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>never blatantly said anything over the line to her
You’ve acted over the line. Actions are more real than words, OP.
>Today I went to lunch with her
>Holiday party, spent 3 hours sitting together talking
>At other events we always talk too
>We ended up holding hands
You’re emotionally cheating brotha. The only thing to make it a full affair is dicking her.

>At the very least we are good friends
Nah, it’s a borderline situationship. Friends don’t feel what you feel for one another. They don’t hold hands and cozy up together like you have so far.
>I don’t really like my wife anymore
Yeah, that’ll happen when you give another woman your energy and not your wife. A man cannot serve two masters; he’ll hate one but love the other.

>she’s become unkind, unsupportive
Who wouldn’t? Would you be kind and supportive to someone who keeps themselves open for other men to woo them? Also consider when someone is emotionally fawning elsewhere to someone else, they withdraw and go emotionally distant. I bet your wife has said this to you too, that you’ve been ‘emotionally distant’. You become distant when you spend your emotions on a woman who isn’t your wife.

>manipulative
With respect to you, you hide an emotional affair from her. You manipulate out of necessity to keep that hidden.

>Nobody has confronted me yet, but I feel it’s coming
So confront yourself before that happens.

You made a vow. Better or worse, sickness and health, death do us part. Does it mean you grudge through hard shit with wife and let it stay bad? No. What it means is you repair and work on bad shit with the wife, together. And you can’t do that if you’re distracted by another woman. So cease contacting the other woman.

Or, go for her and lose the marriage and all you built, break your own vow. And then hope this doesn’t repeat with the new woman (which it will, always does. Novelty wears off).

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