't I just be alone? What do.
How the fuck can I make friends with, or even date a women?
What kind of hobby or skill can I pick up to socialize and join a friend group?
What is the correct response?
And why would a girl even ask this anyway?
I know he was here all the time
I don't know what he was doing here or what he was looking for
it is so hard for me to realise that I lost him without knowing why….
can someone help me trying to understand…… it is heartbreaking I miss him
I suppose given a specific numbers to achieve... how do you then derive the content you need to deliver to achieve that specific number? It seems without such basic knowledge, a work of art tend to simply, floatabout, not up to standard.
what do i do to constantly add more to my quality and not underdeliver?
t. 24 yo virgin
>notice that I have below average looks, average at best but definitely not good-looking
>average body build
>few times got close to having sex with a chick
>few times I fucked up and other times idk what went wrong but the girl became uninterested
>don't see that much different girls in general in my lifestyle routine
>just a bit before covid started I didn't try anything at all
>Reasons: was really busy w/ quite some things in 2020 and 2021 (finishing a difficult BSc, actively trading, researching about financial markets, dropshipping)
>other reason (biggest): being afraid that no girl will ever like me
>some few moments in that period I talked with a few girls, countable on a hand
>got conversations going but never saw subtle signs of interest
>recently turned 24
>actual wizard age gets closer
>me fully realizing that got me really interested again in trying
>was on vacation recently in a party clubs area
>again, no signs of interest of any of these girls (~5)
>in club one girl was interested in speaking with me at the beginning, her hot friend saw that she talked to me and when she said something to her friend (couldnt hear, hard club music) she physically repulsed looking at me and didn't even speak to me at all. The latter made me sad when I saw it happening and the former wasn't interested anymore shortly after
>back home
>made Tinder acc
>only 3 likes on first day and zero on the second: I missed one, one really ugly 40 something yr old and I matched with one girl
>sent her pickup line 'hey ... let's play 2 truths one lie
>reason: both our bios are about that game
>no reply and she unmatched shortly after
>same profile on bumble, 0 likes
Idk what else to do guys. I know that the way to give attention is an important factor (give it only at the right times and not too much, didn't know that in the past) and I can also say with confidence that I'm not a dumb fedora tipping nice guy. I'm okay in social settings. What else can I do?
There are several things that I simply will never believe and will never entertain doing. But, unfortunately, these beliefs make me a social pariah in 2022:
>i don't believe transgenderism is real. i can tolerate trans people but i will never "celebrate" them and i cannot ever believe they really are the gender they say they are
>i don't believe BLM or other such movements are in the right. i don't believe rioting, burning down buildings and cars is acceptable no matter what cause its for
>i don't believe making edgy jokes is the worst thing ever
>i don't believe cancel culture is morally correct, no matter what the reasoning is
>i don't mind LGBT/"pride" culture but i find it annoying and don't really want it shoved in my face all the time
>i don't enjoy social activism of any kind, i don't want to protest, i don't want to "start a revolution", i think all that kind of shit is cringey and weird
>i think climate change is worrying but i don't want to think or talk about it 24/7. i hate people like greta thunberg because i find their arguments extremely depressing
So what am I supposed to do? Unfortunately, I was born into a generation (Gen Z) which 90% of holds the exact opposite opinions to me on all the above topics. And if I ever reveal what I really feel to my peers about these topics, they will cut me off and seek to ruin my life by any means necessary.
At one point I held out hope that this social justice ideology among my generation would just be a fad and they'd grow out of it, but it's been years now and it's only getting stronger. So how do I cope? Do I just have to accept being a social outcast forever?
But my gf says she is unhappy with her appearance and wants to change it to feel better about herself. The thing is though she is focusing on things about herself that are perfect in an unhealthy way, but neglecting healthy things she could do to look and feel better. She tells me she wants to get a boobjob, nosejob, and lip filler. But in all honestly I think all of those features of hers are perfect.
If I could totally be honest with her I'd say that all she needs to do is exercise a bit more, eat a bit better, and maybe buy some fresher better fitting clothes. I think all of those things would help her look and feel better and they are positive changes unlike surgery. But she is completely neglecting all of these easy and healthy changes to instead focus on dramatic ones, what can I do?
She's 20, I'm 24. We've been together for about a year and a half and it's been going great so far, but I just can't keep up with this. I feel almost ashamed to admit I just want to rest.
This sounds like a shitpost but I swear to god this is real. What the fuck do I do? I'm afraid of really talking about this because I know she has self-image problems and every time I signaled I'm not in the mood she took it really bad. She thinks it's because she's "ugly" or w/e.
Now its been 3 years since i made something that wasn't just to blow off steam. How can i rediscover my passion?
Sometimes i feel that way even though people say how attractive i am but i have the lowest self confidence because every time i start talking to people i feel alone in this world. Are they lying to me? That i'm pretty because i don't get that vibe from men? I see women boosting other ugly women online all the tiime. I don't know anymore.. i have no one, i feel like a freak. I wont show what i look like here because no one will believe me i think i look average so according to you guys i shouldnt struggle and i have it easy, but i dont, i feel lonely all the time even around others. I have social anxiety disorder so that also makes everything difficult for me and men approach me but find me weird shorty after because of my S.A.D.
What are the best programming languages and general CS skills for that, what should I be focusing on?
I already know I should be comfortable with git and SQL
How the fuck do I get out?
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I may have a certain degree of ADHD but I'll exaggerate since I'm only interested in the drug.
What do I have to say? No nonsense please
My toilet sucks big time and cannot handle my massive poop. So I have to wrap my hand in toilet paper and reach in and break it into little pieces.
Is there a better, more sanitary method to doing this? Maybe latex gloves?
Earlier he confronted me over looking at his mail because I saw he had applied for unemployment, when we share a mailbox, I told him to fuck off fifty different ways, and he kept sniveling, so I told him to kill himself.
He is generally the definition of a chud, he's 45, girless, and constantly asking basic bitch questions.
Am I correct in telling him to kill himself? He got offended after I've tried to spell it many times that I really don't like him or care for him.
I've put up with his immaturity for a while now, and he keeps confronting me like I give a fuck about whatever stupid bullshit he's gotten himself into. His recent venture was buying a vehicle that had a blown transmission, transporting it around with AAA, registering it, and trying to sell it on craigslist, only to have someone break the steering column trying to steal it. He got rid of it after hitting every branch down. FUCK.
Besides that, watching news also brings in more suffering in the form of worry. It always seems like that violence is going to increase exponentially, poverty is going to increase, a war might happen, climate disasters or other doomsday scenarios happen. It's all fucking tiresome.
I also got addicted to watching gore videos on /gif/ and ever since I got hooked up on that my mental health has been wrecked. I feel shallow and wrecked all the time.
I am taking Prozac, which improved my day-to-day function immensely, but besides that, I am still a wreck.
I want to be happy and content, like a normie. HOW?
I repressed any feelings I caught for her and saw her as a friend for a couple years until this guy started acting like an asshole to some people from the group and some suggested to fuck the girl in order to take him out of the group. NOW, I don't support this and find it ridiculous, the friend that proposed it doesn't even really think it would work. But still, I started wanting her again. I know I can't orbit her because it pains me to see her with another dude. I don't think the "be always with her as a friend" is a good road, even if some friends think it is. I'm thinking about cutting a bit my chatting time with the couple. Maybe just spend some time with her from time to time.
And when they break up I'm gonna ask her out, not immediately but a bit after it happens. I'm gonna be seeing other women meanwhile but I really wanna be with her.
When an avoidant withdraws to the point of ignoring a text or two, how long should you give them? I'm not in a relationship with her, but she's my crush. We got extremely attached to one another for a bit over a month, and I don't think either of us processed it at the time but looking back it was a bit much. Neither of us had space, and we were ontop of each other. We weren't dating, but we clearly loved each other.
The past 2.5 weeks, she's withdrawn. I talked to her last, not last week but the previous week and she was texting fine and enthused. Only seconds to reply, very lengthy responses, etc.
I texted her a few days later after that, and she ignored it. I gave her a week to kinda relax, and I texted her on Friday just saying "Hey haven't heard from you in a little, how's things going?" and she's ignored it. It's Tuesday now.
I realize avoidants just need space sometimes, and I personally am similar. It didn't click with me until I got into a fight with my mother, where we argued, I withdrew, and ignored her and she kept texting asking why I was ignoring her and I just closed off more and more and more until I lashed out at her. It was unintentional, but I just needed space. It's been 2 weeks and I am still not over that withdrawl period.
So I'm not sure, I can see it from the other end. But if it's someone I love and I know may leave my life if too much time goes by, I get a bit nervous.
If it was me, I'd at least want her to text like a "Hey, I realize your need for space. And I want you to know I'm here when you're ready to talk."
But I am afraid of texting it in case it pushes her back further.
i’ve had this reoccurring problem whenever i have sex. I cannot cum when i’m clapping cheeks and it takes me really long to bust ( if i do ) {1 hour +} usually i end up jerking my self off to bust and im fucking tired of this. im in chronic need of help? should i quit masturbating completely? can anybody help me ?
It's been four days since our last exchange on email
>go about my day
>nothing on my mind
>nothing is happening
>PANIC!.jpg
>next hour+ is spent completely on edge
How do I even cope?
>strong emotional bond
>flirted and touched her and joked with her and stuff
>isn't attracted to me romantically/sexually
Wtf? How? She's bisexual and tends to favor girls, so maybe that's it?
I feel like it is but i would like your opinion.
She’s 25 years old, and behaves like a rebellious 15yo. Not the cute, childish way, but the cringe, edgelord who avoid any and all responsibilities and says it’s your fault for everything way. The way she is right now, I don’t think she’s going to be able to hold a job for longer than a week.
All of our friends who also care about her are also struggling with her because of this, and I’m afraid it’s just a matter of time before the cut her out of the group.
She doesn’t have a regular sleeping schedule and goes to sleep whenever, staying awake until 10 in the morning to play vidya, she often falls asleep during uni, she skips meals, she speaks rudely, worse than a truck driver, and if you try telling her anything like “I’m really worried about you, you should start fixing your life” she’ll reply “mind your own fucking business jfc”, and will brag about her answer online to the only two people who see her as a goddess who’s never wrong.
She’s seeing a psychologist, albeit for separate reasons, so hopefully she might get awakened, but sometimes I feel like the psychologist might be only fueling her delusions, especially when it comes to her “controlling parents”
As if that weren’t enough, she wants to become a teacher, and tell kids to stand up for their ideals no matter what, and to behave like she does. While it sounds great on paper, I know it’s going to end up in lots of kids being bullied as they grow up, but I don’t know how to make her realized that unless she actually experiences it herself in a few years, and even then I’m afraid she might keep going saying it’s the system fault, not hers
Anybody got any advice?
Realistically I still won't have any, until I become a rich. Which is soon. But I could start planting the seeds elsewhere.
If I were rich, I'm definitely having white gf already for kids. I'd probably bribe her.
>live with parents under strict rules that lowkey piss me off
>make 400-700 a week at my warehouse job, depending if i want to work long hours or not
>only have 1k + 2 cars worth 5k to my name
Ever since high school let out, I've just been wagecucking and wasting time with vidya and media consumption since most of my friends have moved on with their lives with college and having a kid. Not that it bothers me in any way but considering that the housing situation in my area is fucked, i'm getting tired of working at my job but i have no where else to be, i don't even know what i want to do with my life apart from getting the fuck away from my parents.
Any young anons feel this way? Where you're doing okay with life but nothing interesting has happen lately? Just knowing that were already halfway through 2022, i just feel like i could be doing something better but i don't know what. What can i do to get rid of this misery-like feeling?
Here’s my problem, my car (Corolla) cost $70 to fill up and it only last me maybe two round trips. Which means it cost me $35 a day just to get to work.
So I’m spending $140 a week on gas, + my insurance $400/m + maintenance, means I’m spending about 1000 a month. Priced in CAD, thanks Trudeau.
I don’t want to quit my job, especially since I get paid to sleep, but I know that if I applied to the bigger hospitals in my city, I’d be working non stop.
Tl:DR: Currently paying $1,000 to get to work. The work is fantastic, the specialization is interesting, the work life balance is fantastic and the people are great. Do I hop to a less interesting “general treatment”, but higher workload hospital where I’m certainly just a number, but be able to get around using a bus pass (~$60/m)? I’d still keep the full coverage insurance on my car, and I’d probably still spend the same amount on gas except for vacations and road trips instead of work.
i don't have insurance (wtf is an enrollment period? XD) or money for good doctors and i'm not sure what i would even do with a diagnosis
about to go on a swank diet i guess and look into some other possible treatments i've researched before
anyone have experience with this?
>during meals
>while playing video games
>while watching shows
>while talking to friends online (both texting and video calls)
>while trying to take a shit
It's not like my friend tries to give his dad the silent treatment either. He talks with him normally every day concerning news, politics, work, shows, etc, but he literally cannot get even 10 minutes of silence to himself as long as he is in that house. Moving out is not an option for him right now. Additionally, his dad is in rather poor health so he's wary of doing something that may worsen his dad's condition. My friend is constantly torn between guilt and exasperation. Wat do /adv/?
>misspell captcha and lose whole thing
>mfw
It’s shit I get tired of seeing but I’m afraid of throwing away because I need it. And again I’m not messy or a hoarder, but there’s always that minimal level of “stuff” around your house that you probably aren’t interacting with.
Does anyone else deal with this problem? Do you ever just throw shit away? I would but then I feel like I’m being wasteful, and I also hate that.
I don't own a car and not planning to get one any time soon. Insurance would cost me 4k euros.
Worst case scenario I will have to pay 1200-1400 for rent per month because housing crisis.
>Mornin Anon!
>How's it going?
I make small talk but does everyone else not think small talk is worthless? Am I an emotionless retard? I don't want to be rude but me and her have had the same conversation every day since I've lived here.
>Oh looks like (blank) weather today!
>Those plants are looking real pretty!
>Another day wageslaving!
These aren't real conversations, at this point it seems condescending. Does everyone just accept this? Am I just an overreacting retard?
>send out resume
>get back results a week later
>over 500 people apply on average for the jobs
>try remote work jobs
>over 1000 people apply on average for the jobs
>even when employed I can't get a response
>the one person that wanted to set up an interview ghosted me before they set it up
What the fuck am I supposed to do now?
