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did i miss out on some of lifes formative years? ik this board is full of boomers that are like oh if youre 17-18 how are you complaining but that doesnt solve anything, i spent 10-15 as a hiki pretty much then i dropped out and became a full one, i dont like this life and my brain feels too fucked for me to do anything, everytime i try to think about it my brain circles back to suicide since its easier, ive spent 24/7 of supposedly my last bluepilled years as a neet incel begging to god to die in my sleep and doing nothing else, its not time waste since i wouldnt be able to do anything else, this notion that im old now fucks with my head because it feels like i never got to be young, maybe picrel is stupid shit that kids wanna relate to but still, im too old it feels like and i have brainholes, and the neuroticism about my past just makes me rot 24/7, also im from some shithole so dont treat me like im priveleged or nothing, idk studying seems insane to me now i was caged indoors by what, thoughts? insecurities? retarded parents? i feel like its a nuisance if i talk to someone irl so i dont because my mind berates me all the time, i get times where i just want to escape my flesh ig, but yea im retarded brains not the same cant live life etc etc, cant believe im such a clown with such low iq i wasted like years on ocd and retarded 4chan posts trying to solve a nothing problem
A. Turbo Whore'd
B. Have an only fans
Like I'm goth and I haven't whore'd or have any intention to, why the fuck is it so hard to just not sleep with hundreds of people or merchandise your body. Back in the day being goth was a fashion, an interest, a style.
Now every whore thinks oh theres demand for this and took over the fucking style/life. And now its severely warped due to this and now even real goths turned to turbowhores and have commitment issues, when it was about looking at this droll world together and saying "this shit sucks" but in such a dramatic fashion. Now they just submit to it.
I keep trying to date and I rarely match because they're rare where I live. It makes it all the more harder when I do match, and they hit me with "Oh i have an onlyfans btw" or some conversation later they hit me with "Yeah but i'm done with my hoe phase" But it makes it so fucking hard to find someone to actually wanna be committed. One bitch even told me she had HERPES and was like "it shouldn't matter to you, don't be a poser this world doesn't matter anyways right?"
WHAT THE FUCK DOES THAT EVEN MEAN I DON'T WANT THAT SHIT.
The only exceptions to this rule are the "goths" that are super fat and ugly as shit, but i assure you if they were hot they'd fucking run straight to the same shit. Someone needs to tell these fat bitches becoming goth isn't a fucking save all be all and doesn't fix the fat you're mostly hideous.
What the fuck is a male goth with a semblance of monogamy and dedication supposed to fucking do? I'm not going to submit to this societies hyper sexualization its one of the primary reasons I even went this direction of hopelessness due to it.
I've already taken my blackpill obviously, but i didn't think it would go so far as to die alone.
Being a male goth with any set of morals fucking sucks dude.
Are we just an endangered species?
Not even just hope, but will and energy to be the dancing monkey to get a gf. I still kinda want to have one, but how do I bring my motivation back up?
I have a date tomorrow and while she seems cool, I literally can't feel any excitement or energy to date anymore.
I'm not sure what I should do. I could return it, but I don't really want to then get a more expensive amp. Maybe I should pay the difference myself, like 60 bucks for another amp that might be better. At the same time if I'm gonna get tired of this and want to get rid of it later, maybe I should get an amp to keep long-term. What should I do?
However I am a complete mess since she has broken up with me. I never had a taste of true love eventhough I have been with 100s of girls in my life. I wanted to marry this girl and I was, and probably still am, willing to die for her. That's how much I loved her.
I'm doing the usual works, No contact, gym, dont visit their socials and so on. Try to see other people. But it has been a month and my dreams are horrible, I sometimes wake up screaming I think where I try to grab her hand. I can't really focus on other people.
Just here to vent and ask how much longer before my life becomes normal again and I can try to become happy again?
i dont want to live anymore. how do i kill myself and make it look natural?
inb4 move out, im in 3rd world where its 100x more difficult to move out.
She has feelings for me, we haven’t talked about it, but I know it’s true, and family and friends that have met her have also noticed her infatuation with me, so I don’t think I’m wrong to assume things.
Her boyfriend told me he is planning to propose within the next month.
I don’t know what to do. And maybe there’s nothing I can/should do since it’s not my place, but I have known for a while she likes me.
Her and her bf’s relationship seems rocky, I see that they don’t talk, they mirror a lot of the same things my ex and I went through because of this lack of communication.
Do I risk the friendship by calling her out and telling her to talk to her man? Or do I sit idly by and see how things unfold.
how i realized i was ugly? i posted a picture of me asking if i could pass or become a hon , most replies said that i won't pass
peronality wise i'm a manipulative piece if shit i never hurt anyone but that's just the way i am
i never been in a relationship before and i know i shouldn't because of the person i am , nobody deserves to be in a relationship with an ugly manipulative fuck like me
i want to kill myself because of the disgusting thoughts i have, what should i do? i don't want to be like this
She is writing stories and drawing the characters so i made a plugin that pops up one of her characters randomly with scary sound. Sort of a screamer. But i added an obfuscated line that sends her tokens to my telegram bot and i am in her almost 10 days. I cant help this. Its not that i am insecure or something. I really knew that hse is not doing something behind my back and that she really loves me. I just had to. I have to know her better and closer. I cant help this addiction i have. Its not the first time. I hack everyone and i abuse the trust that they have towards me. Before you ask no she wasnt doing anything and that what fucking upsets me. I read every single message of hers with her friends and stuff. She always admires me and tells them how HOT i am and stuff. Sometimes she talks with them about her ex girlfriend and ex boyfriend and how much they hurted her.
She is very unique and so angelic. I feel so guilty that i broke the trust but how can i tell her that i did that. Of course i will not tell her for some months if she doesnt find out it herself. I am trying to protect her. I am doing something good. BUT DO I ????
III AM TIRED OF LYING TO MYSELF SHE LOVES ME AND I LOVED HER EVEN MORE AFTER I READ HER CONVERSATIONS. I FEEL CREEPY AND SOO FREAKYYY. I AM SORRY MY GIRL IF YOU EVER WILL FIND OUT IT I REALLY HAD TO DO THAT BECAUSE I CANT HELP THE PARANOIA.
I FEEL SO FUCKING SHITTY AND THE FACT THAT SHE IS CLEAN AND REALLY LVOES ME MAKES MY HEART FUCKING EXPLODE. I AM SORRY I DIDNT WANT IT
WHY I AM LYING YES I DID WANT THAT YES I DID WANT TO GET THE CONTROL BUT I FEEL FUCKING AWFUL AND THAT I AM THE ONE WHO BETRAYED YOU. YOU ARE THE NICEST THING THAT EVER EXISTED. YOU ARE NOT A WHORE AND I LOVE YOU EVEN MORE FOR THAT. SORRY AGAIN.
How to recover?
I feel like I'm constantly spiraling. I'm alone, I hate my job, I hate the city I live in, and all my friends live too far out for regular hanging out. I can't leave for at least another year though.
I've been getting back into shape, trying to exercise my creativity, and doing my best to try to like my job and meet new people, but I've only been having success with the first one. I caught myself looking up local gun ranges so that I could pop myself in the head real quick. I don't think I have any mental illnesses but I think about killing myself pretty much every hour of every day because I can't conceive of things ever getting any better. I feel like I'm standing still while the world around my is on a one-day-per-frame timelapse.
How do I make things better? How do I learn to be normal and not want to kill myself?
That this is how you get them to like you. It's not like someone told me that specifically, but I always had this belief.
Is it really that common for losers to think this way? Why is it? I am autistic btw.
>women aren't capable of loyal love (women don't want to be loyal to them)
>women have nigh-destroyed the institution of family and marriage, abandoned their husbands, refused to have kids, and forced employers to hire them at gun point
>women are evil succubus that trap the weak-willed man
>western white women intentionally spread HIV/STD
>women's accountability (whatever that means coz no man has explained it coherently)
>she's not yours. it's just your turn.
>they whine about guys get abused by their girlfriends
>30s women "hit a wall" and they can no longer "pull" attractive men, and that these redpilled men will date 18 year old women when they're 35
RP and BP content is for bitter men who want to cope. Do these men (and pearl) realize that there posts frame men in such a horrible light? Do they realize that this just gives reasons on why to not have a traditional life for a girl?
Redpillers nowadays mostly seem content whining online about women, WMAF, cuck porn, BBC and Chad
Is it really just be yourself?
Women are fucking stupid.
They are a burden on your mind and on your pocket.
Even the good ones are fucking retarded. I'm married to a "good one" and she's a pain in the ass.
And you know how much power they will have over you if married and you want a divorce.
Fap instead of sex. Save money and time. Focus on yourself. Improve and strive to be better and stronger in all things. Keep your money and resources.
Women are nothing but trouble.
Life is short. Don't let them take years off of it.
Go after them at your own risk.
From my end, I think she never blocked me (or if she did, she unblocked me) and I still have her number. A few weeks ago I broke up with my gf so I'm feeling a bit lonely. Do I give it a shot? Is it worth it? I guess the real question here is, what are the chances she'll even entertain the idea of talking to me again?
Friday just happens, Saturday just passes by, and before I know it it's Sunday. Back to work.
>psycho parents stole some of it from me
>can't move out until 10th of may
>close to suicide anyway
>plan to risk all the rest of my savings on amazon stock, hoping that it will go up after 30th of april, so i'll recoup my losses
Would you say that amazon is quite a safe bet (as much as a person can judge a volatile stock market where fucking tesla stock goes up), all things considered? I'd post this on /biz/ but they require e-mail or some shit now just to post.
(Get it of your Chest)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9gDJXfKg-s
In 3rd world countries, the life quality is bad, yes. But people are also more free and even happier.
Is there a correlation to that?
If you don't get 7/10s and 8/10s consistently, please refrain from giving stupid opinions.
I don't even care about 9s and 10s because those are in a differebt mindset towards rich/famous guys and top 1% chads, but if you somehow pull those, please chime in
Context before answering:
I am 33 male been single for 6 years.
While I've faced challenges, I'm actively working on bettering myself and my interactions with others.
Most comments to me feel dismissive of my experiences and struggles, and I'd appreciate it if you could all refrain from making assumptions about me.
Also here is a story from my 20s which proves it isnt all in my head:
I was at a club one night and two women started talking to women and making fun of me. When a woman walked past they asked if she would fuck me (bear in mind here I barely opened my mouth and did not know what to say) and she said "eww no gross" and was freaked out visibly. Later a group of guys these two women were with came over and bullied me as well.
I am already focusing on self-care, pursuing hobbies and interests that bring me joy, and surrounding myself with supportive friends which will help boost my self-esteem and overall well-being.
I also know the experiences I've had, while painful, don't define my worth or my potential for meaningful connections with others.
However my looks and money do when it comes to women and I have neither. That is why I am lonely and insecure.
But it's also clear that I have many positive qualities and strengths that people admire and respect.
It's incredibly tough to deal with rejection and the societal pressure around physical appearance, especially when it's compounded by past trauma and bullying.
Which happy normies, leftists, women and fags (gays/troons) do not get nor understand.
>big bucks
>crypto
>paid whores
>alpha male
>top G
>kickboxing
>steroids
>escape the matrix
Is this lifestyle really worth living? I feel it must be so tiring to live this lifestyle. I mean, legitimately spending every single waking moment trying to prove to everyone around you that you're an alpha male. Endlessly trying to accumulate wealth, power and sex. Does he even spend the time to enjoy any of it?
Tell me I'm coping and seething if you want, but I just don't see how a lifestyle like this is anything but sad.
You all when you get trolls flooding your messages and responses and it's going hurt you and them, ignore them right away. If you notice them interacting they wouldn't do the behavior they do to you to their friends and people they admire. They're picking on you because you're seen as weak along with their social darwinist mind, meaning they see someone weaker they attack but bigger they don't.
or
to have a ton of Debt from education, mortgage, car, ($500-700k) with a decent job ($80k-125k/yr) and a wife but with little to no free time and stressed about finances all the time and no choice but to keep working to pay your bills?
It's not solely about me either. But my parents too.
I saw my mom and step dad last weekend and this morning and I saw my dad and step mom.
And I had a moment where I was like "Holy fuck man they look older..." and it just shook me a little bit
like my dad has always been jacked as fuck and he's 65 now and while he's still in great shape, he's getting visibly smaller and the age is catching up to his physique and it bummed me the fuck out
I love my parents so much and my family is so special to me. I want one of my own someday; I want to give them grand kids and I want my niece and nephew to have cousins and I want to keep our family values and traditions alive
Its so hard to find a wife tho and I don't know if I actually will or not.
Dating is admittedly pretty hard. It seems like good women are also not easy to come by.
I'm not sure exactly where to look or how hard I should be trying to find one
My dad always tells me he never planned or thought much about having a wife and kids, but rather he was just enjoying the things he loved in life and it just kind of happened
Everyone I've met who is married has told me some similar shit like that
I really don't know what to do
she is still on my mind and i think about her, either alot or in passing. is this normal? what do i do?
Does anyone know what's wrong with my thumb? It started out as rough skin a year ago, but slowly got worse until it's like this now! I went to the dermatologist a few months back and they said it was eczema, but I haven't seen eczema like this before.
What should I do? Should I go back to the dermatologist?
Idk what to do? And my current emergency pills (anti psychotics and dayvigo) stopped working.
Should I go to a hospital and ask for some pills and benzos since I'm very close to having a manic episode which I'm likely become a risk to myself and others.
Normies will say kindness or some bullshit like this. I’d say being appealing but what makes someone appealing?
The only problem for me is that this is my first time in a true long distance relationship, I don't really know how all of this works. For instance, we have opposite schedules (she's day, I'm night)and lately we've both been busy, we haven't called once in the last week. I know I should expect these things, but it's driving me crazy with insecurities. Like logically I know we're both just busy and don't have time for a sit-down call, but my head goes to the other possibilities. I figured I'd come here for some input on LDRs before I dump my mind on her like some clingy freak.
i'd contact small businesses like amazon resellers and dropshippers, and ask them if they'd be interested in saving a bit on shipping costs to my area, instead of using FedEx / UPS / DHL to send parcels directly to their customers specified location (which they all overcharge for), they could send it to a cheaper location near it like a warehouse and then i'd pick it up and deliver it to the specified location within a day. I could find the cheapest locations myself and let them know.
I have a car and alot of free time so i can cover a pretty large area. I'd be happy as long as after gas costs i make anything above minimum wage per delivery. Considering other postal businesses are giving their employees minimum wage, gas, AND making a profit, i should be able to do this.
i treated her the way i did because no one deserves to see the cruel side of people (i was once labeled as the "nice guy").
but then she started ignoring me, started hanging out with others that were way less cool, only messaging me if she needed to get something off her chest without room for friendship development.
and yet i dont want to ask because she could be lying about the whole situation and say that she still cares when that may not be true.
im worried af about the future of our friendship bc i dont want to set my world, or her's, on fire.
what should i do?
>I am 21 and in my second year of medicine
>Mother tongue is Italian and English, but I speak French decently and a bit of Japanese
>I'm decent at drawing, but not as much at painting
>At the moment, I am tutoring high school students, but it doesn't pay much
>I can only work part-time and preferably online
Any ideas?
Possibly due to some illness, maybe pneumonia cause I get shortness of breath on and off for 2 months now I never had before with some chest pains when inhaling, especially at night.
I had no time to visit a GP because I want to be done with my Masters and the amount of work and stress has been overwhelming, but I still have 3 more weeks of study and exams.
>What can I do to best overcome tiredness and procrastination?
>What's the best way anons who graduated found to study unilevel maths? Intervals, all at once etc?
>Should I do some simple exercises to wake up the brain?
>Can supplements like ashwaganda/nicotine help? Coffee no longer works.
I think I will try to find a time to visit a GP because its been getting worse recently but its a home straight and I want to make it count.
It's really scares me because this desire to fight wasn't before in my mind.
How to stop it?
I hit the gym daily , but i think that's not enough for me , i do talk to my family but not to the point Where i share my daily life With them .
I hate hanging out With my "collage friends" , but i also don't Want to sit on my laptop all day and surf these sites .
Channers help a fello Anon , With the life advice , and get him feel something.
How to cope?
I have been torturing myself the last two weeks over deciding on which one to commit to but then I thought "Wait, why not both?"
Does anyone have any experience with this? They both like me a lot and I think there is an above 50% that I could successfully orchestrate this.
Thanks in advance. Just one of those Icarus situations yk?
Only thing is: how do I make it sexual? Yesterday I was in a club and had many amazing connections with girls. They really opened up to me, genuinely liked me and we had a great time. But when I get to this point, I feel like there's no way to go "back" and make it sexual. It would feel inauthentic, like I was just pretending to be friendly until they let their guard down. However, if I opened very sexually I would feel like a creep, and it would probably keep me from making these awesome connections. Girls never feel sexual around me, although I'm reasonably fit and have what I think to be a decently looking face.
I also have to admit that while I am confident socially, I'm super self-conscious sexually. I just don't feel like fucking when I meet girls in social situations, I feel like "this is fine", although I know I'll regret it as soon as I'm home alone. Any /adv/? I'd take anything at this point.
tl;dr how do I get proper game
>noticed red bumps/pimples on her back
>was clean and attractive apart from that
>she could barely fit it in her mouth past the head
>blew me for around an hour
>head was mediocre at best
>busted a fat nut and left
>did not fuck her or do anything else
>did not notice any sores/wounds in her mouth or any blood anywhere
Am I fucking cooked bros, can I really receive hyper aids from some saliva on the tip of my penis
I know I am retarded
Quit porn for 2 years and was on no fap for 2 weeks, was not thinking straight
Help
That being said, I'm so risk-averse in many situations that I'm hyperstable when it comes to finances, securing essentials, and protecting myself legally in all situations. I've never even been arrested.
The problem is that I always attract girls that are pure chaos. I know I'm the second part of this equation because I like them too, which is why I'm trying to separate the part of me that's "fun and spontaneous" with the part of me that loves chaotic women. It's always former hookers, former or current drug addicts, BPDemons, trafficking victims, girls who hit me, etc.
How do I attract stable women with good intentions that are caring, selfless, and a net benefit in my life?
How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of those even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro.
>What is /htgwg/ not?
These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard these days, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for men trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, who have given up, or who insist that there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can fuck off to.
BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM!
>How to ask for advice
Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc...
Don't forget to ask an actual question.
>Books and Resources
"Models": https://ufile.io/f/jrw9j (expired?)
"No More Mr Niceguy": https://libgen.li/edition.php?id=143167290
"Mystery Method": https://pastebin.com/cMHcY4dc (old pastebin)
"The Pussy": https://z-lib.is/book/the-pussy-
Dr. NerdLove: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/ (a bit cringe but decent advice)
Leykis 101: https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (something to listen to)
(not all of these are fully vetted, new suggestions are welcome)
REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world.
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I know that it's a nothingburger and like 70% of people have it. I remember having a few cold sores when I was a a kid (5-10 yo) but never got outbreaks in adulthood. but I still feel like the other person should know.
I am scared the other person might freak out and conflate it with HSV-2. and I am too lazy to explain to retards the difference.
i feel it would be awkward if a girl tried to kiss me and I went like
>hold on, wait a second, do you get cold sores? yeah, I get them like once every few years. and they are technically a type of herpes. but not that herpes. i mean it's a different type. etc...
What should I do with my last few days?
Got some mushrooms that I might do.
What would you do if you were leaving
I have an assignment to do with my female friend. We agreed that we will meet at her place. I went there and greeted her mom and we headed to her room to start working. The weird thing that I found annoying is that her mom would bring in snacks every 15-30 mins. Sometimes she would pop into say or ask something. She wouldn't linger that long but it was obvious that she suspected that I was going to harm my friend. I'm kinda infuriated right now. I didn't tell her anything about this. I want to make sure that my assumption is correct. What does /adv/ think?
I just sit there in silence and contemplate oblivion. Sometimes during the day I'll think about the darkness and that sweet eternal nonexistence.
My friend stayed last night and my girlfriend is making a fuss about it, I mean it's not like we did anything weird, we spend the night playing Halo, drinking beer as eating pizza, that's it. What's the problem? And I don't hate myself but even if she was into men I'm quite sure she won't be into me lmao.
Anyway, my girlfriend won't talk to me for the time being, should I apologize or play it cool ignoring her too?
Have any anons ever kicked this kink? How did you do it? I know it's pathetic.
or
How do you deal with the fact that acknowledging certain truths is considered wrong in any context?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LKYDBn9LgNY
Insults are tolerated below (It's a way to decompress your feelings)
Chose to live in solitude
Chose to not date
Choose to not socialize
But that offends people, why? I also don’t understand why you guys who struggle allow yourselves to be belittled by these people to then later in your own space bash yourselves. I simply don’t understand it.
>decide to train mma
>excited to tell my friend
>told him once we went out
>"why? it's gonna be useless, you'll never be mike tyson"
Every time I told him about something that will improve me, he brushed it off or said that's all for nothing. He's also the type who believes that he can beat up most MMA fighters because he has big muscles and is heavy. Claims that he doesn't need to train at all since people "fear" him, a self-proclaimed Alpha, too. What do I do with this nigga? He needs to be humbled.
>see girl eyeing me
>approach her
>we dance and drink and end up going back to her hotel room
>we get into bed
>she tells me I can take my clothes off (in a non-sexual way imo)
>I do
>we cuddle and go to sleep
>she ghosts me the next day
Was the sex supposed to happen then? I didn’t get any indicators she wanted to fuck. We didn’t even kiss much. we made out for a bit at the club but she pulled away after a few seconds each time.
We were both drunk and very tired when we got to her hotel. It didn’t seem like she wanted to fuck.
I wanted to meet her then next day and have sex then but like I said she ghosted.
I've had the coolest friend back then but now I don't even know where he lives or anything else about him, for that matter.
Thanks
However I kinda hate the taste of alcohol. The burn and taste makes me gag. I think part of it is getting used to it though.
That being said, I will literally drink olive juice out of the jar. I love olives and olive juice.
I want to try a dirty vodka martini. But how tastable is the vodka?
What if I make it extra dirty will it taste more like just the straight olive brine?
Also how does the dry vermouth change it? Should I make it dry, extra dry?
I've never had one before, so idek what to expect. But I've always wanted to try.
I'm a straight guy and am attracted to a lot of women, but the ones that would seem "super hot/beautiful/pretty" to most guys just do nothing for me.
Does this sound like she just wants to keep around as a backup if her next guy(s) don't work out?
When I texted her it'd be inappropriate for us to be involved, she asked me how old I was (22), and then said I was still pretty young but is fine with being friends
How unethical would it be for me to "date" her, I have no ill will and wouldn't mind someone being super into me again. Recently I've just felt very alone, and just want someone I can talk to
crack me open a can of pussy" (insert audience laugh)
>be born in some shitty ass city
>fucking hate living in apartment because it’s cramped
>ffw
>like 14 years old and have moved to rural area and live on a ranch
>start going to high school in this town
>back when I lived in the city (particularly in middle school) would often get asked by girls to go to dances/out
>always said no because they probably wanted something out of me (I was right most of the time, when I actually said yes)
>am going to this high school now
>have the mindset that girls only want to use you from past experience
>get asked by girl I low key had a crush on to go to dance
>”oh I can’t I have to go check on my goats”
>I did not have goats at the time
>keep rejecting girls every single time
>ffw a few years and it’s senior prom now
>get asked to go to prom by same girl, I haven’t spoken a word to her since the other time
>reject her
>use the goat excuse again
>calls me a liar and at this point is basically begging me to go to prom with her
>I actually have goats this time
>”oh sure you do fucking prick”
>she walks away
>that summer after I applied to university I think back to my life
>realize how many bitches wanted me
>fuck
>have that girls number after she slid it on a note to me during class
>call it
>she is still butthurt about prom
>is crying/yelling at me after I mentioned the goats again
>hang up
>reflect on life a little bit
>kept my priorities straight
>ffw and I’m graduating with mechanical engineering degree
>move back to ranch and try calling girl again because I actually felt bad even though that was like 4 years ago
>she tried to hang herself, failed
>note she left mentioned me as a primary reason of her attempted suicide
>her family hates me now
Is it my fault? Also she still wants child support from me
Am I overthinking this, or am I justified in this thinking?
Im willing to learn anything and dedicate myself to something, but I prefer if its in-line with creativity. I dont want to start a power washing company because I don't want to do power washing, etc.
I dont want it sitting here and I dont want to put it in a CD. I want to invest in myself/my education/start a company
We run into her a lot... I say hello she waves hello and thats the end of it... I've caught her out of the corner of my eye at various places... she likes everything I post on social media... She gave me a present on my birthday even though I never told her it, she also gave me something on Valentines day. I know who she is, Shes a mute girl, really autistic though she was able to live on her own for a while until covid hit... she isn't mute because of the autism, an ex of hers stabbed her in the neck then hung himself. She isn't threatening, at all, shes not even an inconvenience or anything, shes really done nothing wrong but seeming to follow me and I don't know what to really do about it.
I do know shes drawn me, quite a few times, a friend of mine stole her sketchbook... she was pretty mad at him about it... stomped her feet and smacked him for it... she disappeared for a week, like completely and then came back like nothing happened.
Whats going on? is she stalking me?
>basically an incel all my life
>finally got gf
>sex life sucks
>we are working on it through therapy and experimenting but it still sucks
The thing is, my gf is not a wild woman and never was. She waited until marriage to have sex but then got a divorce. Since then she's had many boyfriends but none have panned out. She's just average woman, not drop dead sexy, but drives me crazy. Even she has had some pretty interesting sexual experiences. I mean we can all agree, incel or not, that women don't have to go searching for that. If they are open to it, they just have to wait for something to come along.
Me on the other hand, I had a few failed sexual encounters when I was 19, and then a decade of utter loneliness and despair. No women anywhere in my life, no self-esteem, and no idea how to change things. I finally worked up the courage to try the dating apps and somehow ended up with this woman. But I quickly learned that relationship does not equal sex. She has no desire for me whatsoever. But also freaks out when I try to break up with her. I'm fitting perfectly into the sexless beta cuck provider role, only I'm acutely aware of it and won't accept the situation.
But can I really expect anything better from life? I went to a lot of parties and social gathering when I was younger. Meeting someone and having spontaneous sex never happened, except for twice, when I was too drunk to perform. And if even my gf has a bunch of sexual experience, then I can surmise that most women will have at least as much or more. So shouldn't I just bite the bullet, accept my 'consolation prize' and the chance to reproduce. At least then I have a chance at a son who isn't a complete loser? Let me hear from other former or current forever alones. Would you hang on to this for dear life or wade back into the freezing waters of loneliness hoping for something better?
Sex with a condom is miserable for me
Problem is, I've been listening to so many advices, and I don't know which one works. They tell me to network, I do at LinkedIn, and now what am I supposed to do with these connections? They tell me to apply to small obscure jobs, which I do, but how am I supposed to know if they are not scams? I looked to many places, Indeed, Handshake, LinkedIn, USAJobs, etc. I went to the career services at my uni, but they haven't respond back. I've been tailoring my resume, and I feel like it's never good enough. I mean, I had a summer internship last year and was part of a Google-based extracurricular, but I see other people winning hackathons or actively working on leaderships or volunteers at universities or elsewhere and I feel like I'm not good enough. Majority of positions I find are either not entry-level or ask for skills and knowledge that I have no idea what they are.
Is it too late for me? Should I just flip burgers or be a gay twink prostitute or dwell in my mother's basement? Is the job market bad right now, or is the problem lying on me? What should I do in the meantime before I get an offer?
The main reasons I think this is the case is because of:
>getting rejected, stood up on date nights and ghosted A LOT
>being 30 years old and still not ever having a girlfriend.
>possibly being ugly.
>maybe they all get turned off the moment I speak due to a few of the visible teethgaps I have, I've been going to an orthodontist for this.
When it comes to hobbies:
I'm not great at this, though I like playing guitar, these are the only two recordings I have on my phone: https://vocaroo.com/1aBYNJpI1WMr, https://vocaroo.com/14Yndhd0oFQJ and I like weightlifting:
The only complements I've gotten where from other guys who said I'm "ripped", "look very strong", etc.
My relatives and my bros think I'm an okay guy.
Though maybe I just don't have what it takes for a relationship?
How do you become the guy that women actually want to approach and desire?
Judging by what I've been seeing, experiencing a lot on social media AND in real life too is that women:
>won't give you the time of day, let alone get to know you if you're not reasonably wealthy or very handsome.
What do you Anons seriously think about all of this?
anyway do I keep up the lie? or do I tell her...
Mind you the lie is getting harder and harder, she references shit I've never even heard of.
I've been applying and applying on his behalf but can't find anything.
Is there any guaranteed form of getting a job that isn't uber or security?
Am I going crazy or is this normal?
What should I do to handle this?
Where do I go? Should I just audit some college classes
how does that make sense? She confuses the fuck out of me. one day shes fidgeting, nervous and intensely attracted to me, and then when we actually talk, she gets dismissive, and avoid me almost like she don't like me at all whatsoever.
one time she saw me talking to this hot girl, she started going to the bathroom to cry. WTF? I don't get it, does she has some trauma or attachment style? They say, if a girl is giving mixed signals, it's over for you, she doesn't like you at all, and such.
My girlfriend's very motherly, caring, always cooks for me, taking care of me etc. Like pic related really. I love it, but it does kinda feel like a mom son relationship. I sometimes worry it's not healthy for me to give in to this so much.
>be me
>highschool dropout
>spend time traveling/hoboing around, camping in the woods (do that intermittently my whole adult life)
>after a few years teach myself 3d art
>eventually get good and manage to get work
>get a decent income, not rich but ok
>travel around europe while working
>this is actually much cheaper than living in the US, as monthly airbnb's in places like eastern europe/germany/northern sweden are cheaper than rent in the US, and cost of food is also lower. I don't have a visa so I have to hop countries every 3 months.
>3 years ago market starts becoming way more competitive, and at the same time have a huge decline in my mental health and cognitive function. as a result no longer able to support myself remotely, have to go back to the US
>the main issue effecting my performance is a bad porn addiction/internet addiction which fucks my brain and attention span and renders me mostly useless
>unfortunately my work demands I use the computer/internet
>have to go back home to do regular low-income work
>now I'm stuck in my homeland of the US, which I fucking hate, and I desperately want to go back to europe. time is rapidly running out
>I tried using a web blocker to only use the web browser from 8:00-9:00, and it's helped a lot, but still not solved my problem
>I think if I managed to quit porn that'd probably be enough. But I don't have a good excuse for that, I just haven't been able to quit
>I'm getting older rapidly and really miserable. I hate my home country and don't feel at home here anymore and can't stand to live here
fuck what do i do
I've gone into new groups of people and not said a word. This makes people think I'm a weirdo.
I've had friends I've known for years witness this and stop wanting to be my friend and hate me. This makes me avoid any group social situation with new people, because I know I'll just shut down.
How do I fix this realistically?
pic related: me, driving away from every new social event
It’s Saturday now, we’re meeting up on Monday for the first time.
Should I just not message anything today, and double check confirmation tomorrow? (Sunday)
Or should I write anything else?
Which of the 2 accents will make a better impression/maximize my chances of getting hired
https://voca.ro/103AkkxD54v5
https://voca.ro/131Y1mGx6x1b
And in general, how likely is it that my accent will affect the impression I make negatively and how badly will it ruin my image?
I commit for like a month and then I taper off completely forgetting about only to recycle the whole process again a few months down the line.
I used to use duolingo but realised that it’s basically a mobile game with how tedious it is. So I’m going to be focusing on using the language books I bought a while back.
What i've got so far:
> Daily Routines/Habits
> Focus on self, not being a people pleaser
> Have larger goals
> Sleep Schedule
> Prioritize Nutrition, Exercise, Relaxation
> Fight unhealthy habits, drinking, smoking, junk food, porn, etc
t. diagnosed ocd and definite autist.
Is 21 too late to change things? I hate rotting in my room all day.
I used to be such a bright child, but people have fucked with me too much and now I feel lost.
I’ve been struggling for a long time with this since I want to forge my own path this way myself, but any desire I have to change is only from temporary motivation.
This happens every other day. What do they want bros?
>Parents are dying
>Constantly being bombarded by crazy relatives who are saying the is SPIRITUAL ATTACK FROM THE DEVIL!
>Constantly being told to pray about it instead of doing anything helpful or just admitting that there is nothing that can be done
How do I cope with tragedy while being surrounded by Appalachian hill-folk that believe some hippy-looking sky jew is real?
>June 2011
>20 years old
>make a group of online friends
>six in the group counting me
>we meet up for the first time March 2012
>from then on we meet up every six months and live together for 2-3 weeks each time
>basically inseparable, talk every day for more than seven years
>September 2018
>decide I want a new start in life
>ghost all of my friends, my group of best friends include
>my friends send me messages here and there for a few months, eventually give up because nothing they say makes me respond to them
>one of my friends continues texting me every month or so
>I always ignore her until December 2019
>I send her the coldest and meanest message I possibly can
>think that she'll be able to move on more easily if I'm cruel to her and make her hate me
>anyway
>though I intended to ghost them forever, I start missing them eventually
>last month I tried to rejoin the group
>one of them tells me that she's written me off and wants nothing to do with me, the girl who texted me the longest says I gave her trust issues
>the others have been pretty quiet, they haven't condemned me but haven't really said much of anything at all to/about me
How do I get them to forgive me and stop thinking of me as some heartless traitor
I don't feel genuinely engaged in anything anymore. Even going to the gym feels boring. I'm starting to fall behind at work because I end up just watching youtube videos or scrolling shorts for a quick buzz. Not sure what to do, don't want to lose my life to apathy. Any tips?